AIBU to feel shocked my 23-year-old daughter is marrying?

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My 23 year old daughter has just announced that she is getting married next year.

I am completely shocked.

Surely it’s not normal anymore to marry that early.

I tried to be joyous and congratulate her but would you be happy?

I want to know why she wants to marry this young.

I know she is an adult and what she does is nothing to do with me but I am really shocked.

Will they? How on earth would you know? These posts are getting stranger and stranger

I think there is a lot more in the world to do. I hope my children don't settle down so quickly. I don't think it's got anything to do with you like the boyfriend or not it's what she'll be missing and the regrets she'll have later on. You can't stop her she has to learn the hard way.

How bizarre, if she's been with her partner a long time (3 years + so they know each other very well) and they live together then if be really happy. I'm not married but with the same partner for 22 years as have 2 of my friends. Many people marry thier childhood sweetheart. I'd be really pissed off if my mum wasn't happy for me at her age.

You know she can do all her growing in a marriage? If there are no financial constraints it's not really anybody else's business.
I'd be furious if someone discriminated against my daughter (who's just shy of 23) because she had changed her marital status. That attitude is outdated. We don't say my son is getting married so that's his career finished! We think thank god he's not drunk with his mates.
Get the bolly out.

Most are at that age. They are still learning about the world and what they can and can't tolerate.

She's just finished her masters. They don't live together. They are still being looked after. I think it's wise to see if they still like eachother when they do live together and pay bills. A young couple in their late 20's bought a house together but they didn't marry. They are both on the deeds no need for marriage where they are concerned. I don't think he wants children but she does.

Who is trying to take your right to decide away from you? Overly dramatic!
it's a fact that couples who marry in their 20s are more likely to divorce than those who marry later. They are less likely than teenagers though.
And they are still more likely not to divorce at all, so there's a good chance they will be fine - though of course not divorcing isn't the same as being happy I suppose.

Why would she have regrets or miss out on anything? Perhaps there wont be a hard way?
How narrow minded.

My daughter got engaged a few months ago - she is 22. They are getting married Jan 28 when she will be 24 and her fiance 26
I couldn't be happier - the man adores her and he is supportive of her in every way.

Of course it will be hard don't be so naive. Where have you been the last 10 years?

What a rediculous statement. How ignorant.
Not everyone has it hard. Plenty of people are very happy. Plenty have enough.
Im staggered at your narrow mindedness.
Mine could marry at 24. I guarantee you she wont have it hard.
Honestly some people just love being miserable.

My Mum was the exception for her generation as she married at 32, having had an exciting career in various countries, had several relationships, and ended two previous engagements. She loved my Dad but honestly, he wasn't a great choice. Waiting doesn't always translate to good decisions.

Live like I do ? What do you mean by that . You know absolutely nothing about what way I live . All I know is I feel sorry for your daughters

I'm ambitious not miserable. I understand not everyone will see life the same way.

I agree that these days 23 is very young to marry, however normal it was 20-30 years ago, and it’s not what I would want for my daughters.

Again a rediculous statement.
Ambition has nothing to do with it.
So narrow minded to think being married at 24 means no ambition.
But i understand not everyone is as emotionally intelligent as I.

Don't your daughters get to decide what THEY want? I really cannot imagine getting involved in my adult children's relationships

Personally I just hope my kids are happy with the choices they make, whatever I would "want" for them, whatever that means.

Takes a special kind of bitter to think otherwise. Can't imagine being a parent who thinks an adult making a choice which makes them happy is a mistake.

What is it that you think she's doing wrong or should be doing differently??

I married at 23, having been together 7 years by that point and bought our house when I was 20.

We're very happy 16 years on. The mortgage is paid off, we enjoy each other's company and we've grown together.

Marriage doesn't take away from your financial independence.

Nope. You are incorrect.