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Welfarisation has made people utterly entitled and unable to take responsibility for themselves and their families.

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hagchic · Yesterday 16:59

I grew up in a working class family. The values I was taught were that you stood on your own two feet and it was no one else's job to do what you could do for yourself.

If you were hurt, you were expected to get up and go and clean yourself up - and stop whining about it unless it was actually serious. If you were ill, you went to bed and if you were lucky some magic lucozade appeared.

If you were sad, then you were sad. If life was unfair then that was just how life was and you needed to deal with it.

You never ever sought charity or took benefits when you were able to work or put up with less. You lived to your own means, not to what you saw on TV or at school - and if you wanted that lifestyle it was up to you to get it.

Today everyone has the expectation that someone must help them, that they are obliged to help them - even before they have made any attempt to actually do the work of helping themselves. They expect luxuries like holidays, pets, new clothes and treats when they do nothing to earn this.

I think self sufficiency is a value that needs to return to our society.

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BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:05

Bbcsounds · Yesterday 17:12

PS. I work full time and pay higher rate tax.

I get PIP.

what say you to that?

You are one of the problems this country has … they are plenty of new reports regards people like you, hopefully this will be looked and very soon!

Kpo58 · Today 18:09

Frequency · Today 13:54

I agree we need all of this and more, but until we have substantial economic growth and enough jobs for everyone, nothing we do will work.

I don't know what the answer is, but I do know we've been trying to fix it through austerity and a series of welfare cuts since 2008. At some point, we need to accept that it is not working and try something new.

Austerity and welfare cuts was never going to do anything else but make it worse for the masses. Refusing to properly invest in the population is a large reason why things are going so badly.

Bbcsounds · Today 18:09

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:05

You are one of the problems this country has … they are plenty of new reports regards people like you, hopefully this will be looked and very soon!

Why am I a problem? What new report is there about me?

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:10

SisterTeatime · Today 09:15

I think part of the problem is the idea that things can ever be fair or the playing field levelled.

Another is the shift over many decades from viewing state support as like charity to an entitlement or right. Neither is a helpful perspective.

I agree that the state makes self-sufficiency hard in many ways by tying various elements of life in red tape and bureaucracy.

I also think abolishing universal benefits like Child Benefit was a huge mistake, there are posters on this thread talking about ‘take up’ of CB when until recently it wasn’t means tested in any way.

It seems clear economically that we cannot continue as we are because the benefits bill is so large but as we all know too well, successive governments will not grasp the pensions nettle, nor other electorally unpopular measures.

I think most people have no idea how hard life could be in even the relatively recent past. The state has stepped in to so many areas of people’s lives today. For some people, benefits are a perverse incentive. There has to be a better way to support those people than just handing over money and writing them off. But the complexity of the economy and job market make it incredibly hard to do so.

They need to stop handing over money and give vouchers instead, that way it can only be used for necessities such as food or fuel, not cigarettes, alcohol or netflix. If you want to do those things you’ll have to fund them yourself!

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:10

Bbcsounds · Today 18:09

Why am I a problem? What new report is there about me?

People on good salaries claiming PIP

Bbcsounds · Today 18:11

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:10

People on good salaries claiming PIP

Pip is not an out of work benefit.

darksideofthetoon · Today 18:14

Frequency · Today 16:31

I'd be up for getting a posse together to deal with Musk, odious creature that he is. Sharing his money out would go a long way towards fixing the mess we're in.

We need to try and change the system so that people like Musk cannot hoard wealth while people struggle with everyday living.

Im absolutely not suggesting socialism but more regulation needs to be put in place. So long as the US keeps allowing wealthy billionaires into power, nothing will change. Trump being president is a blatant conflict of interests. It’s obvious he’s gaming the system to his advantage. America is no more a democracy than Russia.

Frequency · Today 18:19

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:10

They need to stop handing over money and give vouchers instead, that way it can only be used for necessities such as food or fuel, not cigarettes, alcohol or netflix. If you want to do those things you’ll have to fund them yourself!

And when people don't have income to spend on local goods and services, do you think that will help grow the economy and number of jobs available or shrink them?

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:20

Bbcsounds · Today 18:11

Pip is not an out of work benefit.

I know … but if you’re in the higher tax bracket you don’t need PIP … you just want it because you can, and are obviously keen to gloat about it.
As I said, I hope this it seriously looked at soon as the PIP bill amongst the middle class is massive!

Imdunfer · Today 18:21

Frequency · Today 17:54

I was joking, obviously, I do not actually want to do anything to harm Musk, but the fact that there are people falling over themselves to defend the likes of Musk on a thread started to denigrate the most vulnerable in society is making me feel a bit Hmm

And let's not pretend that Musk did any of those things to benefit anyone but himself. Starlight has an annual revenue of over $11bn, and Neuralink aims to have an annual revenue of $1bn by 2031.

Anything and everything that man does is for his own pocket, anyone else who benefits is coincidental.

Well that's the major achievement capitalism.

Use financial reward to get people to take the risks that are inherent in developing new things that benefit society.

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:21

Frequency · Today 18:19

And when people don't have income to spend on local goods and services, do you think that will help grow the economy and number of jobs available or shrink them?

They can use their no UC money for that

XenoBitch · Today 18:21

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:10

They need to stop handing over money and give vouchers instead, that way it can only be used for necessities such as food or fuel, not cigarettes, alcohol or netflix. If you want to do those things you’ll have to fund them yourself!

Yes, child benefits and pension should also be vouchers only too, if we are going to down that tired old path.
Because people on any sort of money from the government are too stupid to know how to budget 🙄

XenoBitch · Today 18:22

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:20

I know … but if you’re in the higher tax bracket you don’t need PIP … you just want it because you can, and are obviously keen to gloat about it.
As I said, I hope this it seriously looked at soon as the PIP bill amongst the middle class is massive!

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PIP is a gateway benefit. it is more than just money.

Imdunfer · Today 18:24

Has anyone who reviles Musk ever looked at his lifestyle beyond the number of children he has and his wealth?

Frequency · Today 18:24

XenoBitch · Today 18:22

PIP is a gateway benefit. it is more than just money.

Means-testing also costs money, and means-testing PIP would cost more than it saved, but I wouldn't hold your breath on common sense (or an ounce of humanity) occurring in these posters.

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:26

XenoBitch · Today 18:21

Yes, child benefits and pension should also be vouchers only too, if we are going to down that tired old path.
Because people on any sort of money from the government are too stupid to know how to budget 🙄

Clearly … as they seem to have a problem feeding their children but not funding a TV subscription.
Why should the tax payer have to fund your kids school lunches but you can sit at home watching Netflix and opening a bottle of wine. Welfare should be for the necessities only, you want to added extras then fund it yourself.

Bbcsounds · Today 18:27

XenoBitch · Today 18:22

PIP is a gateway benefit. it is more than just money.

Exactly this.

Also, my pip doesn’t even touch the sides of my additional costs.

If I wasn’t able to fund my therapies outside working hours, for eg, I wouldn’t be able to work. If I didn’t have an adapted car, I couldn’t get to work. And then I’d be on UC. What then?

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:27

XenoBitch · Today 18:22

PIP is a gateway benefit. it is more than just money.

Which you DON’T need if you are a higher earner … as I said, it’s just because you can have it that you want it.

Pickledonion1999 · Today 18:27

Frequency · Today 13:36

Do you have any evidence to back this up, because everything I've read suggests the opposite: children are staying with their parents until well into adulthood, often remaining after they marry/have children of their own, because they can no longer afford a home of their own.

Agree. Pretty much all of my close friends have their 25-30 year old kids still living with them.

Bbcsounds · Today 18:29

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:27

Which you DON’T need if you are a higher earner … as I said, it’s just because you can have it that you want it.

Have you any idea how much it costs to adapt a car?

Have you any idea what pip is even designed to be for?

my pip doesn’t even touch the sides. And if you want to swap me for my disabilities, go ahead.

Frequency · Today 18:29

Imdunfer · Today 18:24

Has anyone who reviles Musk ever looked at his lifestyle beyond the number of children he has and his wealth?

I don't know about anyone else, but I found his Nazi salute to Trump to be particularly charming. It completely changed my opinion of him. The fleet of private jets he travels on is totally environmentally friendly, and his substance abuse is nothing short of endearing.

Jamesblonde2 · Today 18:29

YANBU by a long stretch. Glad to see 75% of voters agree too.

parkezvous · Today 18:30

Agree. Sadly we have a nation of people who are better off on benefits. Thats the government for you

XenoBitch · Today 18:30

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:27

Which you DON’T need if you are a higher earner … as I said, it’s just because you can have it that you want it.

I suggest you read the older posts by @Bbcsoundswhere she breaks down what the extra costs due to her disabilty are... and you will see that her PIP does not even cover it. Without her PIP, she would not be able to work.
Stop her PIP because she "earns too much", and she would be on UC and not working.

But it is ok... you punch down and blame disabled people for the country's debt. You could become one of them in the blink of an eye.

Simonjt · Today 18:33

BuildbyNumbere · Today 18:20

I know … but if you’re in the higher tax bracket you don’t need PIP … you just want it because you can, and are obviously keen to gloat about it.
As I said, I hope this it seriously looked at soon as the PIP bill amongst the middle class is massive!

Edited

When we lived in the UK we worked out that my husbands disability was costing us on average £864 a month, that doesn’t include loss of earnings as he is unable to work fulltime. If we had included loss of earnings it was closer to £2,000 a month.

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