AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

I love your son isn't afraid to be himself and I do love the suit. But I do feel you getting a purple dress, albeit not the exact shade, is still too date like, as if you were coordinating deliberately as a couple. If I were you I'd just buy another equally nice dress in a different colour. And that also means if you son wants to re-use his suit for another function, he doesn't have to ask you not to wear your purple dress if you don't have one. So yes to lovely mum/son photos, no to matching colours please.

Posh Spice is that you?

Is your name Anne Flynn?

Yeah this is super weird and creepy. He’s your son not your prom date. My son would be mortified and I would never dream of embarrassing him like this. Will his mates see you dressed up like that? Toe curling. Poor kid.

Puts me in mind of this

sorry but it’s odd!

Cringe! You’ll make your son a laughing stock

I'm a long serving Secondary school teacher who has attended many proms:

-It's a bit 'out of the ordinary' however, definitely more socially acceptable if it's just for photos in the garden (as long as your son is genuinely happy about it and you are sensitive to how he reacts when you ask him. Any hint of the fact it would embarrass him, then I'd change your plans and not wear the purple dress.)

-His jacket is fab. One thing I adore about prom is that all the students really use it as an opportunity to be themselves and I've seen some brilliant outfits over the years. It's not the first 'steam punk' style jacket I've seen and I doubt it will be the last. The kids won't call him 'Willy Wonka' as generally teens in this generation are a lot more accepting of each other and prom night always feels special as they are all trying to soak up their last night as a year group. It definitely has that 'end of an era' feel which brings people together.

If I found out my DH had a photo like you're wanting I would have the biggest ick ever and my vagina would shrivel up and clamp shut.
When it was my son’s prom I had just got a new car, so he wanted me to be his chauffeur. I did not dress up for the occasion in a driving cap and gloves. Instead I opted for leggings and a tshirt. When we got there we saw a mum and dad getting out of their car wearing what looked wedding attire. They were definitely the odd ones out.

Bitty

its weird.

your going to look like the purple ones in the quality streets tin.

Literally 🤮

Like 98% of voters, I voted YABU.

Reading all your later posts, the nuance of what you are doig has considerably changed from the original buying of a dress specially to 'match' your son on his prom night.
In the title, and your opening post, YABU.

Had you asked
"My ds is going to prom soon, AIBU to put something a bit smarter on and ask my partner to take a few photos of us together, as most photos of us are in hiking gear or on the beach? I'm not going to post them on social media, and I'm not taking the photos at the venue, just in the garden before he leaves."

You'd probably have got 98% of people saying YANBU.
But you didn't say that.
You said you have gone and bought yourself a new dress specifically to 'match' his prom suit. That is weird.
It is only later in the thread you said you won't post them anywhere and you won't actually be where anyone else can see when they are taken. That was pretty relevant to the way people are going to feel about it.

Are you in the USA? That would explain the weirdness which flows down from the top of society.

Absolutely fucking not.

He’ll be cringing himself half to death.

Oh and if any of his future GF see it, well that’s the sort of unhinged behaviour that marks you out as a future MIL from hell.

Are you actually insane??? What is going on tonight….a woman is asking if she can wear the same colour as her son in a photo….and apparently this will doom her to a lifetime of MIL from hell accusations. I mean sweet Jesus she just wants to wear a purple dress and her son has said he likes the idea. Calm the fuck down.

in the words of McFly ‘it’s all about you’! Take your dress back and make the day 100% about your child!!

They’re not wearing matching outfits, they are just both wearing purple. It’s not like Christmas pyjamas or something. Every child I know that has had a prom have taken pictures with their family beforehand. I am so baffled as to why people think it’s weird. She’s not even going to the prom or sharing pics on socials.

These responses calling her a creep, weirdo, incestuous, future mil from hell etc are quite honestly disgusting.

Sorry, but this is extremely OTT

I wouldn’t care about the cringe. You’re not famous, not posting it. How many quirky, cute photos do we get in life?

Your first mistake was asking here. 90% seem to be scared of their kids. My son would roll his eyes but he’d do it. Just like in life he’s been an absolute idiot and I’ve rolled my eyes and got on with it.

Sorry, but this is extremely OTT

Absolutely no!

This must be some sort of new hell. I have never known anyone take photos of themselves with their kids on prom or leavers. Weird.

Please, please don’t do this.