AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

I do believe you but this almost sounds made up because it’s such an unhinged thing to do. Block and do not go on another date! How on earth is that remotely funny.

Total ick. He thought it was funny to make work for poorly paid waiting staff. And that's in the context of early days, when most people would still be on their best behaviour.

This is actually classic emotionally abusive behaviour. He is deliberately embarrassing you in public and expecting you to condone it.

That’s so grim I’d deff not be having a third date

You dont owe him an explanation

delete, block, move on

Nope that is some entitled behaviour that shows little empathy or thought for others. Be very careful here

As someone who works in food service I'd have been so pissed off and we're not even allowed to ask them to clean it up themselves.

Do you need a bigger red flag?

Careful. The next one might be over you.

Narcissist. Imagine what he would do with you when angry, tired, upset.

It's a fu*ng red banner never mind a red flag!

You don't need Mumsnet to tell you the answer - your own body is telling you!

I’d be absolutely done with him….

Sounds like an animal , huge red flag don’t walk run

I wouldn’t even be asking such a stupid question here or anywhere......

Shitty behaviour to waiting staff is a huge red flag for me. 🚩 What a dickhead!

The man is a lowbrow uncultured caveman. Who does that? No 3rd date and block him as his behaviour would reflect on you. Makes me wonder what other uncivilised habits he has if he does that in public and thinks its acceptable. Probably explains why he is on a dating app and single.

Come back OP…we need to know what happened next.

Wouldn’t bother me tbh

Bin him off without hesitation. Massive red flag.

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Do you need to ask anyone else? If he was George Clooney and did that, I'd still be blocking him the moment I left the restaurant. You've been lucky to see the real man on the second date. Congratulate yourself on getting out of there.

Oh my God, that is AWFUL behaviour.

What mad impulsive behaviour- No third date for me!

He's shown you very clearly what kind of pig he is.... believe him!!! BLOCK !!!!!