Dh didn’t leave me any water or drinks

[Footballscominghomehey]

I was really ill yesterday and especially last night, lots of vomiting etc (sorry tmi)
We live abroad and it’s extremely hot, we don’t drink the tap water here.
The bedroom was a real mess this morning-sick bucket full, duvet yucky, he quietly said my name to wake me up and that he was going to work.
I feel horrendous, so weak and there’s zero water and drinks. I’m trying to set up
a delivery service to see if they can deliver
Does anyone think this is a bit shitty to leave me with no drinks. Feel so dehydrated

Surely if you can get up for a delivery you can boil a kettle and cool the water?

If you are in Europe the tap water is safe.

Definitely NBU!
I had this once when I was confined to the sofa unable to move. DH didn’t even think to leave me food and water so, in agonising pain, I had to crawl to the kitchen.
his response when he came home ten hours later? ‘But you didn’t ask for anything’.
didn’t matter that he left at five in the morning and I’d finally got to sleep.
he said I looked so peaceful he didn’t want to wake me!!
idiot!!
Hope you get delivery sorted

Sorry you are feeling so ill OP.
It's not just the not leaving you no drinks : it's the leaving you so ill without making any attempt to make you more comfortable before he left for work that comes over as totally uncaring.

This is where the "In sickness and in health " part of the marriage vows should come into play .

There are no drinks at all in the entire house?

Guess you have never been that bad then. Have some pity

Do you have any water you can drink? WHO recommends 8 level tsp of sugar and 1 tsp of salt per litre of water to make your own hydration solution.

And, yeah, my dh wouldn’t leave me quite the way yours did.

My DP can be a bit thoughtless at times but even he would have emptied the bucket, changed the bed and made sure I was set before he left. Sorry op, you deserve better. I hope you feel okay asap.

I guess OP normally manages supplies ?

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Sorry, just re read your op. Can you boil your water?

He slept in the other room

Because I was in great pain with kidney stones, so have the bathroom bin next to my bed

What an unpleasant comment.

Often it's not possible to get up and reach the bathroom before vomiting.

Funny how it's OP who is ill but your sympathy is with her H.

I find it odd that if you live in a country where you can’t drink the water you (and DH) don’t always have a large stockpile of bottled and would ever be in a position to run out tbh. IDK if it was practical or even possible for DH to have gone to the shops before work but a delivery sounds like a good idea.

That is spectacularly shit partnering from your DH. I would (once I felt better) go pretty ballistic on that one.

I drank three large water bottles last night
I have coffee or green tea, but just need cold water

Yep..

The first few posts, what is wrong with you? Hope you get no sympathy when you have your next sick bug.

@Footballscominghomehey Hope you’re feeling better soon, if you haven’t done delivery yet get done rehydration sachets as well.

Yes it is shitty of your husband

A sick bucket? I don't think I've ever used one since I was a child. Anyway, I digress. It would have been nice if he'd left you something even a bottle of water. Or are you saying there's absolutely nothing to drink at all??

However, you need to get yourself up, empty your bucket, clean your teeth and wash your face which will help you feel better. You're going to have to get up to receive a delivery anyway.

I’m sorry OP, you are not being at all unreasonable. Even if he did sleep in the other room he should have been concerned enough for you to make sure you had what you need. I hope you feel better. I’d remember this next time he is ill…

Honestly it seems more and more like marriage is an arrangement that is wholly beneficial to the man and is basically a scam for women.

I can only assume the first few messages have shitty partners.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. He is shockingly uncaring.

It's more than a bit shitty. It's nasty and mean.

Perhaps OP is looking for a bit of sympathy because she is feeling so poorly?
Unfortunately she has overestimated the capacity of some pp on MN to show kindness

I’m as pooorly as you are OP so lots of sympathy. No way could I have made it to the bathroom in time half of last night so yes a sick bucket is in use.

dh has been a saint all night, he’s emptied the bucket, he’s cleaned the sink out and the bathroom floor when I made it that far once. I e got horrendous diarrhoea as well which thankfully I have made it to the loo in time for.

hes fetched me water, tissues, electrolytes, gone to the shop this morning for Imodium. And by the sounds of it hasn’t gone to work today. I can hear him downstairs. He was maybe worried I wouldn’t cope with the dogs seeing as at 7:30 I was nearly in tears saying I felt to weak to manage the stairs. Have just woken feeling a bit brighter and am hoping that the sips of electrolyte I’ve just had stay down. I feel so dehydrated and weak.

so yes I do think your dh could have done better.