To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

[Dinnertext]

I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

She's a snobby gossip and I wouldn't want her as a friend. I'd just message saying it's probably best to leave it.

This, she obviously looks down on you and is probably going back from your home to make fun of you given her mis text.
Your dh can host all he wants, I’d be off out to a real friend!

Cancel it all

Unbelievably rude and disrespectful. If your DH likes her DH, let them meet up on their own.

I don't think she is your friend, OP. I'd never saying I was going to someone's house I liked again.

You wouldn't bitch to people with laugh emojis behind their back if it was just this.

She's a rude cow. And she should have apologised. People acting in good faith would. She didn't.

She’s a nasty piece of work and a grim little suburban snob as well. Definitely invite her back @Dinnertextand this time do the job properly ;)

exactly this

Edit I've just read your updates sorry!

Read the thread. She has responded.

Depends whether you want to bin the friendship. Either cancel it or just
host for drinks and see how it goes.

Call me petty, but I'd go along with it and then cancel at the last minute when it's too late for her to take the other person up on their invitation.

For those who didn't read the response. This is what she came back and said.

Not a nice person.

Very hurtful. Her reply isn’t great and she could have saved it. I would find it difficult to have them round tbh

Sorry , well keep her at elbows length .

I don’t even know where to start with this reply. I’m very curious about the relationship, how do you know them?
Do you honestly think you could have an evening of fun or even polite and not awkward conversation with her after she sent a message like that?!!
You should cancel and let your DH arrange a meet up with her husband if he’s that desperate ti see him.
What a bitch

How hurtful and rude.

No way would I have them round, cheeky cow saying she'll bring crisps and olives...piss off.

Have you replied yet? if not, it’d be a:

”Yet evidently not polite enough to not joke about it with others. I’ll leave it thanks.”

OP - what did you make last time? Was it a fandango thing with funky ingredients from a world food supermarket?

Unless this is the case, her explanation of upset stomachs doesn’t feel authentic to me. Feels like she was being bitchy to another friend about your cooking.

I’m so sorry. This must feel hurtful and humiliating. What a horrible experience.

I doubt she was even really sick, probably just finding a way to laugh about you to others. If I’d been ill after eating with friends, i’d enquire to see if they were ok and blame a stomach bug or something, then decline further food invites if I was sure ut was the food. Don’t have them round for drinks, it’s the elephant in the room and Id feel awkward about them not eating, like they can’t dare eat your food

Let the men go out. No way would I be spending money on her again

I agree. Horrible. Dh can meet the

And she has the cheek to suggest that you host them "for drinks only", in case you poison them again. This is like Amandaland, only not funny at all.

I'm betting she thinks that they arevaluable enough friends for your DH to pursuade you to do this

But she is either suggesting this because she hopes you'll turn it down or she's prepared to turn up for drinks which would be patronising and humiliating for you... and then leave early because after all its only drinks... and go on somewhere more fascinating instead.
And of course she could then update the cronies she texts.

A normal person would apologise, bu t this one thinks she's the queen bee.

BIN

Lettuce and boiled chicken for tea if they turn up

I would not be hosting her ever again.

I don't think you need to project that much and dramatise the whole story like that 😂

Oh I'm sorry OP, I read your update. You must be so hurt but please remember this reflects badly on HER not on you. She's mean.

I would absolutely tell DH that if he wants to host that's his choice but I won't welcome someone who treats me like that into my home. He can sort the food, and when they arrive I'd say hi then go out or take myself off upstairs for a bath and a quiet night of doom scrolling in bed.