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AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

335 replies

Magnesiun · Today 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

OP posts:
fromthegecko · Today 20:15

Antisocial, but still feels entitled to OP's attention. I do hope he doesn't have her address.

Growlybear83 · Today 20:19

I think I would have just walked out of the restaurant if I’d been with someone who did that.

Lottie6712 · Today 20:19

Hard no from me.

Sidebeforeself · Today 20:21

Op is strangely silent .. just me who is suspicious?!

MrsJeanLuc · Today 20:25

Pinkflamingo10 · Today 14:05

There wouldn’t be a 3rd date for me

This. No need to read any further!

If he can behave like that in public how much worse will he be in private? Imagine you're both in your kitchen eating a meal you've cooked - if he doesn't like something is he just going to throw the whole plate of food on the floor?

Dump him

igelkott2026 · Today 20:35

I'd be put off too. I think it's been pretty much unanimous hasn't it OP?

SunnyRedSnail · Today 20:39

282 posts, 6 hours, 3000 people agree and still no update from the OP...

Maybe they've gone to pour wine over his head???

His actions were unhinged!

Quokkafeet · Today 20:49

It's unhinged behaviour. He would be really stressful to date because you'd never know what he would do next. Doesn't know how to behave correctly in society. It will only bring drama, which will eventually reflect upon you. Get rid!

SqueakyFromme · Today 20:50

@ExplodingSmittens are they bot generated to drive traffic ?

SqueakyFromme · Today 20:51

@Sidebeforeself no, I think it’s annoying and not real

Pherian · Today 20:51

Nah, not over reacting. He showed you that there is no respect for the people serving him at the restaurant - they will have to clean up his mess, not the people at the restaurant including you / who just watched a grown man pour his drink on the floor like a toddler.

The fact that he thinks you should just get over it already tells what you need to know about how you have to deal with his future behaviour as well.

He is a weirdo.

ThreadGuardDog · Today 20:52

BillieWiper · Today 14:15

That sounds like someone in psychosis (unlikely) or a sociopath if he thinks that's normal?

You clearly don’t know what either term actually means.

worldshottestmom · Today 20:52

Yeaaaaah never date anyone who has no respect for service staff of any level. Should have tipped himself into the bin instead to save you a job. No respect, so you won't get any either.

Loulou4022 · Today 20:54

Huge red flag! He sounds deranged! If he can do that on a second date and then accuse you of still going on about it he’ll only get worse!

ThreadGuardDog · Today 20:55

OP block and dump. He’s trouble.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · Today 20:56

He’ll treat you that disrespectfully too

Shelleyblueeyes · Today 20:57

Pinkflamingo10 · Today 14:05

There wouldn’t be a 3rd date for me

Nor me.
Bye.
No one needs that shit.

Notasbigasithink · Today 20:59

Magnesiun · Today 14:04

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

There's a reason why some people are single.....

YourAquaLion · Today 21:01

Just really weird! And I hate waste so it’d be a hard no from me. He should have offered it to you! And for him to message back “still on that are you?” Back to you rather than “sorry yes that was a bit weird of me, I wish I hadn’t done that I was trying to be funny” is a big NO.

foxinasnowstorm · Today 21:07

He’s an entitled child. I wouldn’t be seeing him again or entertaining his whiny texts.

Sidebeforeself · Today 21:11

SqueakyFromme · Today 20:51

@Sidebeforeself no, I think it’s annoying and not real

And so many posters who clearly have t read the thread coming on and offering advice

Chatterlyssecret · Today 21:13

What a childish thing to do , Dump soon as !!

Gentlydoesit2 · Today 21:14

🚩🚩🚩🚩

FreyaonFire · Today 21:15

Horrendous behaviour, totally unacceptable. The fact that he sees no issue with it and still sees it as a laughing matter - grim. This is one to run away from.

RumPidgeon · Today 21:20

Sends my spider senses off. Disrespectful and ill-mannered bravado. The type to break something you love just to get back at you. His reply „still on that“ is telling. Probably hurts animals in his spare time.

Ditch him!