Invited the wrong child by mistake

[Oopsididitnotagain]

What to do-if anything?

Dd is having a party at a play place, ten children including herself, allowed. It was hard for her to narrow down her invites as she likes so many in the class and also has family friends to include.
I asked the class representative to please send me a list of the children & parents names & numbers. I made a group invite and sent via WhatsApp. One mum has replied to say her child can come-a boy Dd likes, but isn’t particularly close to, all the other children are girls, aside from one family friend, another boy. It was obviously a mixed up number, I thought I was sending the invite to one of her best friends.

Dd is disappointed and I think the mum was a little surprised too 🫣

Would you do anything?

Waiting for the drip that they’re 15 years old

Please don’t say this.

Turning 17

How much extra will it cost? It would be so rude to turn him away

And how much is the cost per child at this soft play to make it prohibitively expensive to add another one or two?

This happened to me. DS invited to party via a group WhatsApp, and I asked DS if he wanted to go, which he did, to then only be told it was a girls-only party. A genuine mistake, mum was really apologetic. Abit annoying, but I understood, and my DS had forgotten all about it by time party came round. I would be honest with her.

You joke but….

Have you told her it was wrong?

I always used to invite an extra person because someone always cancelled.

I only came unstuck once with an extra one but fortunately I had an extra party bag.

If it had been my son, and this was a soft play party, he’s had rocked up, had two hours running around the soft play taking
not a blind bit of notice to who’s party it was and the other guests. Then scoffed the party food, impatiently waited whilst candles were blown out, dashed back to the soft play. And then I’d have picked him up, asked if he had fun “loads”, asked if the birthday girl enjoyed and he’d have likely said “no idea”

I would say I’m terribly sorry and embarrassed but I sent a message to the wrong number. It was only supposed to be a small number of girls (only) from the class - that way she will understand that you’re not excluding her son given that no other boys are coming.

This genuinely wouldn’t bother me under those circumstances - people are allowed to make mistakes without the other party having a massive meltdown over it!

Be upfront with the boy mum but tell her you’re still absolutely willing for him to come. She’ll probably give you an out.

If this is true, why didn’t DD sort this and invite everyone herself?

Is that a typo - 17?! 🤣

Just message her and own the mistake, she’ll probably be understanding and it’s less awkward than him being the only boy on the day. I had to do this for DD’s party this year (she’s 11) as they mixed the classes at the start of the year and I got one person’s number mixed up and invited the wrong person. They were really understanding and said they were a bit surprised their DD had been invited as they’re not really friends. It did make me wonder why they hadn’t said anything but their DD didn’t come, and I was able to invite the correct child.

Won’t she notice herself that her son is the only boy? Because in the WhatsApp you’ll have loads of replies like ‘Kate/chloe/hannah would love to come’ and she’ll see none of them are boys

No I don't think you can now. However did you not already have the parents number if it's one of DD's best friends? We have a class WhatsApp with all the parents on so you can mostly tell which parent is for which child.

🤣😬

Good one

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3 have replied so far, two said girls names, tje other mum said ‘We will be there, thank you’

Cost per head? (You won’t answer! )

You can't uninvite him that's cruel. But I think you should invite the child you were intending to invite too. Can you increase the number?

She's not obliged to answer, and the cost per head isn't really what matters, it depends what she's able to afford.

Exactly this , so many people have asked already 🙄