To ask about totally inappropriate behaviour at wedding?

[Notallthatx]

Was at a seemingly lovely wedding at the weekend. Beautiful setting and lovely ceremony.

One of my friends was chief bridesmaid and she had put so much effort into making the day perfect for the happy couple. But she started to drink a lot after the ceremony and by the end of dinner she was very tipsy and all over the singer from the wedding band. They had been playing some acoustic songs throughout the day and she kept making requests. It was obvious she fancied him.

Later on, one of the other guys from the band was lovely and asked if I had seen their singer because they were setting up for their evening set. I mentioned that my friend was also missing so went to look for them together. We joked that maybe they had eloped or something.

But nothing prepared me for what I was about to witness. Behind the outdoor toilets, my friend was down on her knees giving the singer from the band oral. I was mortified and the other guy from the band told me his friend had done this a few times. We are not even sure if they seen us and I’ve been too embarrassed to bring it up with my friend.

On the up side, the other guy from the band was really sweet and we danced a bit later that night and swapped numbers.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

Yes, I really wanted to rip the bass players clothes off. He’s really cute but we just danced and I’m happy to be patient.

I call BS on this one.

Undertakers don't normally stay for the ham tea. They need to get the limos and hearse back safely before anyone keys them !

Given they weren’t doing it in full view of the whole wedding, what business is it of anyone’s? Good on them, even if one or both was attached, that’s not anything to do with anyone else.

And that’s perfectly fine - and what you want to do. Nothing wrong with that. Same as your friend’s behaviour. A little outside the box but nothing to write home about or be judged by our friends. If that had been my friend I would have laughed it off with her.

Would you be “ok” with a “good friend” starting a thread about you practically begging posters bitch about you? @Notallthatx

as an aside,I doubt you have any friends let alone good ones!

I think the bass player knew EXACTLY what you were going to find. You said the bridesmaid made it obvious she fancied him and was really pissed and he said the singer had form for doing this. What did you think they’d be doing? Oh yeah, that’s right, eloping.

Did the bass player not um…ring him? WhatsApp him? Use the bands mic to make a public service announcement?

Oh no, he headed straight to the toilets, walked behind them and lo and behold there’s Liam Gallagher balls deep in the bridesmaid chops.

Well well well. Would you believe it? Bet he had a good look too.

Wow so you think tacky behaviour is fine? Do you have any standards?

The bit where these two people who didn't know one another went hunting for both missing friends together is jumping the shark a bit, don't we think?
And yes, as someone else said, why not just text or ring him? Having to do a physical man hunt is very 1989, isn't it?

There were people shagging at our wedding. Tbh I was having an absolute blast and was plastered so I didn’t care. I was 18 when I got married, almost 19 and tbh it was more like a party than a proper reception. If it was a more serious affair I would definitely have cared but we kind of did the church bit and then it definitely degenerated a bit… the whole thing was classless I can’t lie 😭. Chavtastic is an appropriate word to describe it.

One of our guests got really drunk and took off all his clothes and rang around in the scud.

No I don't view it like a snog but equally I don't think it's necessary to shame her.

She should have blown him somewhere private. That's a given.

As I said, he was more to blame as she was plastered and he was at work!

your mate is a legend and you sound jealous.

Have very much enjoyed this thread. Thanks everyone.

Exactly- why on earth would you go looking for her like the fun police? leave people be. Good grief, if this is the worst thing to happen at a wedding it's barely anything. Its not like she installed a pole on the dance floor and gave everyone a show during the speeches 🙄

@ColdAsAWitches She carried out a private act, in what was arguably a private location until you went hunting around for her.

Sure, I'll be sure to have a wank behind outdoor toilets. It doesn't matter if someone sees me, becuase it was technically a private location until someone found me.

Mumsnetters get offended by women's arses being visible in public, but oral sex in a public place is fine.

I probably would’ve burst out laughing. Totally inappropriate of course but she sounds extremely drunk & I wouldn’t hold it against her.

There’s a wedding scene from Gavin and Stacey which is very similar to this exact scenario.

No adults went snooping for them though.

Yes, because only Americans do oral and have sex at weddings.

I love that the 70 year old aunt chucked a condom down!

If you saw me in real life you’d think I was very dull and boring but I’ve done BJ’s in some very interesting places! It’s no big deal really

Yes totally - your friend should have been put immediately in the stocks and pelted with rotten fruit for being such a horrible jezebel slut.

How utterly outrageous. I showed my ankle to the chimney sweep last week but dont worry, I am wearing the sign of the whore 🙄

You are clearly so much better and morally superior than this person! thank goodness we have such a pure and innocent woman to teach us the way!

Haha. I love this for you!

I've been to a couple of weddings where one of the couple was an Honourable or had some other minor title. There was no lack of shagging or general drunken questionableness. The UC get one another's knickers down just as much. Someone (well two someones) shagged in the haha at one on the ancestral estate😀.

Insufferable.

I’ve shagged at a wedding. Didn’t know the couple all that well (school friend - not close - marrying someone we didn’t know, we were invited via Facebook!) it was y2k era, everyone was eating arsed.

DH (then boyfriend) and I snuck out during the evening dance floor bit and had some fun under a big tree in the hotel grounds. At one point I looked round and there was another couple at it under the next tree over. I was too drunk to see who is was!

Hmm, telling that story back, it does sound worse! Oh well!