AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Most arnt HTH.

He isn't the youngest at all he has two younger siblings also

Really sorry but my son (who has prom next week), would disown me if I did this!

Imo that sounds awful 16 year old boys dont want mother son photos. He wants them with a GF or BF or group of friends.

His friends parents wont be doing this. I think its making his prom about you showing off your boy. So I voted YABU

Im trying to picture it, is it like either of these?

would you be brave enough to link a photo? I can’t stop laughing at the replies.

My daughter will have a photo with me and her dad before prom. That's fine. But matching OMG no!

My boy had prom last night. The only part we played was to purchase the suit and drop him off and pick him up.
He had one photo at home and the rest were taken by the professional photographer. This isn’t anything to do with you. Also it’s prom, not his wedding!

Round here all the parents get photos with their kids before they go off

Guilty as charged🤣🤣🤣

The matching is seriously weird Op. By all means have photos before he goes but it reminds me of what American couples do together, coordinate outfit and buttonhole etc for the prom.

OP, your original question was, was your husband being mean. No, he wasn't, he was stating a sentiment shared nearly universally on this thread. Now you have your answer, what will you do?

Return the dress and get yourself a nice day dress that’s into too formal, maybe something that has purple details like this and do your hair and make up like you would for any usual casual event, not the full glam.

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If you get a lovely picture together you’ll look put together and it will be a lovely memory but he’ll not be mortified with him mum turning up dressed like the girls his age and it will seem a bit more coincidental than curated.

No. Please don’t.

Hope that helps.

He'll never have a long term gf the way you're going.

I'm imagining a Victoria Beckham style mum draped around a teenager! I really wouldn't OP, the poor kid will be mortified if his friends ever catch a glimpse of the photos.

Do they all match the kids outfits?

No, please don’t do it - totally unnecessary and a little weird.

Eek no! I have some nice prom photos- DS1 with his brother at the venue. I think there is one of the 2 of us but I'm in jeans as I was dropping DS2 off to an activity after. That would be ultimate cringe, and would make the event about you, but it sounds like you are going to do it anyway! Don't be surprised if he doesn't want them on display!

Like I'm not fussed whether or not he has a girlfriend to be quite honest I'm not that nosey and intrusive. But for the other poster to say it's telling that he doesn't because I'll fuck up his relationships is pretty ridiculous. I asked for opinions considering what my partner said and wanted to know if anyone else thought he was being unnecessarily mean about it. Clearly a few agree with him.

So out of 701 votes to date, 98% think OP is being unreasonable. Does that not tell you something, @MissRaspberryRipples ?

What does your son think?

My sons both had a pre-prom meet up at friends houses. The parents went to wave them off and there were some group photos in the garden.
So I don't think a family photo is unusual but the matching outfit definitely is.

Well then I really don’t understand.

There’s no even well it’s the last one to go over the top parenting.

It’s just weird. I’d say the same if it was dad dressing up in a tux with matching tie for a prom photo as well.

I expect if his mates found out there found be much laughing and taking the piss about taking mummy to prom even though you are not actually attending.

More than a few, OP.

Can't you see that you're overstepping here? Why the need to put yourself front and centre on your son's special night?