Can cake really be offensive?

[ThisWildHedgehog]

Can cake really be offensive?

So my husband bought a really nice celebration cake over the weekend. It was large, cost £20, and was absolutely delicious, but there was too much for us to eat without some going to waste.

As we were seeing my MIL, FIL and SIL, I cut the cake in half and took it round to them in the box.

My only thought was, “It’s a lovely cake, and there’s enough to share.”

When I gave it to my MIL, I said, “We’ve brought you this cake because it’s really lovely and there’s enough to share.” She replied, “That’s fine.” I thought that was a really bizarre and ungrateful response, so I said, “Well, hopefully you’ll enjoy it.” She didn’t respond to that comment at all.

Anyway, once we got home, I said to DH that I felt a bit deflated because his mum seemed so dismissive about the cake. He said, “You shouldn’t have taken it, as it’ll be taken the wrong way.”

I asked how on earth giving someone cake could be taken badly, and he said that because they’re all a bit on the larger side, it would come across as, “Fat people like cake - here’s my leftovers.” 😳

Surely not?! They’ve known me for 10 years, and we’ve often had cake together. How could that possibly be what they thought?

Gosh, I’m praying you all think I’m not being unreasonable and that there’s no way I’ve offended anyone by giving them the cake!

This is the best post 🤣

OP - plenty of people on here would gladly take cake off your hands ☺️

no good deed goes unpunished

Quite right! You never know what air the cake’s wafted through getting to you.

And didn’t they sterilise the container?

And to think you’d want their sloppy seconds. How insulting!

Or maybe you could just stop being a neurotic princess…

Only happy people eat “cake”. I’ll have you know I’ve been miserable for 30 years, and I’m not about to start being happy now with your “cake”, thank you very much.

If you gave me your sloppy seconds of a “cake” it would hurtled in my bin faster than you could say Black Forest Gateau!

I stick to my raw dust and grit if it’s ok with you. Now if you don’t mind, my face won’t clench itself into a screwed contortion of pure bitterness in its own.

When will you people learn. EVERYTHING is an insult! Nothing is done with good intentions….ever, if it’s not pure malice, it’s some cheeky fucker wanting to take advantage and bleed you dry.

it was a kind gesture but people take or presume things differently

based on your husbands comment, I think your mil may have thought that you were suggesting that she should be giving you cake when you go round there. You are making her feel bad for not having provided cake.

you also seem to have been expecting her to be very thankful which is a bit unnecessary for leftovers.

Those cakes aren’t big enough to give someone else half, what were you thinking 😂

Why did you order a cake from M&S for someone who doesn’t eat shop-bought cake?
That’s a bit bonkers, isn’t it?

Yes, the OP is clearly stealth boasting here! “Ooo look how delicate and virtuous I am. I couldn’t possibly eat this! So I thought I’d bring it to you fatties as I know you can’t resist cake!”… It’s sick…

I would be SEETHING if I were the in-laws. The OP is clearly a pathological narcissistic sociopath for doing this sick stunt, and she should be grateful her in-laws didn’t take the cake and ram it hard into her sanctimonious face, and force down her smug gob til she choked, like she richly deserved! 😡🤬👿😾

Of course they are. This is not a small cake that you'd buy any day of the week, they're really quite large and while the 'serves 16' suggestion is optimistic, there's probably a good 8-12 generous slices, so if there's only two of you and you've had a slice, you're only going to want another slice or two, so there'd be a decent amount left, so sharing it with loved ones when you visit is a nice and resonable thing to do, or so I thought.

Another post where I genuinely cannot tell if this is sarcasm or typical MN hyperbole.

I’ve been rumbled 🍰

Hell hath no fury than a MNer being given cake 🎂 😡

I think it was a lovely thing to do. After birthdays, we often divide up cake and share it out with family. If you know your family’s likes and dislikes and dietary preferences, I can’t understand anyone taking offence or seeing it as leftovers and binning it.

I was coming here to say the same 😂😂😂

I’m autistic so quite often get a bit confused about whether it’s humour or not so on this occasion I’m glad it’s not just me 😂😂

On a separate note OP, I would absolutely destroy that whole cake single-handedly within a couple of days myself, given the chance 😂😂🫣

Surely it depends on who? If my mam or mother in law brought me half a quiche round or she’d made too much bolognaise so put some aside for us I’d accept gratefully. I’ve taken things for my mother in law who lives alone and she always seems happy to have cooked food and always seems touched to be thought of. This is her daughter in law who brought cake that wouldn’t get eaten. I don’t see the big deal. This is close family.

I was joking I obviously wouldn't rub it in their shocked faces or anything. I would bin it once they'd left.

😮😮😮😮 WTAF?
No. Just no. This is the vilest comment on this whole thread. You don't get to be that judgey about people's bodies.

Anorexic people don't want others to eat the way they do. They know it's horribly unhealthy and are often quite ashamed of their illness.

So yes, they might find comfort in feeding others and being around food. To try and seem like they have a normal relationship with it. And also because they're often absolutely obsessed and have very debilitating food noise. And genuinely do love food. They just feel they can't eat much.

It's not because they want you to be fat.

Very thoughtful of you to do it and if they’ve taken offence that’s their problem not yours

Not to be invited for the cake? When did we have to all invite people over anytime we dared to buy a cake?

I wouldn't like getting half a cake without a previous agrement.

If I have my own choice of dessert in the fridge, it means some is extra and either we would eat more sweet stuff than intended or some will get stale.

Calling and offering would be better (and I'd ask for "just a slice each").

What a lovely treat 🍰

She doesn't have to be excited but basic manners are a, reasonable assumption.

The half eaten, you realise op didn't chew off her side? She cut a large cake in half and gave it to someone. That's not half eaten, it's just half a cake. And at what price point would you muster a polite oh thank you dil for thinking of us?

The people who'd bin perfectly good, fresh food because some perceived "how scummy would I be to take handmedowns" nonsense are bizarre

Gobsmacked that there are people on here who think that taking cake to your in-laws is somehow offensive. And even more that there are people who would 'bin' it. My lovely late mother-in-law would have said 'I'll put the kettle on. Let's have some now.' Which is the only correct response. Just how weird must people be to get offended over a nice piece of cake?