AIBU to feel hurt my husband holidayed without me and baby?

[Pepetheparrot]

To think its a bit off that my husband is going on holiday today without me and his 4 month old son? I have no family nearby and we stay rurally (which was his choice) - its a 20 minute drive to city.

How old is baby and how long is he going away for?

Bit pointless without context really?
Is he away because he committed to a stag or a wedding before the baby?
Is it a holiday with his family and you’re not invited because no one likes you?

Who is he going with?

Tell us more…

Is this a hobby based trip? Did he discuss it with you at all? What is your relationship usually like?

For starters this gives you a strong reason to say you all need to move.

I'm going to take a wild guess that the baby is 4 months old, considering that's what it says in the OP

Chortle

You need more context.
Holiday with friend? on his own? with his family? Wedding? Stag do? etc.

With his family, arranged a couple of weeks ago

Why didn’t his family invite you too?

Well then he is a selfish dick. Does his family not like you ?

Why weren’t you invited? What’s the back story? 20 mins from a city isn’t really rural.

Would you want to go if you were invited?

Where you invited? Did you opt not to go?
There is alot more needed for us to know if he is being unreasonable or not.

I was fine with DH going away with his family for 10 days to south Africa for his grandads 90th when DD was 5 months and DS was 6 years because I opted not to go. Just because I didn't want to go as DS was in school doesn't mean he shouldn't have gone.

I'd be furious.

Depends on whether you were invited or not and whether he discussed it with you before he decided to go? If the answer is no to either or both of those questions he’s a dick!!

It depends if you were invited! Or if there's a reason for the trip that would explain it?

My dp went on a weekend away with friends around that age as a stags weekend and it was ok.

Can’t really answer given on the little information you’ve given

Why weren’t you invited? What sort of conversation did you have about this when his family first brought it up?

What’s the point in posting if you’re not going to just lay out all the information in one go - stop making people ask for every part in a separate post.

How can 20 minutes drive into a city be rural?

Why aren’t you going?

Of course it can be. I would say it isn't isolated, but it is rural.

If you can’t drive and lack of public transport could make you feel rural

We need far more information to make an informed opinion.
Were you invited? Do you all get on well? Etc etc

We’re you invited?

Why is it like drawing blood out of a stone?

How did it come about.

Did he just walk in and declare him and his family are going in holiday in 2 weeks and you have to just deal with it? Or did he ask and you agreed and now resent it?

I would take this as a sign he sees the baby as soley your responsibility, and make some life choices based off that.