AIBU to be annoyed by SIL posting about every work shift?

[Mamasamba]

This is driving me crazy! I have name changed for this! Someone gave me perspective before I blow up (lighthearted).
So me and my DP work full-time Monday to Friday (39hour week for both of us-sometimes overtime involved also) my SIL works 2 shifts a week! Not always the same days. Now here is my AIBU. Every time she is due to go into work she texts into the family WhatsApp. “Work tomorrow…have a nice day in the sun!” Or I have work tomorrow…I’m so tired. She’ll send pictures of herself with her uniform on and a sad face with a caption…”do I have to go??” MIL feeds it with “oh poor you” “or you are great” or I’ll make dinner collect it on your way home etc etc. Meanwhile, myself and DP
are sitting here so confused thinking…WE GO IN EVERY DAY!! AIBU to post me going to work every day?!

Start doing the same ! Take turns one of you posts the other lavishes with praise etc I’m sure she will get the message

I dread to think the nasty history between you two

Not every message on social media or messaging platforms is a "summons" for you to appear and give it your full energy.

Not every situation n life is a comparative competition between siblings.

if that's how she gets through life (fishing for praise) then please, by all means let her crack on. It doesn't take away anything from you.

YABU @Mamasamba

I would also like praise for doing the essentials of modern living, the washing up, having to brush my teeth - and my socks aren't putting on themselves!

I just couldn’t get excited about this. Is there a lot more to it?

Perhaps you need to remove yourself from the ‘family’ chat if her chatting with her family on it riles you up this much.

On reflection, I would actually quite like recognition for the washing up....

No nasty history at all. We are civil and chatty but she thinks that working is below her.

Sure… sounds like it 😆

I’m with op here. I am on the receiving end of the same phenomenon. Posing in uniform with other nurses.

This, it’s like the posts on here moaning about what people post on their own social media!

I don’t talk about my SIL under my other name…but have spoken about things related to me etc that she may link to

Archive the chat. No notifications and you can check it out when/if you want to.

Op your disdain and dislike for your SIL drips off your op and follow up post.

It would be interesting to hear SIL’s view on the relationship between the pair of you

Ignore, ignore, ignore! She is doing it for attention.

How intensely irritating. Is she the golden child?
If you start doing the same they’ll get annoyed within about 3 days and there will be some made up reason why it’s ok for her to do but not you.
But I don’t think I could help but respond in some way. “We won’t be enjoying the sun, we’ll be at work. Like most adults”

Oh just ignore this. Life's too short to make a stand about every minor irritant. As you point out, she only works twice a week so she's not sending this stuff daily!

What is going on for you? I've seen you all over a number of posts in the last few days, always combative, negative, nothing supportive to say. I can only imagine you must be having a difficult time in your life and that's coming out via MN.

Then you just start moaning about your job too. Loads of people do it, it doesn’t matter how many shifts you work because in good weather, at weekends, when other people are on holidays you can’t help doing the ‘oh god I can’t believe I have to go work’ thing. Especially in June when everyone seems to be heading on holidays or have weeks off!

Match the energy. Every day, both yourself and DH take photos of yourselves heading off to work with crying faces, posting the night before about having to work the next day with crying faces. Both keep it up daily for at least a week. Guarantee she will stop.

Is she an NHS hero?

My SIL was a PA to a person of high net worth, famous guy. The hours were excruciating but the pay was phenomenal. It was all the family talk, also her failure to get a partner. I used to just ignore it. The family at that point referred to her as ‘poor Sarah’ not her real name.

Let them all just drown in their own self induced mire of whining.

To be honest I think the less hours you work the less you want to go. I dropped from full time work (which i actually really enjoyed) to part time. Now it feels like a chore that gets in the way.