I am also thinking of changing my will

[Changedname12345]

I have 2 adult DC 1 far away in another country the other relatively nearby. I had an accident that has immobilised me for the next few months. I have organised the main help that I need to stay at home but I am feeling very isolated. My nearby DC has not visited me or helped me. I am very hurt. More recently I have got abusive and offensive emails from the nearby one. I have lovely supportive emails from the 1 faraway. I am very hurt. WIBU to change my will to remove the nearby 1? I love both DC very much and do a lot for them. But this feels like an unforgivable situation.

You mentioned 18 months. Thats a long time shuffling up and down the stairs. Think you can rent.

Tbh I’m mostly having to move dead slowly. I’m sure immobilised flat on my back is an exaggeration. I’m just dealing.

Your exaggerating personality maybe the reason your son is staying away. Bear this mind when you next chat with him.

I think 18 months is when my leg will feel normal please god

OP, I'm curious to know what the other thing you are thinking of is. Your title said you were "also" thinking about changing your will. What was it?

the also related to the other thread that was there today about changing her will.

I wouldn’t have thought of it otherwise.

For as you get more mobile, in case that incredibly obvious fact is peculiarly complicated for you. Ankle scooters are also no use at all for someone flat on their back but you’re happily planning those- did you take a look in the mirror after booking those and mock yourself for it?
Dear Jesus you are not a person who wants help are you.

Try dealing on your own while not being able to weight bear on your leg. Report back.

You are unbelievably offensive. I have been using ankle scooters past month.

Again, that way of communicating is going to make your son run for the hills.

Not everyone has people there to support them. I’ve done it alone.

You are so nasty

Yes, and I think we can all see why that is

I’m really not. Just trying to help you build bridges with your son.

Therefore you can use a stairlift and it wasn’t a terrible suggestion and it was totally unnecessary for you to mock it. What did you say? Dear god, what are you? Many would call that very offensive, but you carry on defining other peoples attempts to help as offensive and your extremely rude responses as reasonable.

Bloody nasty

I do not need a stairlift!!! I have been going up and down the stairs quite slowly on my bum.

A "cry bully" is a person who engages in harassment, intimidation, or aggressive behavior, but then falsely claims to be a victim when held accountable. They weaponise victimhood to deflect blame, elicit sympathy, and avoid the consequences of their own actions.

I have a serious injury which i will overcome.

unfortunately it has highlighted the lack of family support that i have which is where this thread started. I will deal with everything myself as i have always done. It’s has just emphasised it.

go jump.

@Doggodoggo what is it you think i have done?

Agreed.

My family isn't/wasn't wealthy, but we used what we had to provide extra care for my mother when it was needed - it did make a difference.

I realise that you would rather have input from your child, @Changedname12345 , but could you try to contact a care company for help?

I know that this is far from ideal, but better than struggling on your own. I'm in the situation of being a childless widow and there's no help for me other than what I can give myself, so coping on my own is something that I think about a great deal.

I recall a company called Helping Hands being recommended to me when I was looking to organise care for my mother. I believe that they cover England and Wales plus some of Scotland. I was told that they were expensive but very good.

Ok, so you are getting up the stairs on your own steam. Can you see how totally unnecessarily rude this was?

No