AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

[MissRaspberryRipples]

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

If he is happy with it why are you even asking
Main chararcter syndrome taking over

Perhaps your DS has a quiet word with your partner @MissRaspberryRipples that he is not happy about this?

I think it’s sweet. It’s not like you’re going to the prom, it’s just a few pictures at home. So what?

YABU to buy an outfit specifically to match.

Just wear a dress that you already own if you don't want to wear jeans or whatever.

Whatever happened to the leavers disco?

Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

No, he's not being unnecessarily mean. If anything, he is being fairly restrained.

First thing - I call a wind up. ⬆️ f it’s not a windup, are you mad? If anyone outside you family sees you (a date?) they will think you are off your rocker. And I say this as a woman who has five sons!

Sorry op, it’s giving Goldberg vibes.

Too staged. Too me me me. It’s your boys big moment. Let him shine.

It looks charming when you see those natural pictures of proud parents in casual clothes with their child looking wonderful. This is not about you.

Creepy.

Sorry but I agree with everyone else, it’s proper creepy/cringey. I have a lovely photo of me and DS taken on his prom night, I’m wearing a summer dress (the same one I’d worn all day and definitely NOT coordinated). You can look nice in a picture without going OTT

On reflection, this is one of those posts where someone asks a question and when they receive an answer they will just debate it because they are convinced they are right.

Right OP, you’ve had the response and vote results. ARE YOU GOING TO RETURN THE DRESS?

Oh no you mustn’t!! The poor boy!

Course she's not. Despite 98% of people thinking it's weird and cringey, she is persisting with her marvellous plan.

Its not something I would or did.

When both sons had their proms, the sales assistant asked them what colour dresses their date was wearing and matched their ties with the colour of the suit. This looked good without being over bearing.

That’s too far OP 😬

I did think that's nice, if you keep it to photos in the house and don't rock up at the prom.
It's a bit like The Princess of Wales, when everyone has to match though, almost like the kids are all mini her.
As PP said you don't have to match for a lovely picture.

You actually bought an outfit to match your son's prom outfit? That is just beyond wierd. I can never ever imagine doing something so odd. How in any shape or form did his prom night warrant a matching outfit for you? I think this post is a joke.

And she will wear cream white on her son’s wedding day and say but it was cream. I was just wearing something I could wear another day. To look nice in the photos. My son didn’t complain out loud mind.

Ooh, it's a bit cringe 😬 but if you won't be seen outside with him and the photos are kept between yourselves, then go for it.

Good god no! Nothing wrong with having a photo together in your normal clothes but a matching outfit? I would have been mortified if my mum did this to me and I’m a DD. It’s just so weird. You clearly love your son but you need to cut the apron strings.

I’m sure someone’s said it already, but even Amanda in Amandaland didn’t go that far.

@MissRaspberryRipples my DD20 had her prom in 2022. We went all out, school hadn't been easy, we'd had a horrible year involving nearly losing my DH, we lost MIL and DD herself was in an accident.
I went against the whole of mumsnet, who's children are apparently so cool they'll only wear charity shop prom dresses or a bargain dress that cost a tenner! Prom cost us a fortune and I don't regret one single penny at all.
I got changed into a dress when I got home for pictures. It wasn't anything particularly special but I made sure it wouldn't clash with her dress. My DH (her DF) had pics in workwear and my parents wore nice smart casual outfits. One of her friends who is 8 years older than her turned up for photos and had made an effort too.
Wear the dress, have the pics and I hope you cherish them, I know I do 4 years later. I love them all, my DH in workwear ones too.

I agree with your partner. Why are you making it about you. Matching with your teenage son is cringe.