AIBU to think that all men are…

[Millie2008]

… really pretty useless?! Well not all men I’m sure.
But a lot of them.
I just feel like I’m seeing examples of useless men
every way I turn…
-weaponised incompetence
-childishness
-selfishness
-carelessness
the list goes on…

I feel like once you see it you can’t unsee it. Friends, family, personal experience, out in public, everywhere!

Happy to be proved wrong

I was just thinking, I’m not sure I can ever go back
to dating men. At my stage of life they will likely be divorced men. And all I’ll be thinking is what did you do to piss your ex off enough to want to leave you…

Most men are cunts. Fact. Finding the good minority ones is a skill.

OP so your father, brother/s, uncles, work collegues, cousins all are useless?

I am very lucky. My DH is better quality than I am. Kind, patient, does half house work, lots of the mental load (possibly more than me), works hard. Obviously not perfect but better in lots of ways. My Dad is quite similar so hope DD will also find similar.

I did go through quite a few unsuitable twats but sacked them off pretty quickly.

Best hope for our children.Is to sack off shit men and find them quality role models to see what they should go for. A teach them being alone can be great and infinitely better than being with someone below par.

Been with my husband since 1983, still best of friends now
Guess I’m lucky!

Fuck yes!! My dad is a raging bell end, my brother is sweet but feckless and struggles with basic adulting on the regular, I have a couple of cousins who are very much the 'babysitting their own kids' types and a series of male relatives who think I'm 'soft' because I won't force feed my kids or insist that they cut their hair so they don't 'look like girls'.

I worked for years with a bloke who told his wife he worked until 7 to avoid the witching hour while he sat around waiting out the clock. One bloke who always volunteered for travel and told his wife he had to go or his job would be on the line. And one who used the immortal line 'she was a lesbian, but she was actually quite nice' and then got really shitty and threatened me with HR when I pointed out his flagrant homophobia!

And that's just common or garden misogyny and selfishness - actually not that bad in the scheme of things as they aren't violent thugs or casual sex offenders like so many men seem to be.

Almost every dickish man has a family - seeing them up close (more regularly than I'd ideally like) is one of the ways you can tell a man is an unevolved twat.

TBF, my husband is a legend, but we've been together since we were very young, and I suspect he would have been a full on lazy bastard if he'd met someone that would put up with it. Fortunately for him, he met me, and I wouldn't let him! 😇 (And fortunately for me, he wasn't one of those secret wankers that starts treating his partner like shit when kids come along - I've been 'lucky' in that respect!) 🙄

it's partially hormone driven, women in perimenopause experience this phenomena where the rose tinted glasses fall off.
and yes once you see it, you can't unsee it, and no hrt won't change that aspect of life.

They also stink.

Obviously, I'm not joking

Hmmm. Father is good. Brother a complete abusive twat. Uncle good (but cheated on his wife). Work colleagues range from great to fucking terrible. As do the women TBF. Cousin, fucking cunt. DH is awesome. ExH twat.

What’s that? About 50% being generous.

Now I love DH and hope for the best but when I see the state of a lot of teenage boys around DD, my goodness what a shower. But her best mate is male and wonderful. Raised by 2 women though, just saying.

I have lots of male friends and they are not like this. I hear about men like this, but I don’t know any.
My Dad, husband and brother are legends .My Father in law is a gorgeous bloke.

You are definitely in the right place to have women queueing up to tell you how horrible 99% of the male population is, and that's a conservative estimate. 😏

Most, not all. The vast majority of men are astoundingly selfish, and I have stayed single for that reason. I refuse to waste my life cleaning up after some selfish lazy sod.

However I admit that I have finally met a decent one at work. He is married to a lady who had one child and now they have a second together. He treats both children as his own, adores them both, loves his wife and can't do enough for her. And best of all, he does it all happily.

I am working with a unicorn 😁

Sad to agree that I personally don’t know any good men - Father, brothers, partners all been bad apples.

I have heard there are some though. 🧐

Yep. There are a few good ones out there but the majority are useless.

I love my OH dearly but he is generally incompetent and often thoughtless. If we split up or anything happens to him, I wouldn't have another man if he was gift wrapped.

Don’t go back to dating men then, no-one cares except you I suspect 🤷‍♀️

And why would anyone care enough to prove you wrong?

What would anyone here have to gain?

These threads occur on an almost daily basis, so enjoy your man-free life and don’t give it any more thought 🌺

Absolutely this.

Ironically, if you read any such thread, you could reasonably leave it thinking 99% of women are absolute cunts and/or unhinged/bitter. Not really a representative example though.