AIBU to be put off after he poured wine on the floor?

[Magnesiun]

2nd date, sat in restaurant and we each had a glass of wine. He commented that he wasn’t keen on the wine and said he’d get a soft drink next time. I finished my drink and he had half of his glass left so I said I was going to get another drink and did he want to get a soft drink now or was he going to finish his wine. He picked up the glass, tipped the wine onto the floor (!!!!!!) and said “finished” and laughed. Several people saw him do it. I was mortified and said “did you really just tip that onto the floor??” And he acted like he was a bit embarrassed but laughed and said he didn’t like it. Waitress came across, noticed the puddle on the floor and he laughed and said “sorry about that” whilst looking at me like he was expecting me to laugh.

after the date he messaged me saying he’d had a good time and asked if I had and I replied “I’m still processing the sight of someone purposely spilling half a glass of wine onto a restaurant floor….” And he replied “still on that? Seriously? 😂”

am I over reacting?? It’s really put me off

Huge red flag.

Making a mess with food/drink quite a typical behaviour for a controlling and abusive personality.
Usually it happens in the home so the fact he's doing this in public is showing he lacks even the boundary to keep his behaviour under wraps.

He's done you a favour. Do not go out with him again.

That behaviour is vile. He was waving a big, red flag in your face. It could have been a boundaries test, to see how you would react and what sort of unhinged stuff he can get away with.

I’d have walked out on the date there and then and not even given him the dignity of a goodbye.

He has shown early on what he actually is, and he really ain’t good.

OMG that’s horrible. No way would I be seeing him again. He clearly has no respect for (female) wait staff. What a pig.

What a sad man. How embarrassing.

Did the ground open up and swallow you up. Sadly I shouldn’t think it did 😩

He obviously hasn’t got a stop valve. I wouldn’t touch the arsehole with a barge pole.

I would have ended the date there and then as soon as he did it.

Next time don't wait. Say that you're leaving, get your coat, pay half the bill at the bar or the exit area and don't look back.

I wouldn’t see him again. How disrespectful to the staff and plain weird. I’d tell him it was a really rude thing to do and no I don’t want another date.

‘I didn’t fancy you much anyway, fucking lesbian’
message incomiiiiiiiing.

He is the sort of man that all women need to avoid.

Idiot man, no manners, no respect for your feelings and no respect for restaurant staff, he's shown you his true colours early enough, thank goodness

God no.. Bin him.
He will be throwing food on the floor and expecting you to mop up... Huge red flags

Nasty piece of work. Just block him on rvery channel.

I would give his details to the restaurant as Nd name and shame
And blocking him. Vile

I can understand why you didn’t leave, we are so conditioned to put up with appalling behaviour from Men.

You know what to do next time though and it’s exactly ^this.

Have you blocked him now?

Yet another one post thread

Interesting first post OP.

Annoying isn’t it.

@ExplodingSmittens very, it didn’t happen but have to admire the imagination I suppose

You need to ask?!

He's an absolute asshole.

Why didn't you call him on it then and there?
Walk away?

Dump and block.

It's a bit concerning you aren't sure about this.

I wouldn’t be seeing him again. If he did this in public on a second date, I would be worried what he would do next. It’s not just disrespectful, it has a really nasty edge to it.

Likewise @Pinkflamingo10
Straight off he has no manners, poor immediate impression there. His fake apology just adds to his "Wanker!" factor.

It shows also that he does not care about creating extra work for people @Magnesiun On that date it was a waitress, further into a relationship it would be you.
You're fair in being put off by that.

I'd not seen your post before my initial reply. I was thinking generally but your more literal transference from while out to at home is most likely.

Horrible entitled behaviour. I would not feel comfortable going on a third date.

I can see why he’s single.

Red flag for sure.... This was a second date so he will have been trying to impress....what would he do once he's relaxed in a relationship?? Shows real lack of respect to the restaurant staff and other customers and you. Would put me right off.

He has showed you exactly who he is. Believe him.