AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

I think a photo with your son is nice, but no he’s 16 please don’t do the matching colour thing…. don’t embarrass him. It is his night not yours.

I hope he has a wonderful time.

Nowt wrong with the purple jacket. My ds dresses like a Victorian fop all the time. He wears a lot of velvet, waistcoats, steampunk get up and sometimes, an honest to God top hat. He looks bloody brilliant and is happy in his own skin. I'm pretty sure he will be dressed in similar clothes at his prom.

I havent RTFT but this is giving me D&V Beckham vibes with matching purple. Big cringe as my teen would say. If it matters so much to you - wear another colour and get AI to change it afterwards so no need to embarrass yourself or your son

80% of mums are mums of boys. Do you honestly think 80% of mums are 'like this' and the 20% with only girls are somehow a different and superior type of mum?

For one we're not in America so he won't have some huge graduation ceremony. He will have a leavers assembly once his exams are all finished and then his prom a few weeks later
I'm not attending any of them

Nothing wrong with a velvet jacket, sounds like a tux. Sounds very smart. The OP on the other hand….

You're joking, surely? Please tell me this isn't real...

We had photos at home before both of my children’s proms. We put on some nibbles and some fizz before they went off and took some photos. I also (along with most of the other parents) went to the venue to watch them arrive in cars, limos, tractors, motorbike sidecars, had a chat with other parents outside and then went home (reconvened in the car park at midnight for the pick up!) All of this is pretty normal as far as social media posts suggest.
I presume this is what OP is planning albeit with a colour coordinated outfit, not that she’s actually planning to go to the prom.

Very odd. It doesnt seem to matter what anyone says, this lady is going to what she likes. Dont waste your energy. Your husband/partner is right - dont do it. If you need to take a pic, make it quick in your jeans and slippers like the rest of us.

Absolutely not.

Thanks..to be fair I posted the question considering my partner said what he did- he isn't even my children's dad. He can be overly opinionated sometimes but then clearly most of these on here agree with him..they're taking it too far with the incest comments though just because I feel I could make a nice effort to look nice for a couple of photos with my own son. And as for taking the piss out of a 16 year old lads choice of outfit it's bullying behaviour in my opinion
I'm not about to overtake his prom so I have no reason to leave the post in a huff. I won't be returning the dress either as I like it and it will be used at other times also like a nice night out because it's not some puffed up glamorous dress that's only worthy of a prom or a wedding

Btw I’ve been vocal on here about how I think you wearing a matching dress/dressing up for a photo with him is weird. I strongly stick with that.
BUT I don’t think there is anything wrong with your son wanting to be original and wear whatever he wants to wear. Purple velvet/steampunk is not my vibe; but that’s irrelevant and I’m sure that he will look fantastic.
it’s not on for other posters to criticise HIS outfit choice as it’s his prom, and you didn’t ask for our opinion on it.

I've changed my mind OP, from my first vote. I think your plan is sweet actually and your son sounds fantastic.

Hope he has a great time.

please don’t wear the dress. if you really insist on colour co-ordination, a purple tshirt/vest top/jumper/cardigan will more than suffice.

Oh dear, it's his prom not his wedding.

just wave him off, wearing your jeans and tee shirt or whatever you usually wear. No need for a photo shoot, it's not your prom.

poor child.

OP I have no idea why everyone is being so mean to you, looks like all the high school bullies have come out tonight.

To be fair I don’t think your son will even notice what colour you’re wearing if I know teenage boys…so just go with whatever makes you feel good.

Someone said you could change your vote on MN....I cant seem to.
I voted YABU, but as the thread has progressed I have changed my mind; YANBU.

Having your pic taken (not in front of his classmates) and not going anywhere near the prom with him....what's the harm?

I hope you get a good photo, and I hope your son enjoys his prom immensely.

He likes the idea and I really don't want to look like a total scruff having a nice photo with my son lol. I'll have been at work all morning so definitely not having a pic of me in my work stuff

Well if he likes the idea then that’s all you need to know - I’d delete this thread and crack on with your plans

Well said.

Yeah I think it’s the matching colours that make it weird. You aren’t his date.

This never occured to me on my Dds prom night and I wish it had. We had photos taken in the garden before she went to prom, and there I was in jeans and a blouse, I was a bit gutted afterwards that I never thought to make an effort, I think you should go for it

Not sure what everyone's issue is.

You want to wear a lovely dress for matching photos with your own child before he goes to prom with his friends. And he's okay with that.

OP, if it will make you happy, and he doesn't mind, sod everyone else and do it. It's your life. And purple is a FANTASTIC colour choice.

What if she is just wanting to keep the photos for herself? She wouldn't be a laughing stock if no one else saw them

i dont think there’s anything wrong with using the opportunity for a few nice photos, it’s not like you’re turning up to prom or his friends will be there. You might as well go for a nice dinner with your husband given you’ll be dressed up!