AIBU to feel unsafe about a five-hour drive after his early shifts?

[Silverseahorse]

So...
We have to stay overnight somewhere tonight
It means driving 5 hours at dinner time
My DH drives ..I don't
We had a lot to organise to sort this out ,as family life is difficult.
So it's just suddenly occurred to me
My DH has been up since 4am every day this week for work and falling asleep by 7pm every evening
Today is no different..today is the last day on this shift ,he is off tomorrow,when we have to drive back ..
Now I'm sitting here , thinking shit ..yet again I'm going to be driven somewhere scared again.
Why didn't he say ..".I'm working from 4am that day ..I can't do the drive that evening,we need another plan.."
But this was his plan ....my plan was to drive up half way through the night so he could sleep first ...
Would your DH be able to drive for 4/5 hours in an evening after doing a week of 4am early starts .. including the day of the drive ,??
I've lost sight of what's normal
There's been so many times he's driven me scared..that I don't know what's normal and what's not .
Should I of looked at his shifts and said ..that won't work...
Usually I do ...but this event has caused me so much stress to organise at home (the people we leave at home )..that i didn't think to check his shift today ..
I really feel I'm reaching the end of the road with my marriage..and I'm terrified of what that means

what time are you due to leave?

Is this for a graduation ceremony? Wedding?

You dont make ur bed and lie in it there are ways out I promise u that if u need help the community can find it for u. I don't wanna make snap judgements here but if u need anything let me know let us the net mums community know and we'll help x

I’ve done 2 15 hour shifts with little sleep in between and then driven for 8 hours after. I’m still here to tell the tale.

if he starts to get tired, stop and get a coffee or energy drink.

Husbands lol.

You know, us ladeez can drive too 🤣

And yes, I could do it.

Some government stats/advice...

You've admitted that you do actually have a driving license, so if you're that worried- you drive!

I think he’ll be fine to drive. He’ll know his limits and will stop for a break when he needs to.

I’d definitely build your confidence up to drive on the motorway. I love driving and didn’t have any motorway lessons, but two weeks after I passed my test, my Mum died and I had to jump in the car and drive 300 miles, so I never had chance to think about it. Once you’ve found your confidence, you’ll be fine to do the driving. Do it sooner, rather than later.

So are you not a huge part of the problem here? You have a licence but won't drive on a motorway!!! Motorways are the easiest and statistically safest roads ever.

The right thing for you to do is share the driving.

Bus and truck drivers can be on duty for 21 hours continuously, driving for 10 each as long as there are 2 of them on the vehicle. They may also have had to drive a car some distance to get to base. So 20h isn't unreasonable.

Are you on your way @Silverseahorse ?

All good ..been here a while
We set of at 3 pm
No issues at all
Clearly I was overreacting
Needs to take my meds earlier in the day really

So everything you have alluded to in the thread just brushed under the carpet?