To ask about totally inappropriate behaviour at wedding?

[Notallthatx]

Was at a seemingly lovely wedding at the weekend. Beautiful setting and lovely ceremony.

One of my friends was chief bridesmaid and she had put so much effort into making the day perfect for the happy couple. But she started to drink a lot after the ceremony and by the end of dinner she was very tipsy and all over the singer from the wedding band. They had been playing some acoustic songs throughout the day and she kept making requests. It was obvious she fancied him.

Later on, one of the other guys from the band was lovely and asked if I had seen their singer because they were setting up for their evening set. I mentioned that my friend was also missing so went to look for them together. We joked that maybe they had eloped or something.

But nothing prepared me for what I was about to witness. Behind the outdoor toilets, my friend was down on her knees giving the singer from the band oral. I was mortified and the other guy from the band told me his friend had done this a few times. We are not even sure if they seen us and I’ve been too embarrassed to bring it up with my friend.

On the up side, the other guy from the band was really sweet and we danced a bit later that night and swapped numbers.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever witnessed at a wedding?

@Ballotine "They’re often a very long day, and people get drunk from too much hanging around with drink and insufficient canapés waiting for the wedding party to take photographs between the ceremony and the meal."

That's on the people involved. There's no excuse for them to get bladdered.
If they have rooms booked then they can go and have a lie down.

First of all - LOL if you think men never go down on women unless they're getting something in return. You've been shagging the wrong men.

Secondly, you've no idea what they were doing before the OP was incredibly fucking nosy and caught them mid-blowjob. He might have made her come six times already for all you know.

Thirdly, plenty of people get a lot of enjoyment out of making someone else come, and don't require a balance sheet to make sure everyone gets an identical amount of physical attention. I find it weirdly transactional to assume that every sexual encounter has to entail both people dutifully servicing the other.

You don't have to be Emily Bishop to think sex acts should be reciprocal.

Sex acts should be whatever the participants feel like doing. It's not up to you to determine what other people's sex lives 'should' be like.

How is your 'special day' affected by someone else having a sexual encounter without your knowledge?

Have you told the bassist that BJ's are off the menu yet ?

Many years ago I was in a band at a big posh country wedding. Another band member went for a stroll during a break and came across - groom and best man having a lengthy snog!

Exactly, she had a lovely room as part of being chief bridesmaid. No idea why she couldn’t have gone there. It’s not the sex act I have an issue with, it’s the timing and location.

You must have jumped to the conclusion that I’m against oral sex. Absolutely not but there is a time and place for it.

After a very expensive wedding the bride and groom borrowing money from the best man because they didn't have the train fare to their honeymoon, because it was all spent on the wedding. The marriage then only lasted a year.

Regardless of your view on people "fornicating" in public, the worst part of your story is that your son took a photo/tried to film them!! And you sound like you have absolutely no problem with that?!

Believe it or not, giving a stranger a blow job behind an outside toilet isn't something everyone does.

You're not alone!

I mean, lots of people used to get up to far more extreme stuff at university balls, and while I never went to any of the Piers Gaveston Society balls or events, a fair few people I know did

Sure, and we all went to uni balls. But, that’s when you are young and stupid. Completely different to the age you go to peers weddings! In no way is it comparable.

Love? And you think giving a stranger a blow job behind an outside toilet at a WEDDING, isn't as bad as doing it on the dance floor or to the groom?

Young people's bars are set so low nowadays.

They weren’t off duty he had to sing the second set!

A strangers sweaty pishy penis. 🤮🤢

Probably with a side order of chlamydia😒😮😖

Double yuch.

Awful 😫

All I can say is that some girls that do this must have absolutely no sense of smell (or taste).

I worked in a dry cleaners shop as a student and the smell from some of the men's trousers was enough to turn your stomach.

These weren't scruffy men either, the trousers were often part of a suit.😮

And some people get married at 21. I don't think the OP mentions the age of her 'good friend'.

Plus absolutely no self worth or dignity. All they're doing is "servicing" a stinking man.

Did his name start with a D?

And you think giving a stranger a blow job behind an outside toilet at a WEDDING, isn't as bad as doing it on the dance floor or to the groom?

Well, clearly it isn't as 'bad' as either of those things, is it? They went somewhere that they thought would mean they weren't seen, not somewhere where they wanted everyone to watch. And there was no infidelity involved. So of course, objectively, it's not as bad.

Young people's bars are set so low nowadays.

I'm 50.

I'm 62 but I have no idea what relevance our ages have? I agree it's not AS bad, but for me, it's bad anyway.

So disrespectful imo.

To both the bride and groom and herself.

I'm 53. What the OP describes with deep horror I would find mildly amusing and rather trad. Weddings are traditionally a hotbed of drunken debauchery. This is an almost classical instance. If there were a 'wedding debachery' series of naughty postcards in a kind of 'end of the pier, nudge nudge wink wink' way, it would definitely feature a bridesmaid engaged in some form of sexual act with the best man and/ or a wedding band member.

Well, there are some people on Mn who think that visitors staying overnight in someone's spare room shouldn't have sex because it's 'disrespectful'. There are also posters who think that moving your bowels in someone else's bathroom is 'disrespectful'. I mean, I can't help that.