AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

As Mumsnet always says “‘no’ is a complete sentence”

@MissRaspberryRipples
I understand the excitement about your sons prom but,
I'm assuming he's arranged himself a plus one already for the evening.
So am feeling slightly gooseberry for you right now........

Ah you went too far with the velvet!! It was so good up to that. Thanks so much for a great thread.

Maybe he could go in this car:

ffs, OP 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Is this satire?

What I really truly don’t understand OP, is why you don’t just wear a normal nice summer dress, and put on a bit of makeup if you want to, and have some nice photos taken with him. That in itself is not strange if you want to do that for some nice photos with him.

You don’t have to cosplay as your child’s prom date by wearing a matching purple formal dress. It’s so SO beyond weird in so many ways and on so many levels.
Are you going to buy yourself a matching corsage? You may as well- that’s how bizzare this all comes across!!

You sound like you struggle not being the main character, this event isn’t about you. You’re not going to prom. You’re not his date- stop dressing like you wish to be.

you do need to stop this now and listen- take on everyone’s advice, we are all saying the same thing!
you definitely will be the mother in law from hell if you don’t do some self reflection and change.
and I agree with previous posters saying you will be that nightmare that turns up to your sons wedding in a white wedding dress.

I honestly can’t see how you think this is normal or ok?!

Riiiiiiiggghghgtttt...

Right!

Why even ask for opinions when you’re clearly going to do it? Poor kid.

Jeez it's nothing like that whatever you've posted. My son chose the first jacket himself not realising it was a velvet type material until it turned up. It is a nice steampunk design as that's what he liked the look of and he may still wear it yet depending on how warm the weather is on the day

He’s going to get called Willy wonka.

🙄

This has to be a wind up.

I think it's fine to take photos before he goes and you can look nice in them.

But don't match

Don't be so fucking horrible.

I like it OP, he's got a great individual style.

And you're supposed to be an adult? Fancy being so horrible about a teenagers choice of prom jacket. He likes it else he wouldn't have chosen it..grow up seriously

To be fair to the OP, prom round here was last week (Scotland) and for a slightly older age group, 17.5 to 18.5 rather than 16 year olds. Kids don't take "dates" to prom. It's just not a thing, they all go in big mixed groups. DS had three friends here before they all met up at another friend's house, there was about 16 of them, split 50/50 boys and girls. None of the mums did fancy photos.

Maybe keep it for a family end of exams / results day celebration that's separate to the school prom.

No way. I have photos of me and ds pre prom (of course) but I'm wearing jeans and a vest top. Why would you dress to match him. It's unusual and a bit weird tbh.

That’s odd. Really odd. Go the whole hog and write to Dave and Vicky Beckham and ask if their purple wedding suits are free then you and your husband and son can have a lovely family photo #makingmemories
I am only kidding. If your son is happy with the scenario then you carry on. It is odd though.

Oh, stop it.

It's ridiculous.

Cringe

Ahh just enjoy it! I love an excuse for a new outfit 😍

Thanks that's the thing my son isn't a sheep and doesn't follow a trend-if he likes something he will wear it and doesn't give two fucks if it isn't to everyone else's taste and style expectations. At least he won't look like a duplicate of everyone else