Question for the 'mellow yellow' folk

[Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice]

I'm well aware that I am going to sound like piss troll but a quick search of my history should prove otherwise!

I'm on holiday with inlaws, I have a tendency to get irritable when I'm forced into close quarters with others so am after an honest reality check from you all.

MN has taught me that lots of people don't flush their pee every time, especially overnight, for environmental reasons or because of noisy plumbing. Cool, I don't leave mine but I understand why people do.

AIBU to think that even if it's your normal family practice not to, you might flush more often when;

1. staying with other people who you are not as close to (i.e. not related by blood, have not shared a home before and in one case not met before)
2. bathrooms are absolutely tiny and anyone entering after you is going to have to manoeuvre around the toilet in order to flush after you so they can use it
3. you are unwell and your pee looks like tea and reeks

AIBU to also think that the lid should be closed on unflushed pee, so as not to let the smell fill the room?

We are all jetlagged so up and down at all hours of the night and I'm getting very sick of being confronted by the sights and smells of other people's piss, but happy to be told if I'm being precious.

Other possibly relevant info - I am the only woman.

It’s not filthy or disgusting 🙄 and it saves water if you don’t flush at night

Urine is sterile when it leaves the body

I'm fine with not flushing wee unless the wee producer has eaten asaparagus.

I’d be saying out loud to everyone “someone forgot to flush the loo just now/in the night” … if they pipe up and say oh we don’t for whatever reason, I’d reply with “oh, just seems a bit unhygienic”.

I have to say though, I’m absolutely astounded people don’t flush the loo every time 😵‍💫, especially when staying with others!

Urine is not sterile. That is a myth.

Omg, I think you are living my nightmare 😮, I hate when people do this it absolutely grosses me out. Why don't they just flush the thing nobody wants to see there wee 🤮

No.

Except there's nothing 'unhygienic' about it, unless they've dribbled on the seat, or you're for some reason reaching down into the loo to dabble your hands.

Because it's a waste of water.

It continually astonishes me how weird Mners are about anything toilet--related.

The smell of someone else’s wee sitting there for hours is gross. Leaving it there to fester is gross. Flushing said wee after a few hours festering will splash up onto the seat and lid .. that’s gross, and unhygienic imo.

Every time we flush the loo (in the UK anyhow) we are flushing away fresh, treated, drinking water. Mellow yellows generally want to limit that.

Plus in our house we have a geriatric dog. If you flush (our only loo) any time after 4am he awakens... then you have to get up, go downstairs and carry him outside for a wee. No one would begrudge him his comfort, but it wears thin when it is every night and yet easily avoidable.

Ok fair enough, didn't realise you were over it so quickly but that's great. Hope the rest of your holiday is more enjoyable 😀

Flushing it immediately or eight hours later will have the same amount of splash.

Multiple people using a lavatory and not flushing it for 8 hours is going to stink to high heaven.

My DH and I have separate bedrooms, so I use the family bathroom and he uses the en suite. Children are adults and not at home. I don't flush at night if it's just a wee as it is very noisy and the sound of the water in the pipes is likely to wake him up. Same with him. However I ALWAYS flush if we have other people in the house and I hate coming across other people's leavings.

If I'm a guest in someone else's home I always ask if they would prefer me to flush or not flush (they always say flush) and if I'm sharing a bathroom with DH I always flush.

We are a flush every time family. Hate festering pee 🤢

So sorry

it contains a low amount of harmless bacteria then

If the in laws and husband have so little respect for you to keep doing this then in future i
wouldn’t stay with them at all.

DH can sort his own delicate family business with pissy toilets on his own.

I think a 'please flush the fucking toilet you dirty bastards' sign would be the best way to resolve this. It's more respect than they are showing the OP.

If the OP hasn't explained that her constitution is so delicate that ideally, she would like them to flush their wee before they produce it, then they really can't be blamed for their lack of psychic powers.

(Though the person whose wee looks like tea and reeks should hydrate better and have a medical check up.)

If OP is the only woman that pee is going to stink because of testoerone. Ever walked past a gents loo? Totally grim.

I am the only woman in my house. I can assure you none of the loos stink, despite everyone leaving wee overnight, as the house is Victorian and the pipes howl and rattle like zombies, and would wake the dead at night.

Yabu to say think that, yet along say it, some are delicate lttle things they pee natural rose scented urine and even their crap is gently scented with Jo Malone fragrance.😉

I live on my own and let it mellow if I’m up during the night only because my ensuite backs onto my neighbours bedroom and due to the layout of the room their bed is up against the adjoining wall, i flush freely anytime before midnight.
when I stay with DP or anyone else for that matter it get flushed every time.
toilet lid should always be down in my opinion. Only up when the toilet is being used and the person with foul smelling dark urine needs to drink more water and seek medical help that cannot be normal 🤢

The thing is, the OP is the "outsider" so it doesn't really matter if everyone on MN agrees they are gross and should be putting the lid down and flushing. The majority who are sharing the space are non-flushers. So either OP speaks up herself and asks the blokes to flush, asks her husband to have a quick word since it's his relatives or she grumbles to herself that they are gross and puts up with it for however long she's there. Seeing as she says she is there for a delicate family situation, I would think the best thing in the circumstances is just flush before she uses it and try not to let it take up too much head space as speaking up might cause unnecessary ructions and upset.