AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

That’s weird. You’re his mum not his date…

It's you who commented re his lack of date. It's you who wants to dress up for a photo. It's you who's wasted money buying 2suits irrespective of cost. It's you. You. You....im guessing as someone who was once a 16 year old boy that he's agreed to things to keep you happy and you are making this about you...otherwise why would you post on here.

Definitely dress up for family pics, but matching is a bit OTT.

Yeah and he’s 16 not 6!

Why are you trying to suppress him? 16 year old lads are full of testosterone and very much so interested as in women (or guys) but the point is they are sexually active.

The way you speak about your teenage son is cringe. Overbearing boy mum to the max.

well if you want to be on that tv series I love a mamas boy YANBU, jokes aside it is weird.

So strange that it was something you thought of…

Oh hell no.
Super weird.

This sounds like an episode of Amandaland.

WTF my 16yo son would die of embarrassment if I did this (and we have a v close relationship).

Yabu, big time. It’s not about you!

That is so creepy OP. He’s your son, not your date. It’s not your prom, you’re a grown woman.

So parents ain't even going to the prom, you are just dressing up to match to take photos in your home?

Yeah, very weird, no need just take a photo if him. Ao strange to buy a dress to match just for the photo. Let him have his moment, this is nothing to do with you and your need to play dress up to have a photo of you looking lovely. It is very strange and no other parent will be doing this

“I asked for opinions considering what my partner said and wanted to know if anyone else thought he was being unnecessarily mean about it. Clearly a few the majority agree with him.”

fixed it for you.

Did he choose the purple suits? Or have you chosen them - you mention you like purple as a colour. Has he had a say in it? Is purple a colour a 16yr old boy would wear to his prom? It just sounds odd.

But no one is going to see. They’re in their garden at home and she’s not sticking them on social media. What on earth is wrong with that?

Kate and George match when doing public outings so maybe its a thing.

It doesn't matter what other people think about it OP. The only person you should ask is your son.

I know. Imagine an individual 16 yer old thinking differently to you! Odd!

Since 2023 I've had two big bereavements and my partner has cancer. I still don't want to be ostentatious and I still shop in the chazzers. Your woes are irrelevant - you'd have done all that anyway.

I'm very cool 😎 You'd hate me.

Could you not wear some nice jeans from Per Una M&S and a nice top with a nice waterfall cardigan from M&S or Peacocks in case it’s cold? Footwear wise…something sensible and comfortable like Sketchers? Or something similar?

It’s weird

ODFOD and take your faux coolness with you, it's not a race to the bottom ffs amd I wasn't trying to justify, I have nonneed too🤦🏻‍♀️.

I don't deny in any way that I would have paid that money regardless, 2022 could have been our best year yet and she'd still have worn a red carpet ready dress.

I can't see it's ostentatious to wear a dress the OP has clearly said she would wear again that happens to compliment her son. As always on here lately though it's the sack cloth and ashes brigade that have the biggest opinions.

@MissRaspberryRipples I hope you bloody rock your dress!

I totally agree with you OP. It's great that your son is an individual and has his own style.

Now back to the point of the thread: this fancy frock of yours. It's just not a dignified thing to do!

But I suspect you know that, don't you.

I'd have paid that money regardless, 2022 could have been out best year yet and she'd still have worn a red carpet ready dress

That's exactly what I said. You implied that you did it because it'd been a shit year.

You and I probably have very different values, so I really wouldn't expect us to agree on what's cool or faux cool. We clearly don't share a sense of humour, because I was being facetious anyway.

Are you being ironic?

Why are you trying to encourage the OP to look old fashioned?

Seriously? Firstly, that’s terrible fashion advice and secondly, the son clearly has his own great, unique taste. If he’s got the confidence to wear what he wants to his prom then he already has the solid mates and confidence to brush off any ridiculous comments from any kids who somehow might get to see photos that are never being made public.

Christ, you've got it all worked out, haven't you. That's hilarious.

Per Una indeed.

I was able to read what you said, I was agreeing saying yes I would still have paid all that, I was pointing out with the background information that we don't know what's going on in other people's lives that can make small thing seem really important. You then turned nasty and ran away with it, as if I was making excuses, I wasnt, I didn't need to. Any implication was perceived incorrectly I can assure you.
As for your passive aggressive values comment, enjoy your snipiness, I completely agree after your comments I very much doubt we do share the same ones.
I won't be engaging further, I given the OP my opinion and you and I clearly are not going to agree.
I wish you and your family happiness and really hope your partner is doing as well as he can, illness and it's affects are unfair to all.