AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

@MissRaspberryRipples has been asked this multiple times but ignored.

Attention seeking

There was no need for you to start the thread as your friends, colleagues and son are all saying it’s 100% fine

but you have doggedly pursued it anyway

sucker for punishment

Well I'm not American either. I was talking about university graduation ceremonies, not school.

Goodness me, sorry but this is sooooo cringe to even think it!

Whilst it's not everyone's idea of a good idea. Why not just say nooooo their teen wouldn't like it it's not something that they would personally do. is it really fair to go as far as saying I want to be my son's date/girlfriend etc?that is actually fucking sick. I asked if what my partner said was unnecessarily mean I didn't expect to be accused of wanting to commit incest with my own child!!!

If you feel “fucking sick” as I’m sure your DS would if he knew what you were on your
phone doing - then leave the thread. It really is that simple

Seems too much.
How does your son feel about this as mine would tell me a definite no !
It could be quite embarrassing.
i was happy to stay in the background.

All the prom photos I’ve seen with parents the parents are just in their normal clothes! On my DTs prom day I was too busy helping them get ready to bother about how I looked! Hope your son has a great night!

Excuse me but where in my post did I say anything like that. I said it was weird, and by weird I meant a coordinated purple outfit would look OTT and not appropriate . In my opinion, it would look odd. I didnt say anything about incest. I wasnt even thinking along those lines.

I didn't say you did. You asked why I posted. I pointed out that was it fair for others to say stuff like that

How embarrassing for him 🤦‍♀️

Weird sorry, can’t imagine how I’d have felt if my mum got an outfit matching my prom dress and wanted photos :/

What? Your poor son! I don’t recall having pics with my parents at my prom it was all about my friends and I. That’s so weird!

I don’t think it’s strange to want to have some nice photos taken with your child.

But the night of his prom isn’t the right time. It’s his night to celebrate with his friends. You are inserting yourself into an occasion that isn’t yours by wearing an outfit that matches his.

If you want a family photo with coordinating outfits then do that on a different day.

Is your son's name Howard?

My kids prom pictures are with their mates and boy/girlfriends. Your role is to take a couple of snaps, give him lifts and otherwise step away. Save the dress for his wedding

I think it's lovely. I went to see my son arrive at his prom 4 years ago and took photos and a video of him on the red carpet and with his friends, lots of parents did that. It was really nice seeing them all arrive, some of them I had known since antenatal classes.

OP, even despite all of your updates you are still acting in a really weird way. To want to match your son is really not on. I can just imagine in years to come and your son has a serious girlfriend (or boyfriend) and this photo comes to light. You really are going to be one of those MILs.

I’m sorry OP that’s bananas.

It’s his night. Let him enjoy it with his friends, and take a very far back seat.

In the nicest possible way, that is cringe.

But that’s not the same thing. Having a photo taken isn’t the same as buying and wearing a matching outfit.

Why do you think it’s lovely to wear a matching outfit to your sixteen year old on the night of his prom?

Do you have any other narcissistic tendancies?

My son wouldn’t have even had a photo by himself had he gone let alone with me. It’s photos of him and his mates not you. It’s not your night because you got him through school. You’re overly invested in what is just a party.

Cringe 😬

DH has told you it’s weird, 99% of posters on here have told you it’s weird, yet you’re still going to do it because let’s face it….you are bloody WEIRD.

Why even start a thread to ask for opinions if your just going to ignore them and do it anyway?