Is it too late for a third baby?

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I’m fit and healthy and have two children - 9 and 7…but I really feel I would like one more child. The thing is I’m 47…. I still have periods…and have lots of energy…, so AIBU?

I’m similar expect I’m 44 and DH is 49. A part of me would love another little one and I’d hate to look back and think I missed the chance to have one. But a bigger part knows it’s a bad idea for us. I find the kids I have full on and I enjoy the chance to do more me stuff. I go to the pub after work one day a week. I wouldn’t want to give stuff like that up to rush home to a very young child.
Then there s the thought of DH being nearly 70 with an 18 year old. And DH’s health isn’t great. And we are both very unfit.
And there s all the risk with AI etc the kids could be living with us forever!!
But for another couple with more energy etc it could well work all around.

I suppose its weighing up the positives of which there are many against the risk & uncertainty about the future.

Even if it were biologically possible, I think 47 is too old to have a baby. I'm 45 with a three year old and I'm knackered. I love her but it's been tough. I have two and struggled against secondary infertility to have her at 42, naturally. No way would I have a third. Just enjoy the two children you already have.

I did wonder when reading, before your last update if it was a second marriage. I get you want to “give him” a child but it would alter the dynamics of not only your relationship but also your life with your existing children. It may put too much pressure onto the relationship and being an older single mum of 3 would be exhausting. You will be in your 50s probably tired from perimenopause with a small child and teens. Your friends will be enjoying their free time with their children being more self sufficient.

Whilst not impossible and you may be lucky enough to not need IVF and have a pregnancy and birth without difficulties I don’t think it is the wisest decision for the whole family.

It's definitely not a choice I would make, I got sterilised during my c-section 2 years ago to prevent that happening, I was 35 at the time and it was the hardest pregnancy I've dealt with and I knew I couldn't physically go through it again, I feel at 47 you are better off focusing on the children you have rather than trying to have another, especially as given your age it likely won't be easy to conceive in the first place and could take a long time by which point you will be even older.

This update makes me think categorically no, op.

Gosh I think it is. Just because you still have your period doesn’t mean you can get pregnant (I had my last period at 56). I had my kids at 41 and 43 and a friend had a surprise baby at 46, but it’s very unlikely though not impossible.
But this whole wanting ‘to give’ your partner a baby? Not sure about that! Babies aren’t a reward or thank you. You don’t owe him a baby.