AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

I do not know what the fuck some of these people are on. Maybe if they had a nice relationship with their child like you clearly have they would understand.

go for it. My mum did similar with one of my nephews on his prom and she loved it.

im wondering why all of these people are going to their kids prom since they think it’s normal to be at the venue with their child?

also, I LOVE his suit.

My sons prom was Friday night and you definitely would have looked weird/out of place

Please don’t!

It's weird!

God no. Please don't. It's a bit cringe. In the nicest way,it's not your night.

sooo weird, creepy

presumably you have plenty of money to waste on outfits for yourself for a child s prom

I don’t agree with you matching him, sorry.

Fine to have some photos before he leaves. But you dressing up does make the occasion of having photos before he leaves about you. When it should be about him.

I hope I’m allowed to disagree without being called a bully…

People on here are just mean. I don’t see anything wrong with having a lovely photo with your son before his prom, the dress sounds lovely, the lady has said she’s not turning up to his prom with him so I don’t see the harm. I’d wear something less matchy if I was going to the venue to take pics as they arrive and go in. Hope he has a lovely time and you get your beautiful photo together

I haven't read all the pages but why dont you and he have some mum and son photos in your matching outfits on a totally different day. I get where you're coming from in it's nice to get pics together when he's looking great and I also get the idea of wanting to share in his moment and the vibe. Glam up a little on the day, save the purple for a special time for you both and focus on keeping a low-ish profile that's geared to make sure he's living his best life 💜

Can you not take a nice photo for the memories in normal clothes? Sorry, but this is weird and the other people there will think so, too.

What is wrong with you? Nightmare MIL in the making….well already fully formed 🙄😬 your poor son and his future wife

Please write in to the hellpod for their takes on this!
I think this is fabulous, you have a gay son, lean in! He'll be able to use this for material for his Edinburgh fringe show and as a hilarious anecdote for the rest of time. Definitely do it!

Op are you and your son neurodivergent by any chance?

Nobody has said you can't disagree that's fine. Those referred to as bullying are the ones who are indicating that it's creepy disgusting and going as far as indicating that there is some form of incest going on-thats taking it too far. It's one thing having an different view but it's very OTT to say that a mum wanting a nice photo with her son simply must mean there's something sinister going on

I think its a sweet idea and something nice to look back on.

Some of these comments are bizarre and the people making them are nasty and weird!

My two older boys wouldn't have batted an eyelid and my four daughters would think it nice.

His jacket is lovely. Feel sad for all these kids (including my own really) that just want to be sheep wear the exact same as everyone else and are too scared to actually be themselves. Also utterly bizarre that some people think its odd for a 16 year old to be more interested in girlfriends than actually concentrating on studying. Good for him! Hope he has a wonderful time and you enjoy your photos and the memories

Too many people embarrassing themselves on here behind their screens 🤦‍♀️

Just read all the OP posts and think the title of the thread is misleading. A £15 dress from Shein to have photos in the garden/house with no other friends there is a far cry from 'dressing up to match' so I think MN thread title generator has something to answer for here! I was definitely imagining you in a floor length satin gown with all his mates round the house. Maybe the only thing I'd do is pop some jeans on before waving him off out the house? Don't know if I'd even bother if it's not a flash dress. My kids are pre school and I'll be totally haggard in another 12 years so I'll probably just stand in the corner clinging onto my zimmerframe. I think so long as you're not hogging the bathroom or preventing yourself from being there for him it's fine. I dressed up as Cinderella to save £300 on an entertainer for my kids' birthday party and I'm sure mumsnet would have my life for that. I was very much the centre of the party but they bloomin loved it. You know your boy best. Sorry you got so much hate. Why are people vile? I definitely reckon you should do photos at another time as well, though. Then you can take time and get more.

The other people in her house will think its weird? Her son already knows and likes the dress. She has repeatedly said she wount be leaving her house

Are you?

Yeah please don’t do that.

It's his day, with his friends and his memories.
Stay out of it.
Take a few informal snaps at home but the best pictures will be the images you treasure in your head.

Weird - makes me think that you would wear a white lace dress to his wedding as well!

Yes. It’s nothing to be ashamed of.

It’s weird most photos I see of parents with teens on prom night parents are dressed casual. Wtf would you want to match if he’s got a date they might want to match but most don’t bother.

You post for people’s opinions @MissRaspberryRipples but you seem to want to argue with any poster who think a what you’re doing is icky. Most posters think this. You seem overly enmeshed with your DS.

A lot of posts to go through every one, but no one I've seen has made the obvious suggestion.

Just ask your son and see what he says.

People's opinions are normally tosh and I'm not sure why so many people bother asking for them.