Any similar child please

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My 3.5 year old girl is confident in language skills , intelligent, polite, has an excellent vocabulary. I'm worried that she doesn't play on her own at home for long and a is a big big talker She follows 3 step instructions, never has meltdowns and tantrums are once a month and over in 3 minutes , very organised and excellent working memory and also extremely cautious about new environment, not a fan of excessive noisy places ( so am I )
No issues with changes of routine , very eager to help all the time .. waits in her bed to be picked up for 1 hour playing with teddies or talking to herlself . No impulsivity and always hold hand in public but also very anxious and scared …we took her at a restaurant and she was terrible , food was too cold or too hot , didn’t want to sit . ( that was our second time the first time she sat for an hour playing with me )
she loves other kids and is eager to play with them at the beach or toddler classes ( she plays independently there ) she loves adults as well and her excitement is great when new people come over and she shows them all her toys etc ... she is not keen on rough and tumble and always waits her turn at the playground but gets frustrated because the other kids are faster than her and don’t respect the rule of turn waiting lol but we taught her that’s the right way to do it ( have we gone too far ? ) . She loves 1/1 play with her peers and tends to follow the other child’s lead and very happily go with the flow .
she is totally trained for wees but poos are very difficult to handle at the moment .
she doesn’t go to pre K yet and i am starting to wonder that she is not stimulated enough . we don’t do classes or go out much ( just the playground and supermarket ) could that be a factor that she is bored with the house and her toys ? if we play with her she can easily do it for an hour . am I wrong in keeping her at home nearly all week apart from the beach , playgroups and playgrounds?
I know all of these might point to adhd but is it possible it is just personality or preference for social interaction rather than a disorder

Sorry, what's the problem with your well behaved, well adjusted child? Or is this some sort of humble brag?

You said she plays with her teddies in bed for an hour, but also say she can’t play on her own. I’m confused as to what the problem is?

Right. I’m struggling with the point of this post. OP- I think you need other interests outside of observing and analysing your child.

Are you that poster who keeps name changing and is obsessed with her child potentially being autistic?

Have lots of experience with this age range, and on ‘paper’ she sounds completely normal. Yes she does need the company of other children. Exposure to other experiences also builds confidence.

Huh? Non of that points towards ADHD

You sound like you have a lovely 3 year old who is developing in a typical way. At 3 and a half she probably could benifit from from time with kids her age most days, either at playgroups or in a nursery setting. Doesn't have to be a full day.
The only things you mention that could possibly be things to work on are her physical skills/assertiveness - you say she's less able/slower than other kids at the playground, less rough and tumble, more cautious, more a rule follower, more a follower than a leader. This just sounds like a kid who's spent most of her time with adults. It's 'well behaved' and 'nice'. We think of those as positive characteristics, and they are. But they can also hold us back. Especially in girls/women. This is nothing to do with a neuro diagnosis, and everything to do with nurture.

I swear I've read this before and I was flummoxed then too

Are you the poster who keeps dragging her perfectly well adjusted girl to the doctors in hope of an autism diagnosis?

Any similar child? Yes, most 3.5 year olds.

OP do you feel like you're missing out or something because your child hasn't got anything wrong with them?

You'll need to find another way to define yourself. Take up a hobby

Stop hoping for a label for your child and just enjoy her childhood.

All of those traits just sound to me like an emerging personality OP. If I were you, I'd relax and carry on as you are. There isn't any need to pathologise character traits unless they are causing problems, ie, your daughter seems unhappy, her behaviour is challenging beyond your ability to manage, or she is behind on her milestones.

Strange post, OP. Your daughter sounds absolutely fine, completely normal, and a pretty easy 3 year old. Confused as to what the problem is! A few mornings of nursery for a bit of social interaction with the same other children might be nice but not essential and she’ll be at school soon enough

This doesn't point towards ADHD at all! She sounds fine. I do think it would be a good idea to introduce a bit more social interaction as well as the playground and beach and I think that would benefit her. Apart from that, try to stop overthinking.

I also think it would be a good idea to let her socialise more with other children. She spends a lot of time with adults, in particular a parent whose expectations of her are often too high. You said in your last thread that she's starting nursery in September, please go ahead with that plan and in the meantime let her play with other kids as much as you can.

I've seen so many similar posts here about your child OP, she seems like such a lovely girl, can't you just enjoy her and stop analysing her. Young children have their own personalities, its unfair and frankly strange to expect them to all be the same and develop at the same rate.

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Sounds like an OP with rather a lot of time on her hands
Go back to work!

Yes 🙄

If you're that poster that constantly asks people whether her child/children might be autistic, your kids are perfectly normal and you need psychiatric help because your obsession isn't healthy for either you or your child.

Even the constant talking ?

There. Is. Nothing. Unusual. About. Your. Child.

Why would constant talking be a sign of AuDHD? She’s 3.5, kids talk. None of your post points to AuDHD, I haven’t seen a post less likely to be that. I have a dd who has been referred for both ASD and ADHD and she is nothing at all like you describe your dd to be.

My first thought!!!!

I didn't realise this was the same OP as previous similar threads. OP if this is a constant source of concern for you, please go to your GP to talk about your own wellbeing and mental health. This is starting to lean towards munchausen's by proxy. I'm sure you want the very best for your DD, please get help for yourself.

Some kids are just motormouths. I have one. I tell him to keep his thoughts in his head once in a while. But then they spill out again 😂

The real question is, do you have a preference for an ND child for some reason? or are you anxious?

So you think it's only ND children that talk constantly, it's not possible that a NT child might be a chatterbox?