DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

[Fathersdaycry]

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

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He is identifying problems for you to solve....you cannot solve them so he wants you to " salvage" the day with a big event for him. How manipulative he is in his behaviour. You have been more than generous and thoughtful

Teaching him a lesson for next year… make it count OP

Ive never heard of having to give a husband or partner notice for sex.
Is that a new thing now, will we have to give notice for hugs and kissies.

Maybe a notice for divorce.

Does make you wonder if he acted that way all day to try and manipulate you to get get what he wants this evening.

I really hope he has failed miserably.

Anal cleansing- the new sexy 😂😂😂.

And the invented problem was his choccie bar melting as he refused to put it in the fridge 🤦‍♀️
This is all deeply off putting

🤣And to throw down some Imodium beforehand too…where’s the passion

It is interesting how some men’s minds work,

I expect most of us ‘help’ our small children with cards and treats to gift their fathers, and eat something nice for dinner.

But the day for lots of families including our family, has become how can the mother spoil the father of her children - we’ve sort of missed the point that it’s about the kids showing appreciation of their parents however clumsily thats done!

(obviously in this post the man seemed to expect special sex as part of Father’s Day which makes things more interesting!)

To be fair the celery would require notice so I had time to pop down to the supermarket earlier in the day. You could be the only poster to correctly guess.

When he's been an arsehole, he doesn't get to access one.

Not that it's my thing anyway.

Re the chocolate; do you not own a refrigerator OP?

Man baby
Whatever his requested sex act is I’m afraid I just could not go there with him! Probably never again!

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As pp have said, he's not your dad, and if he was, asking for a sex act wouldn't be on the table (I'd hope)!

Mother's and Father's Days should be about helping the children do something sweet for their parent, or doing something on their behalf (if they're too little) and I'm pretty sure the children wouldn't be asking Mummy to let Daddy have some anal for Father's Day. Gross!

If he wants to make sex requests, then he can save that for his birthday (not that you should feel obliged to fulfil those requests either).

Salvage the day?

My cervix just shuddered 🤣

My orifices have shut up shop. What a turn off.

So you have to do a particular sex act to basically "redeem" yourself; that's what it sounds like.

Sex should never be like this.

He sounds like a bully.

I think you may need to think about salvaging your future sanity and happiness by considering if this is how you want your future to be, OP.

Sec act to salvage the day? He is ungrateful, nothing wrong with what he got.

He Sounds awful. Hope you don’t indulge him in this sex act, he’s displayed a lot of turn off behaviour today

When i read this all i can think of is the song, justin timberlake bringing sexy back.

Ops husband is not doing it though lol he`s not giving notice.

Yes I'd like to know this too.

Gross.

Your DH is an ungrateful man baby.

He is ungrateful .
Just his moaning about chocolate is enough for this conclusion.
Father’s Day is for special bonding time with your kids. Sex is prior to it - to get kids.

I think that’s why notice is given. They can’t just stick it in..or shouldn’t. So I’m told 😎 There’s supposed to be some prep. I hope ppl realise, that doing that a lot can lead to incontinence issues after time…though from what I’ve read, there are a lot of little dicks out there. Someone mentioned 5 inches on here. I didn’t know they made them that small.

I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

He sounds awful. Please don’t force yourself to do a sex act on him that you don’t enthusiastically want to do.