AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Your son and partner know what you’re like so they’re going along with it.

Its creepy and weird though. If this isn’t a joke I’m with the poster who said ‘oh honey, no!’.

Absolutely not.

I went to my eldest dd's prom. She wore a purple dress (vintage velvet Laura Ashley if anybody cares, along with black New Rock boots and a Mohawk). I wore a navy tux and bowtie.

(I teach at the school she attended. We took a selfie outside and that was it).

OP, I think it's a bizarre thing to do but if you don't care and he doesn't care, then do it. I find fake nails bizarre too. And eyelashes on cars. But these things don't affect me one iota.

😅 What's with that toilet roll cover dolly on the left?

As previous posters have said this SMACKS of main character energy. Were you always such a pick me girl? Seriously, wear something normal, because it’s HIS prom, not yours you absolute nutter.
Im assuming nothing and no one will get you to change your mind now as you seem truly fixed on this plan, but as a mum of 2 boys myself, I really really feel sorry for him.

Just take some photos of him with his parents in normal clothes - it’s way over the top to get dressed to match for a 5 minute photo op in the garden , were you planning on getting the photos printed onto a canvas or something ? What about his dad is he just not going to be in any photos ?

This - why would you even do that to the poor sod 😂
Matching them colour wise?! Just no

Your husband is probably desperate for you not to do this, so was forced to express that in the strongest terms.

You're not going to listen to anyone though, are you? You don't have the required humility.

Re. getting two suits so he has a choice. He had a choice - when they were still in the shops and you still had your money!

It’s your sons night not yours, trying to match a teenager is weird, take photos in what you would normally be wearing and stop trying to muscle in on your sons night it’s odd.

I don't do fake nails or even makeup I just like the idea of making an effort to look nice even if it is only for a photo. I'm not about to stalk my son to his prom he's going with his friends. I would have chosen a purple dress even if his suit wasn't purple to be perfectly honest

Roll up! Roll up! See the amazing back pedalling purple clad poster!!

Getcher popcorn here!!

Please don't judge all Mum's of boys, we aren't all like this!

Op this is insane, are you just getting dressed up to have a photo in the garden? Or going to drop him at the prom in your purple dress? He will me mortified surely.

Prom photo's that I have seen involve the teenager and their mates / girlfriends. Not a weird Mum date photo. What on earth are you thinking?

Your son’s going in a purple suit? Is the prom fancy dress? Is he going as a gameshow host?

As for you and the matching dress, don’t even think about it.

OP you asked AIBU , you have got a clear answer here. Will us accept the answer and stay out of your son's event?

No no no no no no no.

Please do not do this.

Hey, we're not all like this, you know 😁

Did you get dressed up to match your DD’s for photos on their proms?

I don't really understand why you can't just wear your normal clothes and have a photo? In what way will the matching dress make the 'memory' any better or more special?

I think this is a little weird to be honest.

This is your son's night and not yours.

When my DD's went to prom the photos were all of them and their dates/friends. Its nothing to do with me so it never even crossed my mind to even have a photo with either of them on their special night.

And that is just the photo itself, never mind the fact you have got yourself a new dress for this occasion that is not yours.

For graduation? Yes. Prom? No.

Sorry OP. I just think this is strange and is giving 'look at me' vibes.

Weird and icky, it’s nothing to do with you OP, your role is to buy the suit and take the pics, not feature in them 🤢

What the f#cking f#ck? 😧 It's his night, not yours. Why are you trying to steal his night and limelight?

It’s a no from me, as a mom of three boys. When my eldest had his prom, me and his dad had a photo in the garden with him, both of us in our casuals. The concept of dressing g up to match him is just bizarre! Prom is very definitely about them, not us!

I agree with PPs.

Main character syndrome.

Weird and icky.

Yes, you are being unreasonable says Everyone

Im going to argue anyway says OP