AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Oh my god please don’t do this

Yikes - think again Mum!

To me, it sounds like your DH is a bit too dismissive of your project. What he should be thinking, perhaps, is that he could be suggesting more opportunities for you as a couple to put your (potentially purple) glad rags on and go out more and sprinkle some stardust on life.

Oh c'mon mum, give your 16 yr old DC a chance to shine in his purple prom gear without you doing the matchy-matchy with his outfit! Photos ( hopefully taken before the event, and at home) with mum would look OTT if you dressed to impress like you were part of a duo act.
Let him have his time, with his friends, on this special evening, without mum showing everyone at the event ( which I hope you didn't mean you were attending) that you are visually an important part of his prom experience.

Why would I vote on my own post really?

This.

Fuck.

I mean, no one at work is going to call you an attention seeking loon to your face are they? Of course they agreed. Prom pics with parents are a thing but usually with parents casual to show the contrast not taking over the occasion and dressing up for 5 minutes of photos.

Don’t do that !!

If true, this is giving Arrested Development "Motherboy" vibes

People are going to be more honest on here. It's far more difficult to have that conversation with someone you have to work with or see regularly. Colleague telling you that she is planning something that you think is totally batshit crazy and cringe - you hmmm and say very little because you have to work with her and telling her what you really think is going to go down like a bucket of cold sick.

Have you cut the labels off the purple dress or can you still return it?

Very true. It’s the type of thing my friend would text me about her bat shit college. Like you’ll never guess what weird Wendy said today 😂😂😂😩

I always vote on my own posts. I don't think you can see the poll results until you have voted?

Or am I doing it wrong?

That’s mean.

i do think it’s making it all about you tho, OP. You need to dial it back a bit.

I think, if we’re being fussy about language here, you ADVISED the OP not to wear the dress and shoes, rather than told her. I don’t quite understand your issue with purchased rather than bought, but even if you had a point, it’s very arrogant to criticise someone else’s use of a word just because you ‘hate’ it. Would you say that out loud to someone in real life? Actually, don’t answer that!

I reckon my Son would be mortified if I did this and probably refuse to have his picture taken.Each to their own though as long as your boy is happy with this do what makes you happy.I think your mind is made up.anyway.

Oh God no.

I went to the prom solely because I had a year 11 tutor group and it's tradition. I was very careful to make sure I wore a v different colour and style, took a selfie at dd's request and then stayed away from her. I even left after an hour - normally tutors stay all night - to give her space.

I posted to acknowledge that there are rare circumstances when a parent might dress up for a child's prom and even then, I was really careful about what I did!

At DD’s school the prom is for kids and parents so everyone dresses up and it’s totally normal to have photos with parents. So it doesn’t sound that weird to me, but if the event is only for him
then yeah, don’t do it. Watch the Amandaland finale.

Beverly Goldberg, is that you?

I think you should do it Op (I mean, you are obviously going to), but I think your DP should be more supportive and also wear a purple outfit. I think you should have photos done with all three of you in your matching outfits with your son modelling each of his purple suits. I also think your son should wear one suit to the prom and then change into the second suit for the second half of the prom.

You're welcome.

Or Moira Rose from Schitt's Creek...😆

My DD graduated last year, her gown was black with red trim, I wore a black top with red in it, so we matched,

Please don’t, by all means look nice, but not in a dress, especially not one that’s coordinated with his suit.

get a lovely picture of yourself on prom night before he goes of you and your son, not a creepy one that will make literally everyone ask WTF!