To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

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I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

Her refusal to apologise is showing her true colours. You're better off without her OP.

OP means original poster doesn't it?

Just say: I’ll get the pepto in….

The worst thing is that she’s be talking about it to whoever the message was meant for. When she said she was going to yours for dinner and would need pepto with a laugh emoji, it’s obvious she was saying it to someone who she had already talked about it with.
So, it’s not like she sent you a message meant for her husband. If I’d caught them talking between themselves that would be fine but she’s been gossiping about what she has framed as bad quality ingredients because you don’t shop in expensive butchers/waitrose etc.

Her laughing behind my back would be the thing that wrecked the friendship.

Sounds like the culprit for their bad stomachs was probably something he/she cooked in their own home as opposed to your food!

My edit was literally seconds later

At least she was honest if that was truly the case. It definitely makes the Pepto comment burn more (no pun intended) but people say bad things about us all the time that we’re not privy to - even friends/close ones - and nobody would trust anyone if we could hear every random conversation. It’s awful that you had to read that. I get the impression they have felt this way a long time.

Yes the comment was hurtful and would be hard to get past.

I've just read the OPs posts.

I think at this point it makes sense to just not go ahead - but I am also the sort of person that would struggle with this and would probably want to just have an awkward evening and get back to normal

just tell DH that he needs to meet his friend elsewhere and it’s non-negotiable.

Why should he? It's his house too and neither he nor op have any quarrel with the husband. Unless the suggestion is that the husband should be held.responsible for whatever his wife says or does.

Yes this

I would be offended by this, what she is saying is you bought 'cheap' food, but without saying it.
Gosh she wouldn't want to come around to my house then, yellow sticker galore and I ❤️ it!

Did you not read any further when you replied to this?

Yes I see it now, but it was just that yours was the one that I replied to: there had been a bunch of them in rapid succession - and there've been more since. Very strange IMO

I think the implication is that these people think OP's cooking, for whatever reason is not up to scratch and MADE THEM ILL

Which is probably the rudest thing you can say to someone inviting you to dinner.

fuck them and their takeaways

Let your husband host the pair of them if he insists and you treat yourself to an evening by yourself or with an actual friend.

Maybe I don’t know how this is meant to work and how not to quote the OP etc. The one thing I’ve noticed on here, is how unnecessarily rude people are.

I would say something like this if I was going to overindulge - not necessarily a dig! I don't think id take it that way.

Good for you. She’s really trying to brush this under the carpet isn’t she?!

Ffs. Read the full thread or at least OPs updates 🙄

And here we are on page 31 and yet another one who hasn't read OP's updates 😅😂

Uhm. I'd juts reply saying I think this was intended for someone else. And go silent.
I know I need to read the thread for updates tho. But its not nice. And not a joke (the likely defence).

I can understand that you may not know how things work here or how to read all of the OPs posts etc but can you understand how annoying it is when poster after poster responds just to the first post without taking account of the OPs updates. On some threads there are so many of these that I wonder if some people are just doing it to annoy.

Just decline and say you wanted a nice chilled dinner with friends and therefore have now made other plans.
Go out with your other friends or make nice plans.
Let your spineless husband please himself

I meant my reply to mean did she not mean she would overindulge and suffer the next day.