Hubbys job at risk because of family

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DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

Because it's ongoing and now being spoken about here.

This thread is only showing that even the extended family are not to be trusted as the investigation has already established.

@Pickybitsheatwave Agree with this. I worked for ASDA and it couldn't be shared or used by/for people who didn't LIVE with you, even if they are close family members. I'm pretty sure he WILL lose his job - and it is entirely his own fault. Unless whoever he works for has different rules - but I doubt it

Surely the inquiry would focus on if the cardholder has stolen from their employer and CCTV footage will show it wasn’t him, but his card was used?

She’s either a CF or a a kleptomaniac.

Your DH is very very silly to allow this. He is not responsible by association to the theft, but he’s absolutely broken his policy by letting a family member use his personal discount card.

I’m sorry you’re going through this but in my company that would be treated as gross misconduct.

Another post to add - if I was you I’d be advising DH to apply for other supermarkets right now. Jump before you’re pushed.

Sorry but this is your husband’s fault. Even though he didn’t know about the stealing habit, the bottom line is he’s gone against company rules by lending his card to someone else.

Obviously your SIL shouldn’t have been stealing but as the employee (especially in a senior position) he should have known better than to bend the rules.

I would not be speaking to BIL and SIL ever again! Your DH also as a manager has been a total idiot

Why a kleptomaniac? Why not common or garden thief? Just interested in the specific definition.

Based on BILs comment around her having form for stealing and them being well off.

The common or garden thief I categorised under CF.

I still don't understand. It's quite obvious the extended family are not to be trusted since the SIL is a thief.

What are you hoping to gain? What is the outocme you want from doing this? There is literally no sense to to you sending this link to anyone at Tesco's.

And again, it's quite possible that the OP's husband doesn't actually work for Tesco's.

Your husband should have said no it's not worth getting sacked for hopefully he will have learnt not to trust family or anything also your husbands brother shouldn't have put his brother in that predicament if he knew that his girlfriend isn't to be trusted. But ultimately your husband breached the rules of his job.

Unfortunately letting someone else use your employee discount card is fraud and Tesco would be within their rights to dismiss without notice. It is also a criminal offence.

"She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job."

Er, no, your husband gave the card, assume not allowed. All his fault.

This in spades!

Do people have no moral code anymore?

Who cares? It’s only an employers investigation

Good point.

I guess it depends on how long this has been going on for and if DH has also used the card in the period that BIL/SIL have used it. Tesco will be investigating what transactions have been made using the card and when.

Someone suggested that DH might have given BIL his physical card, whilst DH kept using his digital card. In which case, BIL could in theory say he picked it up by mistake, but as I said I expect the colleague clubcard to look physically different to the customer one. It feels a bit "dog ate my homework" as far as excuses go.

You are right to be fuming but your husband should be too. He sounds a bit weak to be honest.

You are the most batshit person I’ve ever heard of.

You do realise the employee that read your email would have just laughed and deleted it don’t you?

I dread to think what you’re like to work or live with.

That doesn’t answer the question that @JustJugglingCats asked you.

Why would you read a thread from a very clearly upset and worried woman and see an opportunity to try any make her life a bit more difficult? Why would you take it upon yourself to email them?

He’s already going to get the sack, that much is obvious. And now you want him to be disciplined for his wife’s thread as well, potentially escalating problems in their marriage? What the fuck is wrong with you? Have you got some kind of personality disorder? Or are you just an awful person? The fact that you then asked her to PM you with names is just insane. Can you not see that?

I don’t know if I believe in Karma, but there’s some next level crap coming your way if there’s anything in it.

That could work, especially as she was caught thieving, but only if DP's husband hasn't used it himself since before she and the BIL started using it.

SIL is obviously a complete wrong'un and BIL is little better, so it's credible that one of them might nick a discount card.

It's also a dismissable offence for a Tesco employee. The second card is only allowed for a family member living at the same address, and cards are not allowed to be shared

I suspect every single person caught doing this says the card was stolen, every one. They won’t take it as an excuse.

@DonnyDoris

so the Op should be aware of this
and her husband def will be !

as an aside,
Morrisons was a family and friends staff discount card, so when one dd worked there we gave a spare card to our next door neighbour ( I think she got 3 or even 4 ?)
this was 6+ years ago, so may very well have changed.

As I said earlier, the best defence will be to say the card erroneously ended up with a member of family, given to them to buy something for you when you were in a rush/on a yellow line whatever, then ask for CCTV footage of the theft. Once the enquiry has identified that this man had no part in the crime - the worst they could suggest is carelessness - which is a mistake not a crime.

I think he will lose his job for le ding the card and not following the procedure to order a family one. And tbh, I thought those were only for family living with you.

I'd be surprised if that wasn't gross misconduct in its own right, so the theft issue is neither here nor there; its just shone a light on your husbands misuse of the scheme.