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DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

269 replies

Fathersdaycry · 21/06/2026 22:08

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

OP posts:
BeardOToots · 21/06/2026 22:50

My main question is why won’t he keep chocolate in a fridge when it’s 30° outside? What a weirdo.

PermanentTemporary · 21/06/2026 22:50

Taking Imodium prior to anal sounds like the wrong choice?

Tbh there is plenty of Mothers Day moaning on here. Though rarely about lack of anal sex IIRC.

ChocoChocoLatte · 21/06/2026 22:50

Is he YOUR daddy? No he’s fucking not.

Tell him to fuck the fuck right off

WimbyAce · 21/06/2026 22:51

Honestly some men are vile aren't they?

TheGlitterFairy · 21/06/2026 22:52

This thread is too much 🤣🤣🤣

Dweetfidilove · 21/06/2026 22:52

Esmeraldathe3rd · 21/06/2026 22:14

Highly likely to be a blow job. Not everyone likes doing it and need to get tin the mindset. Or anal, lots of people like to prep by eating light, taking immodium or douching. Not surprising not every considers all parts of sex to be daily sex or that people like to prepare themselves for things.

Anyway. Ain't no one ever entitled to any sex act, ever. And sex isn't transactional. You're not a prostitute I assume.

What did he do for mothers day? If the bar is so high.

Or anal, lots of people like to prep by eating light, taking immodium or douching.

Sorry 😳🫣!

OneLimePombear · 21/06/2026 22:52

Did you stick something 5 inches long up his arse hole on Mother’s Day?

PressureImplosion · 21/06/2026 22:52

I know its not the point of the thread but why do some men see anal sex as a special treat? It's a shitstained orifice. There is poo in there, literal shit!! That will end up on your genitals, what is sexy about shit?? 🤢🤢🤢

Hideawaysomewherenice · 21/06/2026 22:53

Dweetfidilove · 21/06/2026 22:52

Or anal, lots of people like to prep by eating light, taking immodium or douching.

Sorry 😳🫣!

Said so casually too 😂wtf

Hideawaysomewherenice · 21/06/2026 22:53

PressureImplosion · 21/06/2026 22:52

I know its not the point of the thread but why do some men see anal sex as a special treat? It's a shitstained orifice. There is poo in there, literal shit!! That will end up on your genitals, what is sexy about shit?? 🤢🤢🤢

I could never ever do it!

WimbyAce · 21/06/2026 22:55

Just as a heads up my OH cooked the breakfast this morning. There was no pub lunch. He also did the BBQ. He was satisfied with his chocolate (no large bar for him) and I have not been asked to go and prepare for an unseemly sex act.

Wingedharpy · 21/06/2026 22:56

Is it using one of those sex chair thingies op? - and you have to drag it down from the loft and polish it - which is why you need notice?

blankcanvas3 · 21/06/2026 22:56

lydiastattooedladies · 21/06/2026 22:41

Anal for Fathers Day? Normally socks suffice.

😂😂😂😂 excellent

PyongyangKipperbang · 21/06/2026 22:57

Did you ask him why he wants a blow job off his kids to "make up" for the day?

Yes that is disgusting and awful, but thats the point. It might make him stop and think.

You are not his kid so why is it your job to salvage his day?

What a fucking whiner.

Papster · 21/06/2026 22:58

He’s a twat
Give him a punishment pegging
Teach him a lesson for next year

WimbyAce · 21/06/2026 22:59

PyongyangKipperbang · 21/06/2026 22:57

Did you ask him why he wants a blow job off his kids to "make up" for the day?

Yes that is disgusting and awful, but thats the point. It might make him stop and think.

You are not his kid so why is it your job to salvage his day?

What a fucking whiner.

The thing is his day does not need salvaging, it sounds like he had a perfectly nice day. I would be telling him what an ungrateful shit he is.

thetinsoldier · 21/06/2026 22:59

He’s pretty vile for demanding a sex act just because it’s Father’s Day.

And he sounds moany and ungrateful. YANBU.

Papster · 21/06/2026 23:00

Gettingbysomehow · 21/06/2026 22:32

He wouldnt be getting it from me to "salvage the day". It would be a hard fuck off. I cant stand whingeing. Its fathers day, a manufactured clintons card day he isnt recieving an OBE.

Very funny

ClairDeLaLune · 21/06/2026 23:01

MyLimeGuide · 21/06/2026 22:37

Also, hes not your dad??

And if he was - that would be more of a reason not to do anal with him 🤮

SadFaceEmoji · 21/06/2026 23:01

Gettingbysomehow · 21/06/2026 22:32

He wouldnt be getting it from me to "salvage the day". It would be a hard fuck off. I cant stand whingeing. Its fathers day, a manufactured clintons card day he isnt recieving an OBE.

👏 100%. Welcome to the real world pal.

Hideawaysomewherenice · 21/06/2026 23:01

Wingedharpy · 21/06/2026 22:56

Is it using one of those sex chair thingies op? - and you have to drag it down from the loft and polish it - which is why you need notice?

😂What

Hideawaysomewherenice · 21/06/2026 23:01

PyongyangKipperbang · 21/06/2026 22:57

Did you ask him why he wants a blow job off his kids to "make up" for the day?

Yes that is disgusting and awful, but thats the point. It might make him stop and think.

You are not his kid so why is it your job to salvage his day?

What a fucking whiner.

Too far!

TheHappyHippy · 21/06/2026 23:02

You made me snorty laugh 😃

ClairDeLaLune · 21/06/2026 23:02

WimbyAce · 21/06/2026 22:55

Just as a heads up my OH cooked the breakfast this morning. There was no pub lunch. He also did the BBQ. He was satisfied with his chocolate (no large bar for him) and I have not been asked to go and prepare for an unseemly sex act.

My DH spent the day visiting his MIL in her care home. He hasn’t demanded any type of sex this evening or sulked at all.

Whataflippincircus · 21/06/2026 23:03

Great thread. You lot are on fire tonight. 👏