Hubbys job at risk because of family

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DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

"Do one" - meaning "get lost".

This.

There are two separate issues here OP.

1.The SIL stealing.
She’ll likely have to go to court etc, potentially get a criminal record and potentially lose her job etc.
But your DH is not connected to that.

2.Your DH giving his brother his discount card.
It completely depends on how serious the company takes this breach of trust.
It may be that DH can lie and say his brother accidentally took his but I doubt that will slide.

But SIL stealing has nothing to do with your DH breaching his contract.

You cannot blame SIL if DH loses his job as he chose to do something that was against the rules.

I can’t understand why you’re more annoyed at your SIL for putting DH’s job on the line, instead of DH who is the only one who actually put his job on the line.

Of course it is, but he’s only involved because he allowed unauthorised use of his card.

I read this as meaning the op and her husband didn’t know the SIL stole at all (well, apart from men of course) - it was only when he had the conversation with his brother (presumably after she was caught stealing) that the brother told him that he’d told his wife not to shoplift when using the card.

I don’t understand though how she was caught stealing twice, but the staff discount yes has only been found after the second time.

And add potential charges for wasting police time?! Terrible advice

@ThisCoralGuide That must've been a bitter pill to swallow it shouldn't be different because he's a manager .
Employees across the board should abide by company policy.
That was an honest this is how it is post.🙏

No you did not 😂😂

FFS you’re such a liar.

Yeah right 😂 they’ll give him a crime number and that’ll be that

Yes it was but I soon learned my mistake but I’m sure he will get fired for gross misconduct as that’s what I got and if not he is definitely lucky

I'm bit lost on the email debacle..roughly what's that about?

Some idiot has apparently sent a link to this thread to Tesco head office. They also got a reply and all before 7am which is bullshit.

Thanks and agreed

They will get a reply straight away hahaha it’s automatic when I emailed them I always got an email straight back saying “thank you for your email if you would like to provide extra information please do above this line”
so they probably did get an email back from a robot just telling them thank you Hahha some people man

He’d probably be dismissed for sheer incompetence if he claimed not to understand a simple concept like this 😬

Sorry, yes I misunderstood.

What's the matter with you? And why on earth would the OP give you her husband's name?

Good grief.

When I worked at Asda many moons ago it was instant sack to let someone use your employee discount card. You could nominate another user but they had to live in the same house as you. They were unbelievably strict with this.

Haha! You know the Strike books, where they had a nutter drawer in the filing cabinet?
That’s where your communications will be filed @TheseWordsAreMine 😁

I was wondering if that might work; denying that he ever gave it to them and that they must have found it or taken it.

If OP or her DH have used it in the same period that won't work though.

SIL sounds a bit of a nightmare and BIL not much better. I'm not sure I'd want anything to do with them.

No matter how you try to spin this, the original fault lies with DH. He gave his brother the discount card when he shouldn't have done.

That is stealing from his employer, if he had taken a shopping list and done the shopping for them, they would gave legitimately been able to benefit from the discount whilst staying within the rules.
He can now either confess to letting his DB have the card, or lie about how it happened. You are right, he is likely to lose his job. Set of idiots.

DH needs to be totally open and honest with his employers on this. He has to tell them exactly who he loaned his card to and why.
The shoplifting is a police matter surely.
I hope DH keeps his job but lessons should be learned here.

Sadly you are likely right - he’s facilitated and participated in a fraud. It may have seemed harmless, but the discounts are part of a contractual agreement between your DH’s company and the store. It was a really stupid thing to do. Am so sorry, but he is best speaking to them to acknowledge that he lent bro card not fully appreciating the legal aspect of what he was doing - and that he had no idea that his bro would pass the card on as this was done without his consent.

As a senior manager that isn’t going to fly. He should not only get aware of the rules, but also enforcing them on the people who work for him. It’s not inconceivable that he’s previously had to sack someone for giving their discount to someone else, as it happens more often than you think. Not only that, someone up thread says you have to sign to acknowledge you have read and understood the T’s and C’s of the discount card.

He’d have to be incredibly lucky to keep his job under these circumstances.

His job is at risk because he gave out a card he shouldn’t be sharing with family. If he’d followed the correct protocols he wouldn’t be in trouble or held responsible for any one else’s actions. He shouldn’t have given out his card, even if SIL & BIL hadn’t been stealing the fact your husband was giving them a discount they weren’t entitled to means he was effectively stealing from his employer. Your DH is the one to blame here.

No that poster is a very special person and got an immediate, personalised reply from the top person of Tesco thanking her for her amazing services to the company.

I wonder if she’ll also be nominated for a Nobel prize.
I hope so as she is obviously such an important person and does so much good in the world.