AIBU to say no to neighbours using my garden daily during heatwave?

[notanEverydayThing]

AIBU to say no to neighbours about dc playing in my garden every day this week?

I live in an end terrace house there’s a gate onto a small lane and then a block of flats , I know a couple of the families as the dc go to the same school. They have a small shared grass area behind the flats but it’s not totally enclosed and a bit over grown / messy.

Yesterday I had the paddling pool and splash thing out for my dc and invited the neighbours round . I’ve set it up again today and on the way home they asked can they come again and I said ‘not today sorry but maybe on Friday ?’ One of the mums said ‘but it’s boiling !’ I said I know but I wanted to just have a quiet afternoon/ evening and I have work tomorrow and Thu to which she said ‘so you won’t be there at all? Can we use the garden / pool on those days?’ I said no !!!! I feel she’s being rude! I said happy Friday for everyone to come over again after school but she tutted and walked off

I know it’s hot but I don’t want them here everyday and especially when I’m not home tomorrow and Thursday!!!

That's a big nope from me.

It's so, so cheeky. I wouldn't even be inviting them round when you WERE there now, never mind when you're not.

I hope you have a padlock for your garden! She is insanely cheeky!

The people living in the flats need to clear and maintain there own green space and set up their own pool

I would assume Friday is not going ahead as she tutted rather than said “thank you, so kind, we’d love to”, so you don’t need to cancel anything. If she’s cheeky enough to ask to come round on Friday, I would act surprised and say “Oh, you didn’t seem interested when I offered so we have plans to be just us on Friday now. After the heat, I just want to chill with the kids myself”.

She is a freeloader and l bet she wants everything for free. Don't bother with her and her kids again

I'm so confused as to why so many people are laughing at this. What am I missing?

Suggest that she buys a blow up paddling pool for the wild yard.

Because someone didn’t understand why when the op had clearly put in her post the state of the flat garden.

But for the woman to give her attitude. No. Not acceptable.

Oh. Was expecting something funny. My mistake.

I'm afraid your user name is all too appropriate.

You'd be mad to do that - especially with someone who's already proved to be cheeky. How do you know they'd always be with a parent - especially if you were out? Apart from other considerations, children have drowned in paddling pools, or run around and slipped and injured themselves.

It's a crazy proposition.

It is a funny comment as she has copied and pasted from the OP! 😂

The cheek of her!

she totally seems like the kind of person who would sue you for any injury her child sustained on your property.

Don't even think about it @OP.

The don’t make eye contact again killed me 🤣

but yes she sounds like a freeloader, absolutely not. Lock your gate.

Ask if your DC can play at hers everyday next week when it rains?

You've been more than kind and more than tolerant. Given how they assume you will be ok with using your garden whn you aren't there, I'd expect they would also want to use your house, toilet, kitchen etc and might not pay too much attention to the kids in the pool. One slip, one bump, and you're potentially liable for their ignorance and would have to live with the guilt of someone being hurt in your garden.
Personally I would have told them to sod off, but you're more polite than me. In a few years you will never see the parents from your kids school again anyway, so not worth worrying if you've upset them in the meantime.

She's the unreasonable one .. cheeky mare not your problem she lives in a flat .
Your home your rules .

Good grief. Is there no end to some people's cheeky fuckery?

What a lovely idea. I would do this & also ask her who is responsible for the upkeep of the shared garden & offer to get in touch & let them know there are children belonging to the flats who need an area to play. This may prompt her & other occupants to do this themselves.

Why can't the neighbour do that for her own children?

Actually, I don't know the actual wording inolved, but having large enoguh pools of water that could drown a child requires secure fencing and warning signs,m I believe?

That sounds a good idea. Maybe so in Australia but not here in UK unfortunately.
All too often small children wander off when visiting granny and end up in a neighbour's pond