I am also thinking of changing my will

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I have 2 adult DC 1 far away in another country the other relatively nearby. I had an accident that has immobilised me for the next few months. I have organised the main help that I need to stay at home but I am feeling very isolated. My nearby DC has not visited me or helped me. I am very hurt. More recently I have got abusive and offensive emails from the nearby one. I have lovely supportive emails from the 1 faraway. I am very hurt. WIBU to change my will to remove the nearby 1? I love both DC very much and do a lot for them. But this feels like an unforgivable situation.

To @Devonshiregal and @DreadedInn. Just above.

Oh well anyway. I am going to try make my way upstairs. Slowly obviously. Good night.

This thread, if true, is very outing. NI is a tiny place the media could easily identify a woman aged 65, 2 children, worth 20 million, with a recent ankle injury. I’d imagine it is a small pool. You might be reading this in the Belfast Telegraph.

I have literally no bandwidth or time for people extrapolating out in that way. It’s not something i relate to. I have enough to deal with.

I hear you OP. I'm your sort of age, though I don't think that's necessarily relevant. You're having a terrible day, your in lots of pain, you're immobilised for the present and your kids don't understand the situation yet. I have relevant life experience, and I also have a DC who had an absolute humdinger of an ankle break with pins in and out and life long consequences. Very nasty and painful, I know.

Right now though I think you're focussing on the wrong thing. Concentrate on sorting your immediate needs. Do you have food, pain medication, comfort? Can you get the loo, drinks, have a wash? Start on the immediate needs, like a Maslow triangle, then go from there. I presume you have crutches or walking aids? Get that brain into action and work up from ground zero, it will give you something to focus on. Disappointing children are painful, but shelve that for now. Save your emotion for later.

One thing at a time. I really hope you get a good night's rest, better days are coming soon. x

lol…..

You’re very rude. If you’re pretty much flat on your back a stairlift was a good idea.
you don’t need your dc for care as you can fund your own care, did you or have you asked them to help you out? Is your son well off? Is he supporting a family? We can’t tell enough to know what your expectations were and if they are reasonable. If children are horrible I don’t think parents owe them an inheritance, but we can’t tell what’s going on here. A badly broken ankle is a long term challenge and multiple ops, I know a couple people who’ve had them, hope you recover well.

A stair lift for someone flat on their back???? What are you?

You've essentially asked for help on an open forum. It's easy to ignore the posts that don't resonate. Unless you are habitually combative and unpleasant. Someone's taken the time to think about your situation and respond. If you don't like the response move past it.

You were also quite rude to @EmeraldShamrock000 for a perfectly reasonable caution.

Christ on a bike.

Honestly, this is one thread I really hope is made up trolling. Because if you're real, it must be a misery to be you.

Good night.

But you’re not flat on your back…

I am obviously not giving out totally accurate details on a public forum. I appreciate the concern but i am not identifiable. I am not stupid.

I am not going to change my will. I have said that way back in this thread. I am going to make amends with my adult child

Stairlift for flat on back is exactly what @99bottlesofkombucha said. ??

I have literally said nothing on this thread other than wow.
And my wow, was in relation to the absolutely terrible way in which you are speaking to people.
I am really sorry you are both in physical and emotional pain but you are really being quite nasty to everyone, including those who are being arseholes, which is fair enough, but also those who are trying to be supportive.

Leave your money to who you like.

@99bottlesofkombucha said a stairlift for someone flat on their back was good idea??

Re-read your post from 00:29.

You have been extremely rude to people on this thread who have given their time to try to help you. You have said inconsistent things that don't make sense like that youre flat on your back but also whizzing around on ankle scooters.

I suggest you go to bed and read through this thread in the morning. If you cant see where you've been rude when your head is clearer I think you have answered your own question as to why you don't have friends and family rallying around you.

I hope you feel better soon and make uo with your son. But I also hope you can gain some humility and take a good hard look at your own behaviour.

I have just wasted 5 mins of my life!! Yes i will go upstairs on my backside.

Hence the stairlift suggestion.

The whole premise of this thread seems odd to me. And there are lots of others like it, where elderly parents seem to expect their adult kids to look after them.
I don't expect my kids to. If they want to, lovely. But if not, fine.

Thank you for your kindness. I never said i was flat on my back although at the minute i am much of the time. I said i was immobilised. Which i am. I’ve got to think carefully when i move so i don’t put any pressure on leg. I’m sorry if that’s so inconsistent. And i am sorry if I’ve been rude. It’s mostly difficulty in translation. And no i don’t have 20m in bank. And no i will not disinherit my son.

It’s hopefully very temporary.

You literally said you were flat on your back immobilised. You've also repeated that you're immobile multiple times and then when people gave you suggestions to help you mocked them and said you don't need help because youre whizzing about on ankle scooters.

You also complained that you are completely and absolutely alone but then you said you have all the help you need and loads of friends who would help if you called them. You cant blame people for being confused!

I never said i was flat on my back

You did, in fact. Yesterday, 15:49

I never block him ever but being flat on my back immobilised with no family help or support was unbearable

I was then. Mia culpa