Question for the 'mellow yellow' folk

[Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice]

I'm well aware that I am going to sound like piss troll but a quick search of my history should prove otherwise!

I'm on holiday with inlaws, I have a tendency to get irritable when I'm forced into close quarters with others so am after an honest reality check from you all.

MN has taught me that lots of people don't flush their pee every time, especially overnight, for environmental reasons or because of noisy plumbing. Cool, I don't leave mine but I understand why people do.

AIBU to think that even if it's your normal family practice not to, you might flush more often when;

1. staying with other people who you are not as close to (i.e. not related by blood, have not shared a home before and in one case not met before)
2. bathrooms are absolutely tiny and anyone entering after you is going to have to manoeuvre around the toilet in order to flush after you so they can use it
3. you are unwell and your pee looks like tea and reeks

AIBU to also think that the lid should be closed on unflushed pee, so as not to let the smell fill the room?

We are all jetlagged so up and down at all hours of the night and I'm getting very sick of being confronted by the sights and smells of other people's piss, but happy to be told if I'm being precious.

Other possibly relevant info - I am the only woman.

I think it's probably habit for them tbh. You know like it's habit for you to flush and put the lid down and you dont even think about it? It's probably that rather than active thoughtlessness. Doesn't help you though and having to deal with someone else's smelly wee is not nice.

We don’t flush wees at night to avoid waking the children. But if we had guests staying we would!

I'd just flush and move on with my life. It's not that deep. Piss isn't intrinsically dangerous, some people drink it.

Flick the lid down of you're really bothered.

In your own house, with agreement of others, then leave pee sometimes if you wish. But in hotels or shared spaces that aren't your own home then you should flush after every use.

I'm not that fussed about lid being open or closed but I wouldn't leave pee in the hotel toilet. It could stink out the room.

Have you considered splashing? That's why I hate it so much.

I’ve only practiced this when I was a totally broke single mum. It was just me and DD but when we had people over I went all out and flushed the loo after every wee 😂 Once my boyfriend (now DH) moved in, we were back to flushing every time.

Youre not unreasonable to not want to have to look at and smell other people pee. But that being said, if we all agree with you, will that give you more confidence to tell them? I suspect not. Also, if there are more delicate family things at play, does it really matter?

I’m generally a ‘let it mellow’ type at home, although that’s for my own wee which tends to be almost clear in colour and doesn’t smell. DH’s wee tends to be a bit more sturdy so I’d rather he flushed. 🤢 But either way, when sharing a bathroom with anyone else, I would flush every time.

I always wonder that too. I always flush the toilet and so do the kids, it's only DH who doesn't and I hate it because it smells, especially first thing. I think it's pretty gross not to flush anyway.

On my own I'm a non flusher at night, as long as it's pee only. Otherwise it would be too gross. But that is because where I lived before there was actually a rule in the block of flats, that no flushing was allowed after 22:00. Now, I've just kept that habit, but with guests it's flush each time. On holiday and sharing a bathroom/WC too.

Lose your shit! These blokes are rank and lazy. They can flush the toilet ffs, or stick to one loo exclusively and leave you to yours

bet they are pissing on the floor too.

don’t put up with this.

I agree op everyone should flush themselves if your away especially no one needs to see or smell your piss. I get pissed off literally if I have to do it at home after my own family it’s disgusting. Smelly piss is definitely not helping the environment.

Jeez, if the site of an unflushed wee is going to spark a state of apoplexy you should possibly rethink your holiday! A poo would be seriously grim but come on, it's only urine!

Ah, that was relevant information 😃

just flush it, and tell your OH to make sure he does, and bugger anyone else.

Smelly piss is definitely not helping the environment

Eh? I wold argue that using litres of water after every piss affects the environment more.

Take a blue toilet block to put into the cistern. Pleasant scent and tints the water!

@Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice

God there are some grim MF among us.

All the non-flushers, after how many uses do you flush? And doesn't it stain the bowl if you don't flush? And if you're a 'don't flush at night' household what happens at night if it's someone's period or if they do a poo? Presumably flushing is allowed then?

@Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice Ask them all together to flush after use and absolutely point out that one of them needs to up his intake of water. That might embarass at least one of them into flushing.

Well I disagree they have just flown somewhere they can’t be that bothered about the environment each to there own as they say.

I don't know whether to laugh or barf at the thought of 'sturdy' wee!

We don't flush at night for a wee in our own home. But anywhere else, we flush.

I simply could would not be able to walk out of a bathroom leaving without flushing my wee away.

In your situation I would flush the moment I got in. Use the loo, then flush again. To make a point.

I hope they wash their hands.

Tell me they at least flush the poo.

I knew a woman who used to do this. Flush before use if there was so much as one sheet of toilet paper left behind from the previous user’s flush. Then use and flush after. She was German, but I’m not sure if that habit is typical of Germans.

I think you're exaggerating how bad it is (probably in multiple respects) because you're annoyed about it - which I get, but you're only pissing (sorry) yourself off further by snowballing it in your mind. Just flush it then go. As a PP (sorry) said it's not worth the energy to be upset about this.