To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

[Dinnertext]

I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

Plus, how long has this been going on? I don't believe that this is the first time the 'friend' has said something negative about her. I would be saying goodbye by now.

When your DH complains that you're overreacting (and he will) simply say that all you were looking for was an apology, but so far all she's done is double down.

Also point out that he made a decision that means he and her DH will be focused on the football, leaving you and 'friend' forced to make awkward conversation, undiluted.

I think it might be cause she’s expecting to have fun and over indulge. Be careful before you react. She’s your mate!

Oh for goodness sake, read the thread. Or at least OP 's updates.

She's probably told her husband it was something and nothing, a minor tiff, completely glossing over what a rude cunt she's been. So now she wants it to blow over.

Good for you.

She's backpeddling now because she realises she's dropped a blooper.

Stick to your guns OP.

It's her that's "throwing years of friendship away" not you. And - if that's her idea of "friendship" maybe she should keep it ?

Could it be that she suffers from eating rich food or too much wine. Maybe u would ask her politely first.

Politely, maybe you could RTFT.

And not quote-reply the OP 🙏

This still feels as though ‘I wouldn’t want to eat your cooking so will bring a takeaway’ [much higher risk of food poisoning but, hey].

I’m not sure it’s the right thing to do, but it’s definitely what I would do. I’d be done with it all and just tell DH that he needs to meet his friend elsewhere and it’s non-negotiable. Moreover, I would ask him how he can think it is okay to invite a couple over and expect you to spend time with them when they have clearly been insulting you [both] behind your backs? Surely his wife’s feelings are more important than the bloody football - which he can watch in the crappy pub or at their house?

I’d be putting my foot down frankly.

Maybe she means she’d be overindulging at your place ?

Sorry I’m an oldie may I politely ask what does RTFT mean

HTF does she know where you shop?

She is one nasty piece of work. I would be telling her you don’t want to host at all - her behaviour and rudeness have left you feeling upset.

She can take her favourite Italian restaurant meal and shove it up her expensively clad arse.

ETA - your DH is a dick for thinking this would be ok/.

It means "read the fucking thread"

I would say its because of impending over indulgence. Texts can always be read the wrong way. So be hasty about what u say.

I think her lack of apology means you don't have any obligation to her. That's just poor form.

Your DH and his bestie can get their own take away and watch it.

I'd be going out myself, with other people.

“READ THROUGH FULL THREAD”

It means that the form is not to reply to the ‘OP’ [Opening Post] without reading either the replies or, by clicking on the ‘see all’ tab in the OP, to just read the thread originator’s updates. Those give more information so often replying to the first OP only means your replies are inappropriate or uninformed. It’s why people get annoyed when OP’s ‘drip feed’ (ie, give info in later posts that change the meaning or context of the first post).

We’ve all done it, especially when new, though!

It's an unortunate mistake but to be fair it was probably a joke about eating and drinking too much. I would forward it back to her and say I can provide that & add a 😂

I should have read the updates. I can't understand why she didn't apologise & even go as far as to criticise where you shop etc. I'm sorry but I wouldn't choose to be friends with this type of woman

That’s really bad! How unkind and how rude. Not how friends talk about each other.
Bringing a take away isn’t any better. She could at least apologise for upsetting you.
I’d be wondering what else she’s said behind my back.

If your husband is separate to see his friend (who may or may not agree with his wife) he needs to do it elsewhere and not your home. I can’t believe he’s happy with them still coming round!

RTFT

she later admits its because OP’s cooking made her ill

Let her buy her shitty takeaway and sit there on her own with the husbands.

I'd be off out for a spa day or a long old shopping day with a night at a hotel.

Let your spineless DH host them if he wants to.

It wasn’t though, when questioned she doubled down and accused @Dinnertext of giving them food poisoning by feeding them food ‘from shops they wouldn’t normally shop in’

total bitch.

OMG Why are people STILL responding like this?
Can none of you read more than the OP before responding??