I am also thinking of changing my will

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I have 2 adult DC 1 far away in another country the other relatively nearby. I had an accident that has immobilised me for the next few months. I have organised the main help that I need to stay at home but I am feeling very isolated. My nearby DC has not visited me or helped me. I am very hurt. More recently I have got abusive and offensive emails from the nearby one. I have lovely supportive emails from the 1 faraway. I am very hurt. WIBU to change my will to remove the nearby 1? I love both DC very much and do a lot for them. But this feels like an unforgivable situation.

Why was it rude?

You are wrong

Yup.

What do you mean rent? You are making no sense?

FWIW, I know three women who have had very similar injuries. In each case, the foot was pointing in the wrong direction. Two of them were fortunate enough to be living in bungalows, and they got by with the help of friends. The third did have plenty of nearby family able to take turns in helping.

Two have recovered completely; the third is okay, but in need of a revision.

I'm sure you'll do well and I understand the reluctance to fit a stairlift, but would it be worth considering booking yourself into accessible accommodation in order to give yourself a break from the pain of bumping up and down your stairs?

You can rent stairlifts.

There's no way you're 65. You sound 12.

One minute you're flat on your back immobilised. The next you've been using ankle scooters for the past month and going up and down stairs on your bum.

Make it make sense. 🙄

I love my wee son. I wouldn’t ever disinherit anyone. I only put this thread here because i saw one earlier about wills. Anyway. I’m fine. My wee son is fine. None of us need any rented stairlifts lol… goodnight.

I’ve lost track of whether you have money or not, but do you feel like you need to contact social services for a care assessment? What about meal deliveries? Frozen complete meals? And so on?

Goodnight all. It’s amazingly easy to survive in this day and age.

Are you drunk?

I understand you. It's very hurtful when your own family not only lacks respect for you, but isn't there for you in a time of need. Honestly, I don't get it. I'm from a culture where you do anything for your family no matter what. My mother was just in hospital for a few days and family members we haven't seen or spoken to in years ALL showed up for her.

Not giving an inheritance to your son isn't about punishing him, but about not rewarding him either. It's about not rewarding someone who chooses to not give a shit about you when you need them. Unless there's a backstory of you having been a terrible mother, I don't think anything excuses a child treating a parent like your son is treating you. Especially if he has form for not giving a toss about you, and being disrespectful to you.

It's possible to rent a stairlift rather than buying one, since you only need it in the short-term. I believe that it's possible to get some that don't involve a permanent fixture.

I now see that you're in NI, so Helping Hands probably don't provide carers in your area but it might be worthwhile looking into other firms to help out for a little while.

i don’t need a stairlift thanks

No

No

So you can get around, feed yourself, get to the loo, clean yourself?

You called me a cry bully. You are nasty

Just get a life

Wow. I’m only trying to help.

Sort your own problems out.

Did you damage your brain when you fell? It very clear that the comment was that you could rent a stairlift (rather than buy one) since your said that your injury is (hopefully) temporary.

Though, to be fair, the extend of your injury and your lack of mobility changes every time you post, depending on which helps your current claim and insult.

@abracadabra1980. Stick to your guns if you can. I cared for one parent for 25 years and by the end I was a shadow of myself and mentally unfit. It was so hard. I have been adamant since then that if anything happens to my other parent I am ‘over and out’. I love my other parent, but I’m empathied out too and will not reprise my role of carer for anything. Other choices will need to be made.

“I am absolutely and completely alone”, then “There is loads of people that would help me”

You’re completely immobilied, then you’re wizzing around.

You start a thread about cutting your son out of your will, then you say “I’m not bloody well cutting him out of my will.”

You are contradicting yourself non-stop and sound like an absolute nightmare.

Anyone who changes their will and doesn’t leave everything fairly split between children is vindictive, vengeful and calculating.