AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Very much against the grain here but honestly, if you’re talking a couple of photos in the garden before he goes, and he is happy to do that, I think it’s fine. If you are attending pre-prom or are planning to take pics at the actual prom it might be out of cinque with how others are doing it, so it may be embarrassing.
I guess you’re just seeing it as a chance to get a rare nice picture with him!

DO NOT DO THIS its pure madness. It's not about you.

I have to say I hate this Americanised Prom business. My daughter left school in 1998 and they had a 6th Form dance. What was wrong with that?

Your poor son, how embarrassing!

Is it either matching purple dress or “total scruff “ with you @MissRaspberryRipples?

Noooooo definitely not attending his prom he's going with friends and their mum's aren't tagging along either

Does your son know you’re spending the evening posting about him, his outing outfit, fact he’s not interested in girls etc on mumsnet?

I've three past prom times and haven't seen mothers in anything other than jeans or their everyday clothes.

This is seriously weird.

It is not your prom

He will get pelters from his friends

Anyone who you show pictures to will think you're a proper needy weird mother

Stop making it about you, take a back seat where you belong.

You will embarrass your DS. Don't do this. Let him have his night in his purple suit. Keep your purple dress for another time. I didn't even take photos of ds and me together. All photos were of just ds.

I didn't state that my son is gay like you and others have insinuated on here I said he's not bothered about having a girlfriend - there's a difference. Just because he's not bothered now doesn't automatically mean he's interested in boys. He's actually more bothered about getting on in school and doing his exams rather than hanging around getting girlfriends all the time because he doesn't need a relationship status to define him and his personality

There are some very odd people on this thread. Love the jacket and his ability to be himself at the age of 16. There is fuck all wrong with sticking a nice dress on for a nice photo with your son in your own damn garden!! I hope he enjoys the evening.

It’s not weird to want a pic of your son on his prom night, though I’d have thought if anything both parents would be in it? To pick a same colour dress, but not the same shade, is odd though. You want to nicely contrast, not twin.
My son did have a GF for his prom but he was one of maybe three couple in the year? With my DD there was only one actual couple, so not sure what everyone is going on about. But it’s HIS night. You buying a dress specifically smacks of you trying to muscle in. The photos should be of him and his mates. Not him and his mother.

As a mum of a 16 yr old boy… do not do this. The evening is about him not the parents and it will be quite strange to have his mum matching him. Are you going to the prom?? With my son it would be, drop him at the front door and go.

Thanks. It seems most on here seem to think it's an incestuous thing to do because I'm apparently trying to look like his date and it's weird. Like is it weird now to make an effort for a prom yet if I was in the States and this was a graduation thing it would be fine
Double standards comes to mind

I think your son’s suit is lovely, but I really think you’re taking this too far.
I went to my DD friends before prom and had a couple of informal photos, but all the parents were in normal clothes. If one of the Mums had turned up in an evening gown it would have been really weird and cringey.
I know you’re just staying at home, but it is still weird and cringey.
You don’t need to dress up at all.

Aww this is so sweet and weird.
What does your son say? Ask him without telling him you have actually purchased the dress.
If you get the reaction of him rolling around cracking up with laughter or a look or sheer horror, then take the dress back.
He might be easy going and just let you do it as he finds you sweet and doesnt mind silly fun things. it depends on your son really. But I would ask him first.

My sons favourite colour is purple too. He is a very boyish boy but hes not that bothered about 'must only wear blue or black as I am a boy'. Purple is a great colour.

This has vibes of MiL’s dressing in bridal dresses at their sons wedding

With respect, this is a bit weird and you'll probably get laughed at and make things uncomfortable for your son. This really isnt what parents do at Proms and I'm.not sure what gave you the idea it is ok.

I really hope you are joking. It's his night.
My year 11 son would be ashamed if I suggested this, get a grip women !

jesus fucking shit. Do you want him to the Y11 laughing stock?

Oh my god that is so bad. It wouldn’t have occurred to me to have my photo taken with either DS.

but is your ds happy with you detailing his very outing prom outfit, the fact he is not interested in girls (and of course that doesn’t mean he’s gay but it’s his business who or what he’s interested in ) your plans for your outfit on his night?

I'm also not sure what gave you and other posters the idea to state that it's disgusting/weird/incestuous to want to make an effort to have some nice photos taken with my child without taking the piss and ridiculing it like it's some cheap joke to be shared either. The Mumsnet bullying is really on full form

Umm you do you as long your son is fine with it but I personally wouldn’t and didn’t do that. I can’t even remember what I was wearing in my daughter’s prom photos (wasn’t in many at all as it was my daughter and her friends not their parents) but no one was dressed up unless they were going to the prom.

Well why did you ask then. It's not normal and you got people's opinion on that.