AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Awww. This is not something I’d do but it’s not necessarily wrong- depends entirely how your DS feels about it! Does he know you’re planning to dress up in coordinating colours for photos?

I did have my photo taken with my DS on his prom night but I was in my gym kit as I’d come straight from work.

Wow, going a bit far, super unkind and unnecessary.

Maybe not but still there's a few comments on here suggesting I'm making it about myself because I wanted to make an effort for some nice photos, which I guess that's what this poster did too fair they attended their daughter's prom too but still.

Im sorry but that is a bit cringe.

they didn't wear outfits that match and she teaches at the school
huge difference

I think it's more of a semi traditional thing for parents to be in pictures with their kids, dressed casually, to illustrate and contrast with their child's nice outfit before they leave for their Prom.

Yes he saw the dress and he's ok with it, after all it's only making an effort for a photo. He's taking himself to prom with his friends I'm not taking him there. And it's not being plastered all over Facebook either if anything his photos will be shared with family like aunts and uncles

Cringe

That poster worked at the school so presumably was working the prom and dressed suitably for their job for the night.

It wasn’t just mummy or daddy playing at being their prom date. If it’s really no big deal and it’s just fun then your dh and other children will all be as dressed up for the photos no? Just for nice pictures rather than just his mum…

This is one of the weirdest things I have read on mumsnet. I am cringing.

But the PP wasn't attending his daughter's prom. He was attending the prom at the school where he is a teacher (and which he may well attend every year with his colleagues), and it just so happened that that particular year his DD was also attending as she was a Y11 pupil.

No. Because 1) they didn’t match, and 2) they had to dress up to attend as they taught there. You are being WAY too involved in what should be HIS moment, not yours. Why aren’t you listening to the very many people here telling you it’s not normal and it’s kinda creepy??

Giving VB

Yes a few friends in work know and they said they'd be the same for some nice mum and child pics on their prom nights too

I'm trying not to be unkind but it's a bit too much that you have bought a new dress and shoes, which you describe as matching your son's prom suit. Fine to have some family photos before he sets off but you really are going to look like you're his date/trying to look like you're his date. (Unless the whole family wear purple, that might work, but don't take any pictures of just the two of you.)

I guess we know who the 2% who voted YANBU are then 😆

Why have you bothered asking for opinions?

OMFG 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sure you did 😆 🤣

You accuse the OP of using an overly formal word then come out with a poncy overly academic word like “Latinate” on a chat forum on a thread about something inconsequential? 🤣 What a pointless hypocritical post! And no, my English isn’t perfect either but I’m not the one pulling posters up when her posts have been perfectly understandable.

This is surely a wind up.

So everyone thinks it’s fine apart from your dh so you thought you’d ask mumsnet who go OMG NOOOOO don’t do it.

But then go but everyone else says it’s fine 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ why ask 😂😂🤣

Yes! It would feel weird too if OP said both she and her partner were dressing up in new purple clothes and shoes for the photos with the son in his purple suit. Frankly, it's the 'I like making an effort' part that feels so odd when the night is about the son and his classmates, not the parents.