Would you tell family about inheriting a life-changing sum unexpectedly?

[EugenieGreen]

If you (your DH) had completely out of the blue, inherited a life changing amount of money, would you tell your parents or siblings?

DH and I disagree.

Noooooooo

@EugenieGreen it really depends how much... are you talking 6 figures? High 6? Or 7 figures, again several/ high or just 1?

Certainly not, both sides of the family are greedy and shit with money in equal measures. I'd secure the financial futures of myself & kids first and then discreetly try to pay off debts of siblings.

Would the Partner of the deceased not say something though? Assume they’d have some one dealings with the Estate / possibly expecting some inheritance too. When they realise they aren’t might they tell BIL? Does a will or probate become public record? (And if so will the Partner take a look?)

I dont have a partner and am not close with my family (apart from one relative). I would probably not tell them (apart from the one relative) as they have done nothing for me. I would probably spend it on private health care to improve life for myself without splashing it around. Im not going to run off and buy a mansion or a big flash car.

Yes

Probably would, but I might down play it. They already think I'm much better off than I am.

Different scenario but I’ve just been awarded a large sum for a personal injury claim. I will lose a chunk of it for fees but it’s still a lot of money. My best friend knows I’ve won the case but not how much and I won’t tell her (she didn’t tell me what she got for a big payout for something and I didn’t ask). My DH knows as I’ve consulted him through the whole thing.

We will probably pay the maximum extra payment we can on our mortgage going forward but our lifestyle isn’t going to change anytime soon because of it.

My family have no idea and never will, they won’t get a single penny from me but they wouldn’t give me anything if they came into money either.

I’d feel so betrayed if my DH told anyone about the award, I don’t think I’d ever forgive him. It’s my money, my business (although obviously he’ll benefit from it as is only right).