Hubbys job at risk because of family

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DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

I would suggest to the brother in law that he should write a letter saying he accidentally mistook the card for his, and his wife then laterally used it without know it wasn’t theirs. We only have one nectar and club card account that me and DH both scan. Once you’ve ascertained the card was used erroneously, your BIL/SIL are going to offer to pay whatever the shortfall is in items scanned vs. taken.

He's the one who commited the sackable offence by giving his brother his card. The shoplifting is reason he got caught but it's not the reason his job is at risk. You are angry at the wrong person. The police will deal with her, he is your problem.

I agree - but I think it is about more than his job tbh: he could face criminal consequences for participating in a fraud . It may impact his ability to get another job afterwards - but OP may already be panicking so was wary of saying so. Honestly, he has been really naive and too trusting of his brother. My DH wouldn’t even let me use his company perks as they are ‘employee specific’ and not for spouses and family. My DH would get barred from his professional memberships and never work again if he did this, even without criminal implications - really, OP’s DH has been very very foolish. He should seek legal advice and take representation to meetings with HR to try and negotiate his way out of this so that he can at least try to protect his future employability.

The card just magically ended up in his wallet?

Exactly this. Your husband is an idiot. Retailers are often very strict on use and misuse of discount cards and it’s often gross misconduct which leads to dismissal. He could easily lose his job yet and it will serve him right. What a fucking moron you married.

And even if they had, so what. OP doesn’t work for them. You can’t stop people telling family members about goings on that directly affect them at work. OP’s husband is already in the max amount of trouble possible anyway so even if Tesco did take action over him telling his wife (unlikely) it’s not going to make anything any worse, and OP doesn’t work for them. So all it does is make that PP look a knob

Just as an aside - What's the rule with students living away from home who work for supermarkets? Can they give their second card to mum to use in a different city as that's their 'home address' for all purposes other than correspondence?

She's not employed by Tesco though is she, DH is.

Yeah this lie will unravel very quickly with transaction data and CCTV.

As a former retail worker, albeit for a different retailer, I imagine a Tesco Colleague Clubcard will also look physically from a regular one (mostly likely with "colleague" or "staff" on it).

he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing

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This isn’t true anymore. You can now apply for a colleague club card for one person living at a different address.

Your husband is at fault - sorry.

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Exactly. Pure scum.

Its his own fault entirely

I'd claim she stole the card tbh. Wouldn't admit to lending it out.

this - and he learns his lesson to never ever trust either of them again

The card should be for you and him no one else.

When I worked in retail (not Tesco) you had to a nominate another user via HR and they would be supplied their own discount card. This could only be someone in your household, although they may have changed and it sounds like Tesco allow you to nominate outsider of your household.

Until I did that, I would only put through transactions using the discount card through my payment card and with me present.

It's not worth the risk.

So then its your husband's own fault isnt it?

Not sure why you are so angry at SIL if he shouldn't have done this in the first place 🤷‍♀️

This has nothing to do with the stealing.

This is everything to do with the fact that your hubby let his brother and sister in-law use his employer discount card, he should of gave them his family and friends card.

The employer discount card is to be only used by those who live in your husband's household.

If he gets sacked this is 100 percent your hubby's fault.

It might depend on the supermarket.

Tesco, the second card can be given to someone at a different address. That didn't use to be the case, but changed a couple of years ago. Morrisons also allows the second card to be someone at a different address.

I don't know about others.

Maybe the husband got his brother to jump out the shops to get something for him, I’ve ended up with my mum and friends cards that way. Since they want the points. I don’t think it’s a stretch. The point is the cash is paid back for anything stolen by a third party. They probably have CCTV footage of the incident too?

As mentioned above, different retailers have different policies when it comes to use of discount cards and I'm not sure what you're saying here aligns to the Tesco policy.

At the retailer I worked for, I had to register my partner (same household) as a "nominated user" via HR. He was then issued his own card. There was no such thing as a "family and friends card." The policies and risks were made very clear when I joined.

It's amazing how many people will steal even a few pennies.

There was a lot in the media a while ago about people who were buying avocados and putting them through the self service tills as carrots.

Some sections of the general public do the most bizarre things.

I’m surprised at the number of people suggesting that OP’s husband should lie about why the card was in his SIL’s possession.

If you’re caught red handed breaking a rule, the best possible approach is to be contrite and apologetic. It’s not to make up some bullshit story about your card getting nicked; that’s just adding fuel to the fire.