AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Get rid.

This. The whole thing is batshit. If someone did that on a date with me, I would have ended the date then and there and blocked. It isn’t remotely funny, it’s grossly rude and disrespectful. That you carried on with the date and have to question if it’s ok or not is almost equally as bad.

I would have been so embarrassed and horrified that the waitress thought I was a part of that dreadful behaviour. I would have asked him to clean it up with napkins immediately and there definitely wouldn’t have been another date.

Yabu even thinking about that answer! What a cock. Disrespectful and ignorant. Get rid.

Urgh. What a child.

Naaaah, he's a disrespectful prick.

Get him gone.

What a weirdo.If you had been outside and he poured it onto the grass then its semi acceptable but on a floor inside a pub/restaurant is scruffy and disrespectful.

Did he say "one for me, one for my homies" when pouring the drink onto the floor?

Nah, he's a wanker of the highest order, and he can't even blame it on being drunk. Eventually the lack of respect he showed to the restaurant staff will start coming out towards you, your friends and your family. Throw him back while its easy, @Magnesiun.

It's not just disrespect to the waiting staff but to anyone sitting near your table. I assume he tipped it from the height of the table, so it would have splashed up anyone's white chinos, long dress, nice shoes etc if they were at the next table. What a wanker.

No social etiquette. I would be mortified. He probably has a lot of other unacceptable traits that haven't manifested yet. I wouldn't take things any further

To be honest, the 2nd date would have ended prematurely.

Good grief, what a moron!

Yeah this is weird.

If he’d done it impulsively and then was embarrassed that he different. If it was done impulsively and instantly regretted he’d have been jumping up to get towels etc to mop it up.

The fact he thought it was funny and someone else should clear it up. Nope 🚩🚩🚩

He could have chosen to wear a badge saying ‘I’m really, really odd’. Instead he demonstrated it. Either way, dump immediately.

I wouldn’t accept that from a three year old!

It really doesn't sound at all like psychosis to me, having experienced being around people in that state.

It sounds like the sort of person who thinks he's a hilarious joker and loves attention. He thinks he's funny. He probably loves 'pranks' that embarrass or scare other people. He probably considers himself life and soul of the party. He probably says things like 'Haha, what am I like? I'm mad, me!' and thinks people will find him entertaining. He thinks doing 'unpredictable' or outrageous things is a substitute for a personality. If he was at a girlfriend's birthday party, he'd definitely shove a slice of cake in her face and then tell her she had no sense of humour when she was upset.

He probably starts stripping off at a wedding disco when the DJ plays You Sexy Thing. He probably says 'While you're down there, eh love?' whenever a woman bends down near him to pick something up. He probably wears fancy dress outfits to football matches.

When he was at school he would have been that one kid in the class who is so desperate for attention that he'd rather have negative attention than none at all, so he'd wind people up until they thumped him and then he'd whine about it.

I’d just drop by blocking him, no further explantation needed. Be glad he showed himself on the second date and believe him.

Curious to know is that really a question or are you venting?

Please tell him why it's a big NO. Don't be vague or dismissive of his vile behaviour.

Can you imagine what his home is like? Yugh!

I declined a second date after a bloke put his rubbish in someone's bicycle basket parked up next to the bench we were sat on.

It's about respect and your date clearly doesn't have any.
keep your standards OP

AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on floor?

Do you really need to ask?

Absolute narcissistic personality disorder behaviours right there!

Major red flag 🚩 Don’t see him again. That little display was just for starters.

Omg my fat fingers accidentally voted that you were being unreasonable and I can’t undo it! I ruined a perfect 100% Wheh someone shows you who they are believe them! Run!

Annual fiction writing competition is that way 👉