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AIBU to find a lawyer for my nephew whose pregnant girlfriend says she doesn't want him on the birth certificate?

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Hillfarmer · 11/07/2026 10:44

My lovely 35-year old nephew is in a very stormy relationship. He and his GF already have one DC of 18 months. She is pregnant again, due August - we could debate the rights and wrongs of that until the cows come home - but we are where we are. They have just had an almighty bust-up, she's kicked him out of the house and now telling him she won't have him on the birth certificate.

He is a devoted Dad and would be devastated not to have parental rights from the get-go, but what can he do? Are there any family lawyers on here who know whether he can force her hand in some wayl? Are there any legal means he can use before the baby is born - say, get an injunction?

He is named on the birth cerficate of his first DC and of course wants to be named on the second one's birth cert. If he's not on it, I understand that it will be much more of a fight to get access etc.

Any advice welcome!

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Credittocress · Yesterday 20:56

BruFord · Yesterday 16:44

@Meadowfinch Isn’t what I’m saying factually correct though? 60 years ago, it was far more difficult to obtain contraception, but it’s not now. I had no trouble obtaining it 30 years ago and my DD (21) has no trouble now.

Anyway, presumably this second pregnancy was planned and it’s a real shame that the relationship is in trouble.

Contraception isn’t 100% safe though, and many people are opposed to termination. Still, this was an established couple with a child already, there’s nothing to suggest this wasn’t planned.

Reallyneedsaholiday · Today 00:30

Backedoffhackedoff · 12/07/2026 22:08

thats what I spent getting an hours legal advice Friday. An hour being the minimum offered to understand the situation, obviously (actually I spent £375 but expect it’s cheaper in some parts of the country)

The first half hour is normally free

babyproblems · Today 00:39

chipsandpeas · 11/07/2026 10:53

so your lovely nephew wants to pretty much bully a heavily pregnant woman with legal action...... yeah hes lovely

I thought this too.
Hes 35! You don’t need to be involved.
I highly doubt hes as lovely as you say he is. I suspect there’s more you don’t know, or you’re a big deluded.
In any case, it’s between the two of them and it’s up to her whether she names him or not.
He can seek legal advice after the birth.

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