Any similar child please

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My 3.5 year old girl is confident in language skills , intelligent, polite, has an excellent vocabulary. I'm worried that she doesn't play on her own at home for long and a is a big big talker She follows 3 step instructions, never has meltdowns and tantrums are once a month and over in 3 minutes , very organised and excellent working memory and also extremely cautious about new environment, not a fan of excessive noisy places ( so am I )
No issues with changes of routine , very eager to help all the time .. waits in her bed to be picked up for 1 hour playing with teddies or talking to herlself . No impulsivity and always hold hand in public but also very anxious and scared …we took her at a restaurant and she was terrible , food was too cold or too hot , didn’t want to sit . ( that was our second time the first time she sat for an hour playing with me )
she loves other kids and is eager to play with them at the beach or toddler classes ( she plays independently there ) she loves adults as well and her excitement is great when new people come over and she shows them all her toys etc ... she is not keen on rough and tumble and always waits her turn at the playground but gets frustrated because the other kids are faster than her and don’t respect the rule of turn waiting lol but we taught her that’s the right way to do it ( have we gone too far ? ) . She loves 1/1 play with her peers and tends to follow the other child’s lead and very happily go with the flow .
she is totally trained for wees but poos are very difficult to handle at the moment .
she doesn’t go to pre K yet and i am starting to wonder that she is not stimulated enough . we don’t do classes or go out much ( just the playground and supermarket ) could that be a factor that she is bored with the house and her toys ? if we play with her she can easily do it for an hour . am I wrong in keeping her at home nearly all week apart from the beach , playgroups and playgrounds?
I know all of these might point to adhd but is it possible it is just personality or preference for social interaction rather than a disorder

Schools cannot push for homeschooling - it's unlawful. If they feel your child has extra support needs, they have some funding for precisely that purpose and, if necessary, can apply for more via an EHCP. But it sounds as if your child will do fine in school.

My son was a constant talker, never shut up! He is now 45 and still talks a lot. No ND at all.
Some children do just talk a lot. You are looking for issues that just aren't there. Just enjoy your child.

Children are all different - some are quieter, some like to talk a lot - they’re having a lot of new experiences which they want to tell us about, even if they are quite basic and humdrum to adults. Some are more gregarious, some are more self-reliant or shyer. In terms of anxiety or nerves, they are having to do a lot of new things that they haven’t done before; all of us sometimes feel anxious about that.
I don’t think anything you have said about your DD sounds as though she is outside the normal range and, if you are still worried, I’m inclined to agree with the PPs who say that you may benefit from some help yourself.
PS - I also second the suggestions to enlarge your/DD’s social circle and activities.

That was my first thought too, the whole OP sounds really, really, really familiar to one a few months ago. Different user name but other than that, pretty much word for word.

Wait, What?
School wouldn't push for home schooling because she talks.
Shit is they did my lad would have been asked to leave on his first day 😂

My daughter isn´t much into playing on her own, she was also a chatterbox at 3.5. She is totally normal.

She’s fine. Mines also like a radio with no off button from the moment he opens his eyes and does well at school.

So she lacks social etiquette, have you tried the she can only talk when she is holding an item?
Sounds like you left toilet training late for a child with good vocabulary.

that’s such a good news ! Honestly it is a lot to do with listening to the news about SEND and school and I heard it from other parents how tiring and draining is the communication with the school about kids with very low support needs / masking

Have you actually sought any help for your very obvious OCD/anxiety?

Repeatedly, over and over again, people have told you that there is nothing to suggest that your child has any form of neurodivergence. But you ignore them and just keep posting repeated threads, over and over again, inventing symptoms that don't exist, and you're never transparent about the fact that you've posted dozens of times; in fact I think you even change the details in your threads to hide the fact that you post about this topic so often.

As well as ignoring your own mental health problem, you're also being disingenuous and taking other people's time and attention that they give you in good faith. You're using others, including the parents of children who actually DO have additional needs, for your own reassurance, constantly, in a way that's really quite deceptive. You need to take some responsibility and get some help with your mental health. As multiple people have told you, multiple times, with zero acknowledgement from you.

Mine never shut up at that age. Quiet as a mouse once she started school though.

I am very well aware I have anxiety and there is not a lot that can be done at the moment .. but your comment doesn’t help as I know my child does struggle when we take her to restaurants or away etc in a way that’s not normal . She should be able to sit

She's 3.5 of course she 'should' not be able to sit in a restaurant!! That is completely and utterly and absolutely standard for a 3.5 year old!

Stop, for goodness sake.

Sorry OP im not sure what you are worried about? She sounds absolutely fine and like a well behaved, happy, social child. Are you feeling anxious more generally or is the main focus your daughter? Asking as I have dealt with anxiety over the years and this very much sounds like an anxiety spiral (not a rational worry.)

Do you know how parents get their 3.5 year olds to sit in a restaurant?

They take games or toys to play at the table.
They take sticker books
They take colouring books
They chat with them
They play word games like eye spy
They give them their phone to watch YouTube kids on
They take them for a walk to the toilets or to outside and back
They take snacks to eat while waiting for the food to arrive
They eat fast and don't linger afterwards

I have done all of those things with my DC who were then lovely neurotypicial kids and remained neurotypicial as teens

I have always been anxious since her birth not so much previously although there was always an element of it . Yes so to give you an example I was so concerned about my husband’s health ( totally fine ) yesterday because I had forgotten my house key and he said he would be in the house to wait for us but didn’t answer his phone or door so I run to the state agent worried about him only for him to say he went out and forgot his phone

How can she not play by herself but you leave her in her cot awake for one hour?

3 year old's cant sit still give her a tablet if you want silence in a public space. kids aren't quiet unless entertained. your anxiety is the only issue your child doesn't have a problem at this age

You've described a perfectly normal child who was able to sit in a restaurant once for an hour, then was fussy the next time. Everyone has an off day. Maybe the food was too hot or too cold or not to her liking; maybe you weren't interacting with her as much as you were the first time; maybe she was just being difficult, as everyone can be every now and again.

If she's demonstrating anxiety and is scared when out, it may be that your extreme anxiety is rubbing off on her. Even if you're trying to hide it, she will pick up on your anxiety and will mirror it.

She plays in her bed in the morning .. she doesn’t call for us .. we asked if she wanted to come downstairs but she prefers her routine in her with her teddies .. it is during the day that she struggles

If I show her some guess how much I love you or Bing she can actually sit and eat but I was told that’s a horrible thing to do out and about ( giving her screen time when she should and I quote “ converse with the people sitting at the table or us ) again from another parent

Well yeah but that's not been quiet if you are talking to her and interacting, you wont get silence from a toddler without distractions so poppers, shows or games.

Your behaviour sounds very odd. I’d suggest you get help or you’re really going to fuck up your child

Have you ever seen another child before? Your comments are so odd.