Can cake really be offensive?

[ThisWildHedgehog]

Can cake really be offensive?

So my husband bought a really nice celebration cake over the weekend. It was large, cost £20, and was absolutely delicious, but there was too much for us to eat without some going to waste.

As we were seeing my MIL, FIL and SIL, I cut the cake in half and took it round to them in the box.

My only thought was, “It’s a lovely cake, and there’s enough to share.”

When I gave it to my MIL, I said, “We’ve brought you this cake because it’s really lovely and there’s enough to share.” She replied, “That’s fine.” I thought that was a really bizarre and ungrateful response, so I said, “Well, hopefully you’ll enjoy it.” She didn’t respond to that comment at all.

Anyway, once we got home, I said to DH that I felt a bit deflated because his mum seemed so dismissive about the cake. He said, “You shouldn’t have taken it, as it’ll be taken the wrong way.”

I asked how on earth giving someone cake could be taken badly, and he said that because they’re all a bit on the larger side, it would come across as, “Fat people like cake - here’s my leftovers.” 😳

Surely not?! They’ve known me for 10 years, and we’ve often had cake together. How could that possibly be what they thought?

Gosh, I’m praying you all think I’m not being unreasonable and that there’s no way I’ve offended anyone by giving them the cake!

This is the best post 🤣

OP - plenty of people on here would gladly take cake off your hands ☺️

no good deed goes unpunished

Quite right! You never know what air the cake’s wafted through getting to you.

And didn’t they sterilise the container?

And to think you’d want their sloppy seconds. How insulting!

Or maybe you could just stop being a neurotic princess…

Only happy people eat “cake”. I’ll have you know I’ve been miserable for 30 years, and I’m not about to start being happy now with your “cake”, thank you very much.

If you gave me your sloppy seconds of a “cake” it would hurtled in my bin faster than you could say Black Forest Gateau!

I stick to my raw dust and grit if it’s ok with you. Now if you don’t mind, my face won’t clench itself into a screwed contortion of pure bitterness in its own.

When will you people learn. EVERYTHING is an insult! Nothing is done with good intentions….ever, if it’s not pure malice, it’s some cheeky fucker wanting to take advantage and bleed you dry.

it was a kind gesture but people take or presume things differently

based on your husbands comment, I think your mil may have thought that you were suggesting that she should be giving you cake when you go round there. You are making her feel bad for not having provided cake.

you also seem to have been expecting her to be very thankful which is a bit unnecessary for leftovers.

Those cakes aren’t big enough to give someone else half, what were you thinking 😂

Why did you order a cake from M&S for someone who doesn’t eat shop-bought cake?
That’s a bit bonkers, isn’t it?

Yes, the OP is clearly stealth boasting here! “Ooo look how delicate and virtuous I am. I couldn’t possibly eat this! So I thought I’d bring it to you fatties as I know you can’t resist cake!”… It’s sick…

I would be SEETHING if I were the in-laws. The OP is clearly a pathological narcissistic sociopath for doing this sick stunt, and she should be grateful her in-laws didn’t take the cake and ram it hard into her sanctimonious face, and force down her smug gob til she choked, like she richly deserved! 😡🤬👿😾

Of course they are. This is not a small cake that you'd buy any day of the week, they're really quite large and while the 'serves 16' suggestion is optimistic, there's probably a good 8-12 generous slices, so if there's only two of you and you've had a slice, you're only going to want another slice or two, so there'd be a decent amount left, so sharing it with loved ones when you visit is a nice and resonable thing to do, or so I thought.

Another post where I genuinely cannot tell if this is sarcasm or typical MN hyperbole.

I’ve been rumbled 🍰

Hell hath no fury than a MNer being given cake 🎂 😡