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To ask about totally inappropriate behaviour at wedding?

445 replies

Notallthatx · 06/07/2026 12:50

Was at a seemingly lovely wedding at the weekend. Beautiful setting and lovely ceremony.

One of my friends was chief bridesmaid and she had put so much effort into making the day perfect for the happy couple. But she started to drink a lot after the ceremony and by the end of dinner she was very tipsy and all over the singer from the wedding band. They had been playing some acoustic songs throughout the day and she kept making requests. It was obvious she fancied him.

Later on, one of the other guys from the band was lovely and asked if I had seen their singer because they were setting up for their evening set. I mentioned that my friend was also missing so went to look for them together. We joked that maybe they had eloped or something.

But nothing prepared me for what I was about to witness. Behind the outdoor toilets, my friend was down on her knees giving the singer from the band oral. I was mortified and the other guy from the band told me his friend had done this a few times. We are not even sure if they seen us and I’ve been too embarrassed to bring it up with my friend.

On the up side, the other guy from the band was really sweet and we danced a bit later that night and swapped numbers.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

OP posts:
RubyFatball · 06/07/2026 18:54

Justanopinionnothingmore · 06/07/2026 18:51

Insufferable.

Would people please stop feeding posts into ChatGPT and copy pasting the slop back into threads. It’s beyond tedious

BellsAllTheTime · 06/07/2026 18:58

WolfRamHeart · 06/07/2026 16:31

Thank you!! Thank you so much for explaining!
I was going through the original post and thinking what am I missing

Admire your persistence in finding that answer !

chaosmaker · 06/07/2026 19:02

The only point of a wedding is to hook up with someone and behave inappropriately

RosieSpring · 06/07/2026 19:02

RubyFatball · 06/07/2026 18:54

Would people please stop feeding posts into ChatGPT and copy pasting the slop back into threads. It’s beyond tedious

I really think this needs to go to site stuff. People using AI to reply on here is pathetic and it's going to make the whole site unusable if it's filled with AI slop.

CoffeeCantata · 06/07/2026 19:03

fannysyraunt · 06/07/2026 12:53

Cool story. I love that for you.

You have lived a very sheltered life, I can tell.

Ballotine · 06/07/2026 19:08

chaosmaker · 06/07/2026 19:02

The only point of a wedding is to hook up with someone and behave inappropriately

And then you sometimes end up getting married to your partner in crime, thereby giving other people a chance to hook up and behave inappropriately in their turn.

Itsallsostressful · 06/07/2026 19:09

I'm in agreement with the poster who said OP's bass player friend knew exactly what they would find. He and singer probably get their jollies from it !

But I don't think OP is right to judge her friend.

Radicalrach · 06/07/2026 19:10

CoffeeCantata · 06/07/2026 19:03

You have lived a very sheltered life, I can tell.

Or has been around on mumsnet for a long time

Maninasuitcase · 06/07/2026 19:12

Namesuggestion101 · 06/07/2026 14:44

Double negative the original comment would mean they are both married. If neither are unmarried then both are married.

Spot on! The standard of English on Mumsnet is dreadful!

Justanopinionnothingmore · 06/07/2026 19:14

RubyFatball · 06/07/2026 18:54

Would people please stop feeding posts into ChatGPT and copy pasting the slop back into threads. It’s beyond tedious

It was not me. I was replying to the A.I bot (poster)

PrincessHoneysuckle · 06/07/2026 19:17

Groom grabbing the brides crotch area while they were doing the first dance.

Delladuck · 06/07/2026 19:22

Bride was 5'2 and a size 2 (ish)
Groom was 6'3 and a large bloke
I was standing on a balcony,looking down and saw him walk up to the bride,say something to her and turn to walk away
She ran up the garden and punched him so hard he went flying backwards
She walked away with a smirk on her face

At the same wedding a bloke who was dressed and smelt like a tramp was strutting around like he was someone
Her family where all fawning over him,it was clear who was the golden child in that family

A few days later,he was arrested for viewing 'child images' online
The whole family have stood by him saying he's innocent and 'set up'

Her ds was there acting like a thug (he would have been about 10 years old) while his mother and her family ignored him-he ended up in prison for murder years later

She threw a tantrum because not enough people where watching them have their first dance-she laid on the floor and screamed then chased us through the hotel to throw cupcakes at us as we went to leave

The food was unbelievably stale-nobody could eat it

The couple are still together,she's a controlling cow who has chased all his friends away and he's too scared to walk away and leave their child with her (even though he'd get 50/50,he's too scared of her)

At my brothers wedding my mother threw tantrum after tantrum because none of it was going her way

She hadn't paid a penny but she's a narcissist so I knew she'd do her best to ruin it

Shed had no say in things like the dress ('the bride looks a right state'),the food ('foul'),she'd had no say in the guest list ('I wanted my sisters here!' we where nc with them at the time as she'd fallen out with them) told me i looked 'fucking awful' and 'you'd better not have a drink' (she thinks women shouldnt drink booze) and sly digs at everything the b&g had chosen

Then a guest had a falling out with the best man and they had a punch up

I was just glad I'd fucked off home by that point

ChipswithMayonnaise · 06/07/2026 19:24

HectorPlasm · 06/07/2026 16:43

You lot are like a cross between Miss Marple and Discworld wizards - stop ganging up on the OP!

Miss Marple / Discworld crossover? #goals

StayGoldenPonyGirl · 06/07/2026 19:25

This reply has been deleted

Posted on the wrong board.

Mate, you don't need a mattress, just get on your knees behind the bogs in a field!

@Notallthatx Did he get to finish and what was the set like? I'm not sure if he would have given a better, ahem, performance still full of 'verve' or whether a more relaxed demeanor would have helped his set?

Marscleo · 06/07/2026 19:27

Notallthatx · 06/07/2026 16:11

Yes by don’t compare me to the chief bridesmaid. I danced with this guy and we are actually planning a date soon. Totally different.

I actually laughed out loud at this update putting my son to bed. Get over yourself!!!!

babyursohellbent · 06/07/2026 19:28

lol are you jealous that he got off with her and not you or something?

feelingalittlehorse · 06/07/2026 19:32

Not really a fan of outdoor toilet tbh. That would offend me more than any illicit encounter.

momtoboys · 06/07/2026 19:38

Moveoverdarlin · 06/07/2026 15:00

Matron of honour and I’m assuming dock is cock.

The party was at a yacht club and it was on a pier, which is called a dock in the US, where i currently live. MOH - Maid of Honor, "getting a ride" = s#x sorry for the confusion.

momtoboys · 06/07/2026 19:39

LOL!

feelingalittlehorse · 06/07/2026 19:40

Notallthatx · 06/07/2026 16:11

Yes by don’t compare me to the chief bridesmaid. I danced with this guy and we are actually planning a date soon. Totally different.

Crikey! With friends like these, who needs enemies 🫣

KilkennyCats · 06/07/2026 19:46

Ballotine · 06/07/2026 15:31

I don't think 'classy' sex is a thing. I once had sex in a bunker on a golf course beside a hotel I was attending a wedding at. I mean, I don't recommend it...

It’s a thing. Behind the loos or in front of the bins might be fine for you, but not all.

fatphalange · 06/07/2026 19:50

Notallthatx · 06/07/2026 17:49

Yes, I really wanted to rip the bass players clothes off. He’s really cute but we just danced and I’m happy to be patient.

You probably should’ve took your chance when you had it tbh. Being in a band he probably accepts many phone numbers and then that’s the end of it.

Garybarlowtopfan · 06/07/2026 19:51

A friend of mine the groom got his bellend stuck in the car door. He got a rip off. He looks a cross between Charlie Kirk and Bernard Manning.

fatphalange · 06/07/2026 19:58

Katemax82 · 06/07/2026 17:36

My son and I witnessed a couple fornicating in a large pick up truck in the train station car park near us...the man had the cheek to confront my son for filming!

Come again?

Radicalrach · 06/07/2026 20:03

Katemax82 · 06/07/2026 17:36

My son and I witnessed a couple fornicating in a large pick up truck in the train station car park near us...the man had the cheek to confront my son for filming!

Let me get this straight @Katemax82

Your son was filming a couple having sex with you by his side? wtf

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