Is this racism?

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Basically I was at the pub in the pub and nobody was behind the bar.

I was first in line.

An elderly couple come and and then another man who slams his glass down.

When the bar lady asks "who is first"? I replied me.

The elderly couple say "we have been waiting ages".

And the man next says "I didn't see her".

I felt this was due to me being mixed race.
I felt quite intimidated.

I only popped in for a drink whilst OH has the kids.

I feel any shaken up as the only ethnic person in the place.
AIBU

Where do you live? The old man said “I didn’t see her”, he really may not have seen you.

There are many possible reason for
this particular interchange. Racism could be one of them. His age could have been the reason, his manners could have been the reason or he could genuinely not have seen you.

i have seen this kind of post before MN, a
mixed race person or a person with mixed race children experiencing a level of racism that makes them feel fearful, intimidated and of the belief that England is overrun by Racists on every corner.

I am black, my DNephew and DGS or mixed, we all have our own experiences but this is not the perception that we, my black, white and mixed family have, all being born in England.

Racism exists everywhere but….come on, keep it real!

The most interesting thing about your post is that you popped into a Wetherspoon’s for a drink, whilst your DH had the kids. You may not have been left frightened and intimidated if you had gone into a Starbucks instead.

Perhaps try a different form of journalism, other than GB News or The Telegraph.

If it is, my inlaws are racist against every single race on the planet, including their own.

42% of people in Yardley are Muslim. With 80% vote turn out that means 33% of the vote share will be Muslim. That leaves the other 67% up for grabs by non Muslim people. Its hardly the fault of 'our system' or Muslim people if non Muslim people choose not to vote, is it?
There are only 3 constituencies in the UK where the Muslim population exceed 50%, so even if your worst fears are grounded, that's three seats of 650. Hardly a coup.
There are a further 11 seats where Islam is the majority stated religion. However Muslims are not a majority, so non Muslim people, if they bothered to vote, would have the largest influence.
Not that it should matter. British Muslims have as much right to excercise their right to vote as you do.
If Reform are not attractive to them, and they will go Green and encourage their local communities to do likewise to keep them out, they are in good company. I would too.

It is not for a white person to tell a non white person what is and isn't racist.

So the police were right to believe Vickrum Digwa when he accused Henry Nowak of racism?

There is really no way of you or anyone else knowing. They could just be selfish and rude people or it might have been racially motivated. Regardless, I’m sorry you had a bad experience and I’m sorry you felt scared. Hope the rest of the week is nicer.

I am black and i wouldnt assume racism. I would have just thought the guy was a twat 🤷🏽‍♀️

Given the increasing open racism towards people of Asian descent in the UK (especially Pakistani / Bangladeshi etc.) I completely get the “paranoia”. Is it really paranoia if everybody is out to get you? And if he spends anytime on social media / UK media pages I completely get his “paranoia”. The tone of comments is breathtakingly vicious in their hatred and these people live in and among us.

I notice you don’t refute my point.

I don’t watch GB News or read the Telegraph.

@CornishDaughteroftheDawn is talking about disproportionate voting power compared to population. I thought that was quite clear. Not absolute numbers. So just saying “well there’s only 3 majority Muslim constituencies” or “only 6% of the population are Muslim” is really not refuting her point.

Don't be ridiculous. The UK is 83% white. You are nowhere near becoming a minority. 44 million non-whites would have to move to the UK for that to happen.

More racist nonsense.

In the explanation you have provided and asked for opinions on whether it was racist - no. Personally I have seen an increase in perceived racism which not only reduces how damaging actual racism is but also forces a no debate because everything is racist. The latter then worsens the former. I do however notice your comment - of course it was a Wetherspoon, lol. What are you implying here?

and was the racism in the room with you?

Obviously the power was originally within the gift of the people in charge. Well meaning but suggestible people talking themselves into justifying ridiculous positions at best.

However, once given away, it’s very difficult for that power to be regained especially when threats of violent action get involved. We have not voted for that.

What?

You asked for CCTV to prove you were there longest? Do you realise how batty that sounds? You were pointing out their ages, is that not agist?

Exactly and these men were all from one specific area of Pakistan. Imagine using that to tar all people of colour with one brush and deny their daily reality of racist experiences?.

what happened to Henry Novak was absolutely awful - two things can be true.

You don’t believe white people will be the minority in the not too distant future? You think the calculation should only look at immigration figures and not birth rates? Have you looked at the trends over the last few decades? In the 1960s whites were 95-97% of the population. Now we are 83% and the percentage will continue to decline, with or without immigration.

From the linked article:
Meanwhile, only 53 per cent of births last year were white British babies (down from 64 per cent in 2007).

Calling basic factual and statistical information racism is bizarre.

Definitely a wind up !

Where did I say that was right? The police failed in their duties and would have done the same thing if Henry Nowak was black.

AND? Ffs. Even if that was the case, so what.

You really are one of those deluded undoubtedly Reform supporters

And you sound like an utter racist with your "white replacement" rubbish.

Nobody needs to refute it

Your right wing diatribe speaks for itself.

What level of deluded are you?

The OP lives in a world where she constantly has had to defend her ethnicity, in covert and overt forms

Not only have you invalidated her, but you then desperately attempt to portray the undoubted racists as the victim by calling the OP ageist.

Are you that insecure that you twist who victims are in life, as the reality of admitting and validating a person's experience would be too awful for you to deal with.

It's nonsense like this OP which means that many people no longer give a shit if they are called racist. The definition of racism has widened so much that it is fast losing its power.

The response to an accusation of racism is, more than it ever used to be, "So What!"

This may not be a bad thing.

Not at all - I have however been to a pub where rude people try and barge in. I dont assign it to sexism because I am a woman. People are just rude and think they are more important because they are arseholes

This.
Sometimes people are just objectional c*ntz and the colour of your skin isnt the issue.
People are allowed to actively dislike you without it being down to race/skin colour...