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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

342 replies

Magnesiun · Today 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
motherhoodisntfortheweak · Today 17:06

What a savage

Nopersbro · Today 17:07

Given that he got through a whole first date without incident and he didn't just pour the wine out like he somehow didn't know it wasn't acceptable but instead hammed it up and performed, this isn't some innate shortcoming on his part. He either thinks he's a super clever and witty edge lord, or he's trying to get a reaction from you. Basically, he's not mature enough to be dating.

Zero time for that, so I'd just tell him you don't want to continue contact with him, and if he persists, have no second thoughts about blocking.

Maddy70 · Today 17:08

I would have got up and left. That's disgusting

Nofeckingway · Today 17:08

Things to judge a person by is how they treat their mother and how they treat waiting staff. He lost .

MajorProcrastination · Today 17:13

Rude and childish and disrespectful of the waiting staff. Actually, I take back the childish descriptor as none of my children would have done that. Bin him.

Blueblell · Today 17:13

On the grass - wouldn’t bother me but you mention the waitress and a puddle so presumably we are talking inside. That would be the end of things because if he is doing that on a second date then who knows where it could all lead when you really get to know him. Best case scenario he is just a twat but the worst case scenario could be more serious!

pimplebum · Today 17:14

I would be curious and have to ask if previous dates laughed?

did he tip the waitress ?
was it a moment of madness or a regular tactic ?

researchers3 · Today 17:14

LovesLabradors · Today 14:07

Yeah that would put me right off - it shows a lack of respect, and sooner or later that lack of respect would be shown to you.

Agreed! And given that this was his 2nd date 'best' behaviour, I think sooner rather than later!

Carodebalo · Today 17:14

You are not unreasonable and no to a third date. How uncivilised!

Amira83 · Today 17:16

It would put me off. Im not into that type of person. Saying 'Still on that's would just put me off even more. But I think I am fussy about ppl.

ilikeeggs · Today 17:19

Jesus who does that?! So he just expected the staff to clean it up? I definitely wouldn’t go on another date with someone like that

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · Today 17:20

Puerile idiot. Straight in the bin.

YellowMellow99 · Today 17:26

Frostynoman · Today 14:05

Juvenile and lacking respect. Also feels slightly aggressive. It would put me off

You put it perfectly!
I’d definitely dump him!

FelixRyark · Today 17:31

Sounds like toddler behaviour or that of an older person who is drifting towards a dementia diagnosis. If the person is supposedly fully functioning, it is appalling behaviour towards the restaurant staff. How dare he!

I personally, would not go on another date with this person.

Nothavingagoodvalentinesday · Today 17:35

Bin him and find someone civilised.

purplepie1 · Today 17:36

Dump him.

he was disrespectful

he caused a slip hazard and could have caused someone a serious injury.

shhblackbag · Today 17:38

That's beyond weird. Some men are completely baffling. Obviously dump.

hypnovic · Today 17:38

Good lord.
No 3rd date

AlwaysExtraHot · Today 17:41

He either has arrested development, or he's a psycho.

Maybe both.

BMW58 · Today 17:42

What a complete wanker!!! 😮

Fiendishandfiery · Today 17:42

I’m also stunned uou stayed and are even texting him and haven’t told him to fuck off. I’d have apologised to the waitress and left. Did you even sit there and watch her clean it up??

Fiendishandfiery · Today 17:43

ilikeeggs · Today 17:19

Jesus who does that?! So he just expected the staff to clean it up? I definitely wouldn’t go on another date with someone like that

The way she’s writing I think she just sat there and watched the waitress clean it.

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · Today 17:44

That's bizarre behaviour and I would be concerned about his mental stability. I wouldn't see him again.

Nearly50omg · Today 17:45

What an arsehole!!! Throw that one back in the bin where he belongs!

sassyclassyandsmartassy · Today 17:45

I would never have dated anyone that didn't have a basic level of manners.