Told someone I was pregnant today…

[BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw]

…and they asked if it was planned! 🤦‍♀️

I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years.

AIBU to think this was a bit of an odd response?!

The poster seriously lacks social skills or is purposefully trying to antagonise people.

Ofcourse it's obvious you will keep it if you're talking about it so I don't really see the harm in the question 🤷‍♀️ People don't really care that much so it's just a mundane question in my book. Some people plan and some have surprises- that's life.

They've antagonised me and my pregnancy days are well behind me!
If anyone had asked me that when I told them I was pregnant they would have been told to f* off and never spoken to again

Same. It's a fucking ridiculous question to ask. Suggests lack of intelligence tbh

I totally agree some people have no class

what is it with these people?

in his mind, he was playing the ultimate advisor and paternal guidance expert, who everyone waited on with baited breath to hear his latest TEDx pearls of wisdom

when in in fact, he was a boundary-crossing tool with the awareness of a mouldy chicken paste and cucumber sarnie

You must really struggle with human relationships.

Its not really but it is kinda interesting and its not something i would mind answering. People ask semi personal questions a lot. Isn't it just part of conversation?

It's a rude question to ask someone, but not an odd one - being married for two years doesn't mean you have to be planning a baby. However, it's no-one's business whether it was planned or not. Congratulations!

Not at all i would of thought its more of a struggle for people who tip toe around each other and are to scared to talk to their friends and family.

Yeah but I don’t think you’d be announcing the pregnancy if you weren’t keeping it would you

It's a stupid question to ask anyone so not sure why I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years. is relevant. Would you think it were OK to ask someone like me who has two children and no interest in marriage?

😀

I once had a lovely shop assistant pass my test through her till and very gently said 'I hope you get the result you are hoping for' which I guess may have upset some people but it was her mannerism that felt kind.
I'd brought the test after an ectopic pregnancy, to find out if my hormones had finally dropped. It was nice that she didn't automatically assume it would be a positive thing to be positive.

This reminds me of me of when I had my second child. I had an elective c section and obviously the surgeon came to chat to me in pre op, went over the surgery etc and then went on to discuss birth control options for after. It was the way he worded it. Like right now how do we stop you getting into this mess again haha. I’m married mid 30s, 2nd, very much planned child and I felt like I was being scolded for giving birth and being pregnant.

this is lighthearted, I get he was doing his job and it’s probably protocol and for a lot of people needed but I found it quite funny.

My sister told her partner she was pregnant with their 3rd, he said oh thats nice whos is it.
5 seconds later he paused then looked at her like a dear in headlights, ooooo ha haaaa it sank in what she had just said.
Baby is now 21 years.

You know very well what you were implying with stating that homeownership brings a little thing called financial stability and security It implies loudly that non-homeowners don’t have that! You’re being deliberately obtuse and are just pretending to not understand.

What nerve’s that then? I’m a homeowner with no mortgage due to inheritance. What nerve has been hit exactly???

You’re really showing your ignorance now! Plenty of people live in social housing due to disabilities, death of a spouse, complex situations. Doesn’t make them in any way ‘less than’. What a ridiculous question.
Also, I think you’ll find that regardless of children, your home CAN & WILL be repossessed if you fail to pay for it! Regardless of what country you’re in, it’s not a free for all.
Re: the thread being turned into a battleground, I think you’ll find that plenty of other posters have done that!

Ah yes, allow me to mansplain to you. Woman to woman.

Unintended results of male-centric healthcare.

These foolios honest to God think if you haven’t popped one out by 30 for family Christmas card reasons, that you’ll just never “get around to it” or “feel broody” 🙄

Do you know how many women go through invasive fertility treatment BEFORE their spouse even gets his sperm checked?

100% of all IVF and probably 99.8% of ICI (don’t fucking @ me about your turkey baster, you 0.2%).

Why exactly does a woman getting a shoehorn up her fafallywong strike ANYONE as the appropriate test BEFORE you make a dude whose sperm is probably filled with microplastics give a painless sample?!

Sorry. Some shit trumpet asking you if it was planned got me all het up 😂 We should probably just be glad at least half of them have figured out we don’t pee out our vaginas.

The one that has made you angrily copy and paste the same reponse on every post you can - you sound invested and a bit obsessed

What's wrong with being 39?

@cuckoolodger 😂😂😂

Nothing if thats what you want for me personally to old to be having kids.

Sometimes people don’t know how to react so they just say the first thought that pops up.

If you have twins you get the most ridiculous comments (speaks from experience…)
are they identical (they’re a boy and a girl)
did you plan twins
are they “natural” 🙄
etc etc